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Divorce/Separation :
What Do You Call The Affair Partner?


Ribosome ( new member #79128) posted at 10:42 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

@sshole-EX. He is her exbf from 10y ago and imo he is an @sshole.
However I caught myself referring to him as "your lover" when I'm angry and talking to my WGF. Because I know it upsets her.

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redundant ( new member #75071) posted at 11:35 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

I call her AP needles or needledick.

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Trapped74 ( member #49696) posted at 12:11 AM on Tuesday, August 3rd, 2021

Something that I just recently discovered gets automagically censored in SI! C U Next Tuesday is one way of saying it.

Many DDays. Me (BW) 46 Him (WH) 49
Happily detached and compartmentalized.

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Knitaknee ( new member #71772) posted at 6:47 PM on Wednesday, August 4th, 2021

"Fathead". His head looks like a swollen tick latched on to his shoulders.

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:22 PM on Thursday, August 5th, 2021

In my review mirror. Along with him!

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Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 2:46 PM on Thursday, August 5th, 2021

Unhinged – why give him the Chief title? Lowontotempole might be more apt.

Me – I call my OM (the one that I caught her with) “Savior”.

In my instance he saved me from discovering her ongoing infidelities later, when we would probably be married, have kids, the mortgage and all that other stuff. Heck… If I met him today and recognized him I would probably buy him a beer.

Not a big chance of that happening. I mainly saw the back and buttocks of a naked twentyish young man. Not sure it looks anything like the rear of a man in his fifties and don’t really want to know!

[This message edited by Bigger at 8:47 AM, August 5th (Thursday)]

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 2:54 PM on Thursday, August 5th, 2021

The first one I called 'the child' or 'halfling' or 'predator bait' cus it annoyed my xwh when he was still around - he was 37 and she was (barely) 18. Now I refer to her as twatap or herpeteen if I speak about her at all, which I try to limit doing.

The second one I call 'floptits' because of a erm... "lovely" photo she sent him of her boobs while he was sexting with her while at the vet with me "supporting" me while I put my dog to sleep.

Yeah not very mature of me. And I am okay with that

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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gmc94 ( Guide #62810) posted at 3:15 PM on Thursday, August 5th, 2021

Whore or girlfriend

I dunno what else you call someone having an EA / PA with a MM for more than 20 years, but it was calling her “girlfriend” that got WH pissed off

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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Youknowit22 ( new member #75576) posted at 7:29 PM on Saturday, August 7th, 2021

The linebacker or Megabeast. She's a beast of a woman, very manly body! I guess my ex likes that? LOL

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rugswept ( member #48084) posted at 10:41 PM on Saturday, August 7th, 2021

It's rare that we get to laugh on this site because of what has happened to everyone.

This thread is one of those that demonstrates the maxim: in doing this you cry a lot more than you laugh, but when you laugh, it's worth all the crying.

[This message edited by rugswept at 10:42 PM, Saturday, August 7th]

R'd (rug swept everything) decades ago.
I'm big on R. Very happy marriage but can never forget.

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Underserving ( member #72259) posted at 12:42 AM on Sunday, August 8th, 2021

Cum dumpster. Druggie whore if I’m feeling nice.

I rarely check up on her now, but did so rather recently. She had posted a picture of her crusty ass feet, with the weirdest looking toes I’ve ever seen, and toe nails that were fucking atrocious. Would love to think of a creative name referencing those pterodactyl claws to add to the mix.

BW (32)Found out 3 years post end of AD-day 12-9-19In R

Infidelity brings out the cuss in me. I’m not as foul mouthed in real life. ;)

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ladyphoenix ( member #72766) posted at 3:04 PM on Sunday, August 8th, 2021

The Elephant. As in, the elephant in the room that no one wants to acknowledge.

For the longest time I triggered hearing/saying her name. I would ask him if the elephant approached him when she still worked there. After she left, I would ask if he passed any elephants on the drive. Sometimes I ask if there was a safari. FWH is happy to play this game with me. If we pass a similar car he will reassure me by saying that it wasn’t an elephant.

