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I think my daughter is going to die

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maise ( member #69516) posted at 2:25 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Omgosh I am so deeply sorry. You are in my thoughts, sending you so much love.

BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorcing

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 3:07 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

馃檹馃檹馃檹Praying for you and your precious daughter 馃檹馃檹馃檹

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 4:31 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

So very sorry.
Sending Prayers.

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gmc94 ( Guide #62810) posted at 5:54 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Just now saw this and sending prayers and strength.

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 6:44 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Prayers for you both!

Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447) posted at 12:07 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

I鈥檓 just now seeing this. I have no words. My heart goes out to the both of you.

Me: WS late 40鈥檚
Him: BH (HoldingTogether)
D Day: 7/24/2010
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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 GoldenR (original poster member #54778) posted at 12:23 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Thank you, everyone.

Unfortunately, it was determined yesterday afternoon that she was brain dead. Her organs will be harvested soon for donation. Once they finish, she will be removed from life support and her body will pass there in the operating room.

When the aneurysm hit I was right next to her. She grabbed her head and screamed that her head hurt. I held her in my arms as they rushed to give her pain meds, as she had a history of migraines when getting too much medication. She was crying, "Daddy it hurts so bad, it hurts so bad". Within seconds of getting the pain med, she was out.

Deep down I knew she was gone as that pain med usually took 15-20 mins to knock her out. I didn't know what happened, but I knew she was gone.

About 10 mins later her breathing got very labored and within an hour she was rushed to surgery.

She spent 30 years kicking her heart disease's ass. Every cardiologist and surgeon that worked on her over the years, 5 open heart surgeries worth, they all said her heart issues were the most complex they had ever experienced. They would even all admit, post surgery, that they had expected her to die. And when she didn't, they'd all refer to her a their miracle girl/miracle patient.

To have her go out like this due to strep, it's inexplicable and infuriating.

Her heart prevented her from gaining weight. She was 5'1" and about 90 lbs. She was my stick of dynamite in a firecracker body.

Of my 4 daughters, she was the sweetest. She would call me at 1201am every father's day and every birthday. She was constantly at my house, constantly inviting me to do things with her family. She leaves behind a 7 yr old little miracle child (she was told due to her heart that pregnancy would kill her. She got pregnant while on birth control, was put into the ICU 4 times during her pregnancy, and somehow lived through it all) and a fiance who is completely tore up right now.

I already miss her so much.

She died in my arms, looking in my eyes wanting me to help her. And I could do nothing.

I'm going to be a mess for a good while.

[This message edited by GoldenR at 12:33 PM, Thursday, July 28th]

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:41 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

There are no words. I cry with you. Sending prayers. crying crying crying

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:09 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

(((Golden)))
There are no words in situations like this.
I hope you are finding peace and comfort in knowing her donations can save lives. It's may not seem like much but is a huge gift to those receiving.

Take some time and allow yourself to grieve. Ask about bereavement support.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 1:11 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

She died in my arms, looking in my eyes wanting me to help her. And I could do nothing.

Oh gosh Dear Sir...what you did wasn't "nothing". What you did was BE THERE to hold her. We can all only WISH to have someone who LOVES us with that much love holding us as we pass from this world to the next. SHE HAD THAT. What a BLESSING you were to her at that point in her life. It had to have been heartbreaking for you (((HUGS)))...but it was very much a comfort for her to have you there at that particular moment.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your sweet miracle child crying .

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 1:12 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Oh GoldenR I am so very sorry. Hugs.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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ff4152 ( member #55404) posted at 1:42 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

GoldenR I am so very sorry for your loss.

Me -FWS

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 1:43 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Oh, no.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

A parent is never supposed to outlive their child! 馃ゲ馃ゲ馃ゲ

I will tell you this, I was a daddy鈥檚 girl. There is nothing quite like that bond. And there is nothing like the safety that a daddy鈥檚 girl feels when her daddy is holding her. You feel like you can face anything.

That鈥檚 one thing you gave her at that moment. There鈥檚 absolutely no way to imagine what that was worth鈥 To either one of you.

I鈥檓 so very sorry. .

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 2:27 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

I am so sorry to read your update this morning! Thoughts to you and your family.

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iggyb ( member #74562) posted at 2:43 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Heartbreaking. My deepest condolences. 馃挃

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

I'm so, so sorry. crying My heart is aching for you and your family. crying

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whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 3:04 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

My deepest condolences for your loss. We grieve with you.

What Want2BHappyAgain said and then some. What you did was not nothing, it was everything! You were there with her and she knew it and her last moments were not alone but in your loving, caring arms.

Please be kind to yourself and take care as you navigate this unthinkable grief.

BW: 62 WH: 62 Both 57 on Dday, M 35 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays, years of trickle truth.
I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, but the lies have piled up. Trying one more time, again.

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Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 3:16 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Oh Golden, how sorry I am for your unfathomable loss. I'm crying with you as I read this. ((((Golden and his daughter))))

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:18 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

My deepest deepest condolences to you and your family. And I agree that you being there and giving her all the love for all those years was everything. It sounds like she was an amazing woman and it doesn鈥檛 surprise us when she has an amazing dad. 鉂わ笍馃檹

[This message edited by BearlyBreathing at 4:29 PM, Thursday, July 28th]

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:54 PM on Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Oh Golden, I'm so sorry. I held twins while they passed and man, it does a number on you like nothing else. I completely understand.

Sitting with you. (((Golden))))))

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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