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Divorce/Separation :
What Do You Call The Affair Partner?


99problems ( member #59373) posted at 2:06 PM on Wednesday, August 18th, 2021

I call him Dim Tim the Flat Earth Wonder Boy, when i call him anything at all.

Not often these days. :)

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

posts: 1008   ·   registered: Jun. 26th, 2017   ·   location: Colorado
id 8684117

devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, August 18th, 2021

Chuckles the Dickhead Ass Clown.

Me: 2xBS b 1962
xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.

posts: 5109   ·   registered: Oct. 30th, 2014   ·   location: Central USA
id 8684183

EllaC ( new member #79253) posted at 6:20 PM on Friday, August 20th, 2021

The Young and the Chestless

posts: 14   ·   registered: Aug. 8th, 2021   ·   location: Toronto
id 8684604

Venus1 ( member #77144) posted at 5:34 AM on Wednesday, August 25th, 2021

My XWHs AP is named the "5 cent camera whore"! His name is "he who shall not be named". Voldemort reference of course from Harry Potter. Right now saying either of their names gives them too much power. It helps me stay stronger!

Me: BS (39) Him: WS (40) 13.5 years married, 16 years togetherD-day: 1Jan2021 Confronted: 2Jan2021 In process of divorce

posts: 115   ·   registered: Jan. 15th, 2021   ·   location: California
id 8685282

ShutterHappy ( member #64318) posted at 5:55 PM on Wednesday, September 1st, 2021

Although I didn’t have a name in the first few years after D day, I have come to think of the OM as the "QA guy".

Dear SI readers, sadly, my XWW didn’t pass the Quality Assurance test. blink

The good news is there are plenty of Quality partners out there, so that story has a happy ending!

Me: BH
Divorced, remarried.
I plan on living forever. So far so good

posts: 1483   ·   registered: Jun. 30th, 2018   ·   location: In my house
id 8686641

FairyTaleGone ( member #79059) posted at 2:31 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

This is a fun one! WH's AP has a nose that looks much like a I like to call her "D*ck Nose"...I throw out "Your girlfriend" or "your side-piece" when I'm angry...but "d*ck nose" is my favorite!

DDay 1 - 2/19/21 (found out about EA)
DDay 2 - 5/22/21 (TT found burner phone)
DDay 3 - 6/9/21 (TT found out about PA)

EA/PA ended 3/22/21 -WH went NC
Working on R
13yr old DD at home - unfortunately knows way too much

posts: 81   ·   registered: Jul. 2nd, 2021
id 8688417

BeeBee64 ( member #54718) posted at 5:35 PM on Friday, October 1st, 2021

Bike Boy - they met in a bicycling club. In his late 50s/early 60s, younger than her, was a bike messenger, and until recently, lived with his mom.

posts: 239   ·   registered: Aug. 19th, 2016   ·   location: Washington, DC region / Ukraine
id 8691233

heartbrokeninNC ( member #72472) posted at 11:07 PM on Wednesday, October 6th, 2021

Used to call the AP either the Bearded Troll or POSOM but these days I rarely think about the both of them anymore. Would rather occupy my time thinking about the future than the past.

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

posts: 327   ·   registered: Jan. 4th, 2020
id 8691873

crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 11:26 PM on Wednesday, October 6th, 2021

the Whores... there were so many of them. Better to give them a generic name.

fBS/fWS(me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 25 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

posts: 8097   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
id 8691877

78monte ( member #72572) posted at 5:11 PM on Thursday, October 7th, 2021

Refer to POSOM as Bozo.

posts: 1647   ·   registered: Jan. 14th, 2020   ·   location: Canada
id 8691993

Thumos ( member #69668) posted at 8:26 PM on Thursday, October 7th, 2021

"Rat Face" - because objectively speaking he has rodentine features. Most people would agree.

"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."

