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I think my daughter is going to die

My daughter Cayce (pronounced like "Casey") is hospitalized. Shes 30 and has been a lifelong heart patient. A couple weeks ago she was having pain from an ovarian cyst. She got sick from it, ran fever and threw up quite a bit. This is normal for her a couple times a year. However this time she kept getting worse until she went to the ER Wednesday evening and a blood test revealed the worst infection they had literally ever had in that hospital.

I went up there and she looked bad. Her mouth was purple and every breath looked like it was a struggle. I thought she was going to die. She was put in the ICU. The thinking was that her cyst had created an abcess that got infected. They were sure they needed needed to do surgery but they had to bring the infection down first. They ran all kinds of tests and did an echo since she's a heart patient.

Blood culture finally Friday afternoon revealed that she had strep. By the strangest of coincidences when she was having the cyst pain, she caught strep. She thought her throat hurt from all of the throwing up she was doing. So the strep was left untreated for so long that it got into her bloodstream.

So now the infection has spread to her heart. She was transferred via ambulance to St David's Hospital in Austin Friday night. Once they get her infection under control, she will require another open heart surgery (her 6th).

So the surgery will:

- replace her aluminum valve with a new one bc it is full of what they call "infected vegetation" which there is no getting rid of it in an artificial valve

- replace her pacemaker bc it is infected and has actually stopped working

I had no clue that metal could get an infection.

A lot of complications have arisen...

From having so many cardiac caths over the years, her right leg artery is blown. So they won't be able to use the heart lung machine on her which means they'll have to ice her down and operate on her while she is packed with ice (read: dead) for like 20 minutes at a time.

Also there is so much scar tissue where the pacemaker goes they'll have to actually remove some to put the new one in. They say it's not unheard of but they've never had to do it before and it's very risky for infections and bleeding.

To top it off she's on blood thinner which complicates everything to another level bc they'll have to take her off of it to do surgery and then hope to high heaven no blood clots form in the aluminum valve over the time that it takes for her to completely stop bleeding after the surgery. Only then will they restart her on blood thinner.

She told me that first night in the ER that she thought her luck had run out. She asked if we would help her man raise her 7 year old boy after she was gone. He himself is somewhat of a miracle child as my daughter was always told a pregnancy would kill her. Somehow she got pregnant while on bc. Was advised pregnancy offered an over 50% chance of death. She went through with it. Literally almost died 3 times during the pregnancy, and wound up with the sweetest little boy.

So surgery will happen once the infection is at a safe level.

Anyway, I'm losing my mind...

Thanks for listening.

102 comments posted: Thursday, July 28th, 2022

Waiting on sex bc she likes him; having sex right away with him bc she sees no future with him

I haven't been on much lately, for no reason other than being very busy.

I got on <redacted> a few weeks ago, and saw a lightning rod story about a guy who almost 9 months into the relationship with a girl that he was about to propose to, he finds out that she had sex with another guy the day before he and her made it official.

He goes on to say that they had been dating for 2 months, but no sex yet. He thought they were in the same wavelength so he asked her to be in an exclusive relationship. She told him to please give her the weekend to think it over. It was nothing against him, but all on her regarding if she was ready to try again after her last one ended in heartbreak when the guy cheated on her.

She calls him 3 days later and says yes that she's ready. He said the next 5 months were amazing. They had plans to move in together and he was running she was the one. Then they go to a Christmas party and this guy there comes up to her talking like he knew her very well. He then talks to the guy himself and he is told by him that they went out one time a while back. Guy thinks nothing of it. He thinks he's a nice guy. They talk a lot at the party.

2 days later he gets contacted on <redacted> by the guy. The guy asks him how long he's been with his gf. He tells him since mid-May, exckusive as of July 4th. The guy tells him he swiped right on her on 7/1, and she came to his place on 7/2 for sex and stayed the night. Turns out 7/1 was the day he asked her to be exclusive.

He confronts his gf with this info. She admits that yes, it's true. That she saw him after he swiped on her that day and couldn't get him out of her head. After texting with him for a day she knew he wasn't the one but she still wanted to have sex with him. That's why she refused to be official until 7/4, 1 day after her 2-day sex-fest with dude.

The even more messed up part is, even after going exclusive on 7/4 with the OP, they still didn't have sex until late August. She said bc she really liked him and wanted to make sure he liked her the same way.

The comments basically turned into Male V Female regarding this (of course there were a few exceptions) with the girls saying that they think what she did is fucked, but yeah, they'll have sex with a guy they see no future with quicker than they will a guy they really like.

This is mind-boggling to me. Lol.

So my question this really normal? Has it always been this way?

207 comments posted: Sunday, February 20th, 2022

No forums available if logged out?

I noticed if I'm not logged in, I can't get into any forum. Is it supposed to be that way?

1 comment posted: Saturday, March 20th, 2021

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