Taking exww to court

Hello everyone, I've missed you all! At the beginning of the year we started an intense therapy program for my DD14. As some know she attempted suicide late 2020 and is still struggling. She has good days and bad days. There are 3 therapists, one for me, one for my exww and one for my DD14. We meet weekly solo, every other week for parent meeting and once a month for family meetings. All therapists are involved in all these meetings. We are digging dip to try and help DD14.

Something seems off though. I know my DD had depression before. She has been seeing IC for 4 years already. But I believe something happened to DD to set in motion her suicidal thoughts and attempt. Exww seems weird during this whole thing, like she knows something I don't. The therapists think this too. Time will tell. We all feel we are getting closer. But exww is caught in lie after lie, no surprise there. We are making progress.

Last Sunday my credit score dropped 100 points. Exww had charged up $2,000 on a joint credit card a few years back and stopped paying in early 2019. She stopped paying it and it is know at $3400. I had no idea as I thought the account was closed. It never showed up on my credit report until now, which is weird. I emailed exww that day and gave her 30 days to pay off this debt or I'll seek legal action. I spoke with an attorney and she is on standby at the end of the 30 days. It's a cut and dry case.

Exww wants to set up a payment plan. Nope! You had a payment plan and you failed. Her credit is shot as she did this with all her solo cards so she can't get a balance transfer or a loan. Ain't my problem. It is in our divorce decree that she is liable for this debt. Credit card companies don't care so my legal recourse is to go after exww in court. I'm also requesting attorney fees.

I hope to be back on SI one day. With all this therapy, I've had to do self care and focus on my kids. Because my exww has continued to show me what a vile, narcissistic, evil person she is, I rarely even think about her affair anymore. It's been 4 years since Dday. I'm not saying I'm healed, it will live with me forever but she shows me during this process what a disgusting human being she is.

15 comments posted: Friday, June 17th, 2022

Residential care/depression

DD13 may be going to a residential care facility in the near future. Some of you know, last October she attempted suicide. The past 7 months have been so hard. She still isn't good. Severe depression/anxiety and intrusive thoughts of suicidal ideation daily, no real plan though.

Trying to co-parent during this, I'm fucking losing it. I've grey rocked until today. I called my exww on lies (maybe things she thinks are true) and her gaslighting (non infidelity related). I laid down the facts. Obviously she didn't like it. I did flip her off as she got to me with her victimhood of innocents. I told her if she sticks her head in the sand her ass is wide open for the taking. We have one common goal, DD13 getting better and getting help. Apparently it's rainbows and unicorns over there, just not here. Fuck off.

I've had depression and know how far down the rabbit hole can seem. DD13s depression is severe. I see it, her IC sees it, but since ex counted 4 smiles and a laugh she is ok and doing better. I guess I'm frustrated. I don't want my daughter to go away, I want her to get better. It just isn't happening with SSRI'S, IC and what we are doing.

I've created a timeline of events, covid didn't help, but to me, there isn't a smoking gun. Not that I know of. Just a continual spiral of depression. I'm taking a few days off to self care. But my god, my exww. I think shes in denial or some guilt of what she laid upon her kids. Of course I was mean for flipping her the bird. I let my emotions get to me, built up emotions. I've been extremely patient during the D and all this with my DD13.

17 comments posted: Thursday, May 20th, 2021

G2G for Northbay Cali?!

As I just learned about G2G I was wondering if anybody would be interested in doing a g2g in the Northbay, SF or north of SF, 707 area code! I know a few that would be interested! Anyone else out there that would be interested? Potluck? Hike? Bbq in one of our beautiful parks?

3 comments posted: Saturday, April 20th, 2019