BH: 50, WW: 49 Wed: Feb.'96 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2: 12.23.19

posts: 4517   ·   registered: Feb. 5th, 2019   ·   location: UNITED STATES
id 8692027

maxricomm ( new member #79388) posted at 9:23 PM on Saturday, October 9th, 2021


Piece of sh_t, other man.

posts: 24   ·   registered: Sep. 11th, 2021   ·   location: Pennsylvania
id 8692401

LostInHisFog ( member #78503) posted at 6:36 AM on Sunday, October 10th, 2021

Sadly being petty isn’t beneath me yet.

I call them his "one true love" or "soulmate" because it infuriates him to no end. I dumb the logic right down for him and say they must be soulmates (or his one true love) for him to do what he did to someone he supposedly loves so much he can’t live without.

I ask if he has proposed to one of his true loves yet when I really want to see him blow his top.

I edit because I'm fluent in typo & autocorrect hates me.

posts: 265   ·   registered: Mar. 14th, 2021
id 8692483

thinkingofyall ( new member #45687) posted at 6:15 PM on Wednesday, October 13th, 2021

I call her vudu woman. Never could say her name. She didn't deserve it. But... one day my sister gave me a voodoo doll she had used while going through a parenting settlement. She didn't need it anymore. She had glued a tiny picture of her ex's face onto the little doll.
I did not go that far. I never glued a photo on and I never poked an eyeball or the knee cap. Just held my head high.
But the name has lived on for years and stuck forever. Vudu. The vudu. I'm laughing as I type this out.

posts: 12   ·   registered: Nov. 20th, 2014
id 8692956

IceGold ( new member #79515) posted at 4:23 PM on Thursday, November 4th, 2021

I call her Rachel. Maintaining my dignity makes him feel like an even lower piece of shit. It’s just another reminder that I’m the better person. smooch

Me= BW married 18 years
Too many DD to want to list
Two wonderful kids that deserve better

posts: 7   ·   registered: Oct. 25th, 2021   ·   location: Carbon Based Planet
id 8696761

Elbell ( member #25814) posted at 5:32 AM on Friday, November 12th, 2021

Which one?! laugh rolleyes

12 Years ago: "She who shall not be named"... but that takes awhile to say. So now I just say her name, "Hayley". Too bad that used to be a pretty name.

7-ish years ago when he lost his CAREER over sexting a subordinate employee, he told me his firing was all about a feral cat in the workplace. And since she sent pornographic pictures and even video, it's fitting that she's "Feral Cat".

Currently he's moved out with his gf, he calls her the Landlady. wink No other nickname needed, that works fine.

posts: 810   ·   registered: Oct. 12th, 2009
id 8698031

HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 5:23 PM on Friday, November 12th, 2021

I call her irrelevant.

And she hates it. laugh

posts: 3866   ·   registered: Jun. 20th, 2017   ·   location: The Midwest
id 8698166

Evertrying ( member #60644) posted at 10:00 PM on Friday, November 12th, 2021

I call her Douche Canoe. My BFF calls her a Slag Cum Dumpster and my BFF's husband says the "Best part of her ran down her Mama's leg",,,,, laugh

BS - 55 on dday
WH - 48 on dday
Dday: 9/1/17
Status: Reconciled

posts: 1216   ·   registered: Sep. 16th, 2017
id 8698225

TwoDozen ( member #74796) posted at 8:43 AM on Saturday, November 13th, 2021

Weasel because well he looks like a weasel and he is one

Play stupid games ; Win stupid prizes

posts: 396   ·   registered: Jul. 6th, 2020
id 8698273

GraceLoves ( member #78769) posted at 11:00 PM on Tuesday, November 16th, 2021

That being said... I used to refer to the OM, who is Native American, and a serial cheater, as "Chief Fuckemwives."

This has actually just made me laugh so loud someone came into the room to see if I was ok! Agree on the race thing, but OMG that's so funny.

I call mine either dogbreath or Aileen Wuornos (the resemblance is uncanny)

BW - seperated since Nov 21
DDay 1 - Nov 20, LTA during LDR. DDay 2 - Feb 21, ONS with AP. WH will maintain we were separated
DDay 3 - June 21, discovered WH had exchanged closure emails with AP

posts: 138   ·   registered: May. 9th, 2021   ·   location: London
id 8698773
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