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Superesse

Would you sign a waiver of notice in a No Fault D?

Hi all! A friend of mine who does charitable work for our church is helping someone get through his divorce, and just asked me to look at legal papers his STBX cheating wife, mother of their 4 children, sent for him to "sign off" on to finalize their No Fault Divorce (based on over one year apart, no reconciliation, and no mention of her infidelity).

The document - "Acceptance/Waiver of Service Process..." - lists a number of legal notifications the Defendant will be waiving his right to, if he signs it, one being "notice of entry of any order, judgment or decree, including the final decree of divorce."

To me, not being a legal person, that looks like the STBX is trying to save herself legal document and filing fees. Maybe this kind of sign-off document isn't a problem in this case, other than it reads like my friend will have to keep checking with the Virginia court, for example, to find out when his divorce decree gets filed. I'm just not sure that signing this waiver is a red flag in this situation (couple had no property and child custody was already verbally agreed to). Still, my friend says she doesn't trust the STBX and why this was sent, so she asked my opinion....and I'd like a more informed opinion than I can give her! Sound familiar, anyone? Unforeseen consequences, etc.? TIA

[This message edited by Superesse at 10:20 AM, April 8th (Thursday)]

6 comments posted: Thursday, April 8th, 2021

Gerry and the Pacemakers 1965 R.I.P.

Just learned that Gerry Marsden passed at age 78, and recalled that his song Ferry Cross The Mersey was playing everywhere when I was a teenager back in 1965. I'd be listening to it on an AM station coming from my blocky, battery-powered transistor radio, and it was easy to imagine his beloved land across the ocean, where everyday folks smiled at each other, and where he felt at home and accepted, as the song so poetically described. Just a touching tribute to a simpler place and time, it seems to me today.

So, "Rest In Peace" Gerry. (He didn't die of Covid). But I guess he never did leave the Land that he Loved...no matter how different it must have been, than what it was like back then. Whooooosh....what a time travel moment, listening to the youtube video (wish I could link it).

Anybody else remember?

5 comments posted: Sunday, January 3rd, 2021

Seasonal hair shedding?

Maybe I'm just getting old, but is it normal for a woman to have significant hair shedding around when colder weather arrives? I've always noticed a seasonal variation in hair shedding or loss, but can't recall what time of year.

The past month, however, I've been noticing quite a bit more hair on my brush and bedclothes than usual. (Have had the range of routine blood work which has been all pretty normal; even the TSH value, which for a long time had been borderline high. Since the beginning of the pandemic in our area, I gradually lost 25 pounds I needed to lose, I believe it was due to Covid/lockdown stress and general disinterest in eating my own cooking! Plus, I'd given up booze back in February and have been taking more vitamins than ever before, as well!)

I know there is a condition called Telegen Effluium or significant hair loss that hits about 3 months after a major illness or stress. Last time I had this was in 1987 and it was in fact 3 months after the flu and a major romantic breakup plus relocation and a job change. It was during the summer months, I recall.

But other than 2020 just SUCKING altogether, I can't pinpoint any disease crisis 3 or 4 months ago that might explain this. Way back in mid-May I was hospitalized for 3 days for a crisis electrolyte deficiency. It was a reaction to cough medicine, wouldya believe. (Delsyn...killer stuff!) I never had more than 99.6...possible residual sinus infection, they thought at the time. Whatever happened then, by late May follow-up doctor visit, I had the best blood work lab results I'd seen in many years! So now my hair decides to have a midlife crisis? (Can we just get this year OVER with already?)

[This message edited by Superesse at 10:07 PM, November 5th (Thursday)]

9 comments posted: Thursday, November 5th, 2020

Kidney stone help

Does apple cider vinegar help move a kidney stone? My WH who is a big guy, has had them several times in the past and another attack hit him last night. While waiting to get to see a doctor, would you try a sip or two of apple cider vinegar? He gets calcium stones.

Once, he was told a traditional remedy in the middle East is to drink olive oil, so he did and what do you know, it passed just 2 hours later after 2 days of agony. But it didn't work on the next one, which was too huge and needed treatment to break up.

Thanks in advance!

9 comments posted: Tuesday, October 27th, 2020

Get a Divorce for the financial benefits?

Crazy as it sounds, we just had a tax prep professional tell us there might be advantages to being "not married." As in: Divorced! Little did this professional know our true status - IHS! I quipped: "What are you saying? Are you saying we should get a Divorce? That can be arranged..." and she said "Don't laugh, I've had people who have done just that, for those reasons!"

I'd asked her to rework our late-filing 2019 return changing to "Married Filing Separately" because for all of last year, my dear WH decided to keep me in the dark about his failure to send in his business' estimated income tax payments. Now he (or legally "we," if we file jointly) owe tax interest and penalties...One of the forms she filled out on the Joint return she had started with, showed how "we" were to calculate the penalty to pay. Didn't sit too well with me after being lied to repeatedly over the years by him, having just suffered yet another D-Day (secret phone, again) and having asked him to move into our RV, so I thought it time to say "I don't want his decisions to become my responsibility."

This type of situation is what Married Filing Separately is for - even though he will pay a few hundred more, poor baby....maybe he shouldn't have lied about his finances.

But to go ahead and Divorce? I mean, I already met with a lawyer today, he said there are plusses and minuses if we stay together after D.

Do any of you know a couple who Divorced amicably just for reasons like money and tax benefits?

[This message edited by Superesse at 6:21 PM, September 24th (Thursday)]

17 comments posted: Thursday, September 24th, 2020

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