Whore when I’m lashing out at him though.

M 23 years, together 29. DD1 Feb 2019, DD2(TT) June 2019, DD3 (TT) July 2019, (TT) March 2020, (TT) Sept 2020We have 3 children: 22,18, 13 and a grandson April 2019. We work daily on R and building a stronger relationship.

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Felix12306 ( member #78827) posted at 10:36 AM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021

Piece of shit, because she kept telling me countless times that she wasn't a piece of shit and that they were just friends because she would never "brake a family up" and how she wasn't a cheater.. ect ect. While she was trying to protect him and lying to me about what really happened. But she also gets called alot of other thing. Insecure homewrecking nasty whore.

BS Together for 15 years, married for 11. Dd 1/28/21 after a 44-day affair, only last week of affair was physical but didn't find that out until 6/18/21.

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bookworm19 ( member #54871) posted at 3:06 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021

Thank you so much for great ideas, you are all awesome, the cool ones who don't aknowledge their existance too.

I can't translate what I called my SOs AP, who was my friend... It is also very politicaly incorrect, it involves something about monkeys (which I'm very ashamed of, because I really love animals), c***s and midgets, smell of decay and stuff like that. To explain myself: she was short, a climber and I considered her a good friend).

But this was back then in 2007, now I just think of her as the "thing" or "that". A small problem is her real name, which is ruined now.

English is not my language, sorry for mistakes and funny words...

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Hopeful0729 ( new member #67614) posted at 8:00 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021

Whore is her official name. Skanky bitch to change it up.

Me 41
WH 58
4 kids
D-day 8/27/18
In Reconciliation
WH had a 2-week PA with former COW

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Hopeful0729 ( new member #67614) posted at 8:10 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021

Unhinged- that made my day thank you!!!

Me 41
WH 58
4 kids
D-day 8/27/18
In Reconciliation
WH had a 2-week PA with former COW

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 11:05 PM on Thursday, August 12th, 2021

Don't anymore. Maybe Whatser or Whozit sometimes.

But back in the day I used to call her Ol'Yellow Belt or YB for short.

Assclown actually told me once all puffy-chested that she could take me in a fight (doubtful). Because, you know, she was a Black Belt. Huge lie of course. Perhaps she owned a fashion belt at some point that was black.

I thought it was hilarious - the whole premise of me wasting good muscle energy on sparring (physically or intellectually) with one of his prizes. I would never hand my earrings to a girlfriend and tie up my hair for that mess...

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Loving flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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WTAF ( member #79274) posted at 3:17 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

Cyber whores, or sometimes just "your whores" when it comes up in conversation.

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totallydumb ( member #66269) posted at 4:23 PM on Monday, August 16th, 2021

Never really thought about giving any of her APs a nickname.

Gave her one though...... CLS which is an acronym for Cheating Lying Skank

If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 2:15 PM on Tuesday, August 17th, 2021

I never really got upset with AP when now xWW and I were trying to reconcile. Actually, there's too much wrong with that sentence, so let's try that again...

I never really got upset with AP when I was trying to reconcile a failed marriage all on my own. I mean, I thought that he was an asshole for cheating on his wife. This was particularly so considering that he left his wife at home by herself for 4 days with three kids under the age of 4, including a newborn baby.

But, the reality is that xWW wanted to get laid and AP was just another phallus. I am now convinced that AP was just one of many consorts of xWW's, so yeah... there's no need to be specifically angry at him. She offered and he accepted. She's the problem, not him.

On the other hand, my current GF basically refers to xWW as described by Trapped74... it's something involving Tuesday, I can't remember. blush

Me: BH, age 48
Her: WS, age 45 (multiple EAs and PAs)
D-Day: August 30, 2016

Diagnosed with depression in December 2016, which was primarily caused by my xWW's affair and associated emotional abuse.

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