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What Do You Call The Affair Partner?

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 12:28 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Mine is Snag. It's because she looks like a dentist pulled out all of her teeth and then put them back in, in a great big hurry.

One of my BFF's calls her Fang, so she can interchangeably be Fang or Snag.

What's yours called?

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This0is0Fine ( Member #72277) posted at 12:36 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

His name. Doesn't bother me to use it at all. I don't really care about him. My wife is the person that betrayed me.

Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.

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Ratpicker ( Member #57986) posted at 1:55 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

My adult kids brainstormed a name for her. I found out what they called her and it stuck: O'Whora

Road of life is paved with dead squirrels who couldn't make a decision.

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BearlyBreathing ( Member #55075) posted at 2:01 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

I just call her “HerNameTheWhore”…. “The whore” is just tacked onto the end like a single word. Everyone has adopted it. Immature? Sure. But rarely speak of her anymore, so it’s rarely used.

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTAKinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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WhoTheBleep ( Member #49504) posted at 2:02 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Who?

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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Chaos ( Member #61031) posted at 2:05 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Donut Whore

She once sent WH a close up of a donut on her boob.

Haven’t eaten a donut since DDay1

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decadesChildren (1 still at home)Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBSBrandishing a sword, channeling my inner Inigo Montoya and saying "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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Justsomeguy ( Member #65583) posted at 7:19 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

The ex-boyfriend. Drives my STBXWW absolutely livid when I do.

Me:53STBXWW:51DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off.Denied having an affair in court papers.

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Unhinged ( Member #47977) posted at 8:03 AM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Oh... I have to admit that I'm not exactly proud of myself for this one. Please understand, I am not a racist. In fact, I think race is a lie, always has been and always will be. There is no scientific basis for race. Shape and color account for less than 0.1% of DNA.

That being said... I used to refer to the OM, who is Native American, and a serial cheater, as "Chief Fuckemwives."

I know. It's a terrible thing to say. To be honest, I did it just to annoy the shit out of her. That, and for a couple of years, I harbored quite a bit of animosity toward him.

[This message edited by Unhinged at 2:05 AM, August 1st (Sunday)]

Heading towards divorce
D-Day April, 2015

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button."
-Brene Brown

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WhoTheBleep ( Member #49504) posted at 12:04 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Unhinged, I just spit out my coffee😂😂😂

(And I agree on the race part)

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 2:58 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

I burst out laughing at O’whora and the Chief 😊😊😆

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J707 ( Member #63778) posted at 6:44 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

I used to refer to him as "Gym". My XWW would always be going to the gym (she never went). Good excuse to be out and about! I rarely think about the turd these days though.

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Ladybugmaam ( Member #69881) posted at 7:53 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

Shortly after D-Day, FWH threw OW under the bus. Said he didn't understand why things happened. That she has a "horse face and a fat ass". Early on. She became FirstName Horse Face Fat Ass LastName in my phone. I didn't think anything of it at the time.

A year or so later as she and her husband were divorcing, she started waving at me, trying to talk to me etc. So I sent a really "not nice" email suggesting she back the F off.

Did you know that when you save someone's nickname.....they get to see it in your email? You're welcome:)

(Still makes me giggle)

[This message edited by Ladybugmaam at 1:57 PM, August 1st (Sunday)]

EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son

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Notagain1 ( New Member #78464) posted at 8:02 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

WH is on #2 since we seperated in March, #1 didn't work out for long. #1, #2 and WH did end up hanging out in his dad's garage a few weeks ago, so they have been called "sister wives" by my sister. I have called them mainly your whores or your girl friends. I feel a tiny bit bad about calling #2 whore cause as at least we were seperated a few weeks before she jumped on his band wagon.

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Aletheia ( Member #79172) posted at 8:06 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

I burst out laughing at O’whora and the Chief 😊😊😆

Me too 😂 I absolutely lost it at "Chief Fuckemwives" 😭😭😭

Your best must be just as glorious as your betrayal was destructive.

Don’t allow people to “Life is short” you to amend bad relationships. Forgiveness /= reconciliation. Leave them people where they are. Life was short when they did what they did.

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Aletheia ( Member #79172) posted at 8:09 PM on Sunday, August 1st, 2021

I feel a tiny bit bad about calling #2 whore cause as at least we were seperated a few weeks before she jumped on his band wagon.

Meh, she’ll live lol.

Your best must be just as glorious as your betrayal was destructive.

Don’t allow people to “Life is short” you to amend bad relationships. Forgiveness /= reconciliation. Leave them people where they are. Life was short when they did what they did.

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BetterTimesAhead ( Member #70001) posted at 4:06 AM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

WH hates when I refer to AP as anything negative and proceeds to say AP isn't ***** you are. She's a better woman than you'll ever be.

That aside, some of my favorites are SPOT (skanky piece of trash), the short versions skank and trash, some other guy's wife, leg spreader, no good white trash ho (from a country song I sing along to). Really seems like whatever pops in my head depending upon my mood.

Me: BS - 52
Him: WH - 53
DDAY: 2/22/2019 - Three year EA and PA
Currently doing the limbo but he seems unremorseful and that doesn't work for me
***************
Didn't cause it
Can't control it
Can't cure him

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stubbornft ( Member #49614) posted at 4:11 AM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Hookers

Ok this isn’t as fun for me as it is for y’all 😂😂

Me: BS 40
Him: WS 51
He cheated with massage parlor sex workers
Dday 01/19/2021

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Chaos ( Member #61031) posted at 12:48 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Unhinged - also spit my coffee. Chief Fuckemwives

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decadesChildren (1 still at home)Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBSBrandishing a sword, channeling my inner Inigo Montoya and saying "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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wantnomore ( New Member #71871) posted at 1:23 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

I refer to him as "Good Ol'[name]' or sometimes just "Good ol'" for short.

Always with a chuckle.

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DanielJK ( Member #75654) posted at 4:40 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

She would text a lot, so I would use an alliteration.

It was usually "text time with trevor" or "text time with travis" his name is not trevor or travis.

Currently it's "hipster doofus duochbag"

BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020

After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.

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