They can make as many promises as they want, but if they don't put action behind it, it doesn't mean anything.

I edit because I'm fluent in typo & autocorrect hates me.

advice please: what would you do? discovered someone else's affair.

I'm feeling so ill to my stomach, I've just discovered someone else's affair, at a Christmas work function of all places and have no idea what to do since I can't track the spouses. I've tried and no luck. The APs are clients of the company I work for; I've never seen them before and my day-to-day has nothing to do with their company. I doubt I will see either of them ever again. The branch I work in has nothing to do with this company they work for, it was just by chance everyone was at this thing together. On LinkedIn we have no one in common. I haven't found any public social profiles that might lead me to a spouse.

I saw them (not knowing what they were to each other at the time) in the carpark when I went to grab my jacket. Was so shocked (as it was a very crowded carpark during lunchtime rush) I told my coworker when I got back, and the women seated next to him overheard me and asked if it was a specific type/colour range rover (car I saw the couple in) plus the hair colour (blonde) of the woman, I said "yes" and she said that's her sales manager she reports to and her managing director (so her boss and her big boss), they're married (to other people), they have been on and off for years and now they're back on again. Apparently, it's the worst kept secret in their company. I couldn't believe what I was hearing, she was so blase about it. I asked why no one has told either of their spouses and I got the typical "it's none of my business" which just royally pissed me off, I asked for a spouse name and she told me it was none of my business ( ) and so I not so politely ignored this woman for the rest of the lunch.

I won't lie, I've been a little obsessed trying to find these spouses but I'm at a dead end. my mental health is not in the best place with just 'walk away', I hate that it might come to that, I hate that the AP coworkers know and not one of them, after years (if that's to be believed) has even notified either spouse. It's just yuck.

So, with a dead end of unable to find these spouses what would you do next?

(just FYI this is in Australia so find a person American sites won't work for me, sadly.)

14 comments posted: Monday, December 9th, 2024

New format is not tablet compatible

Hey,

The new format has just launched and it has supersized the entire site, what would have been +200% zoom in, everything is so large.

I also couldn’t access the forums from the main forum page, I had to select the specific forum from the menu bar.

Just FYI

0 comment posted: Friday, July 30th, 2021

Is it ok to recommend a fiction book?

I'm an avid reader, love reading and I always chase those kind of books that I fall into and lose myself... but with dealing with infidelity that is a luxury I find so hard to achieve these day, to stop thinking long enough to enjoy reading.

I've wanted to share this since I joined but I wasn't sure if this section is purely for help books?? While I'm here I may as well list the book I'm maybe-possibly-likely breaking the rules over

The 13½ Lives of Captain Bluebear

by: Walter Moers

It's my go to book, and author, when I need the world to vanish.

Honestly have no way to describe this wonderous imaginative book. Some try and explain "it's a children book for adults" but that doesn't quite cut it. As bluebear (MC) grows so does the language of the book, I've never experienced an evolving book before, but that's what it does.

We start the book with the introduction to a baby bluebear, no larger than a walnut, being swept to his death thanks to the misfortune of being in a walnut heading towards a maelstrom but as bluebear grows so does the writing style, it gets a little ... meaty, as one reviewer writes "But to get some of the jokes, you need to have a passing familiarity with quantum physics, string theory, and academic politics." It is a hoot (at times I snort laugh reading this and I can't name another book that has me doing that of late) and it's just a fabulous world to escape into.

Anyway, this has been a gem for me during this time, sometimes my mind needs that time out and I find it so hard to lose myself in fiction these days so I thought it worth a mention.

(so so sorry if this was for self help books only )

10 comments posted: Tuesday, July 6th, 2021