I'm doing better, and i can hardly believe it.
Hey y'all, just checking in.
I am doing so much better. I won't pretend that every day is sunshine and unicorn farts, but every day that goes by finds me settling into this life of being a single parent, and learning how i do that and find my happy place.
I've been into podcasts lately (lol 10 years later than everyone else) because i drive for work hours daily, and got really tired of my inner monologue. It has been a game changer, and I'm sure a lot of you are shaking their heads at that, but it just goes to show you how we each need a very individual method of coping with shit.
So many posts on this site are "how do i deal with this?" And the answer is, "only you can know."
It makes infidelity and divorce infinitely more lonely and depressing in a way. Yet i can say that once you find out your thing, that you feel even better discovering it on your own than you would have if someone would have spoon-fed it to you online.
Anyway, just my weird ramblings, hope you all are finding your own peace in your own weird ways.
Also i got a kitten, he's fucking awesome and his name is Shadow.
7 comments posted: Monday, June 28th, 2021
At long last it is over.
Official today, I am finally done.
My marriage is no more.
I guess that means I "survived" infidelity.
Wow, that sucked. (And I got off relatively easy, apparently.) I am so ready to move on with life.
Anyway, let the party commence!!!!
21 comments posted: Thursday, April 15th, 2021
Welp, I give up, she wins
So most of you know my story. My stbxw was a serial cheater and she left me for the AP, even though I filed for divorce, who she is still with.
I followed the advice of many and took her to court for alimony, as I was a sahd and she made 6 figures.
Seemed like a slam dunk, right?
Well 6k$ to the lawyer later I haven't even made it to the temporary orders hearing, couldn't pay the new retainer, and can't pay my mortgage this month.
I got a job that starts this week, but I only make 16$/hr and have 2 vehicles that both need new brakes.
I have a 7yo daughter who I've been feeding and going to school with. (Covid at home school) Now I won't be able to do that any more.
I've gotta say I can't believe how fucked up this all is, it's literally a money vacuum and I just wish I wouldn't have bothered.
I might have had a real career if I hadn't sacrificed everything for my family, that was a giant mistake and I will live to regret it apparently.
This post is super sour grapes and I'm sorry for that but I can't help but feel defeated.
I'm going to contact the bitch and see if she we can do it uncontested and give her everything she wants. I give up.
Edit: I made stupid errors about who left who for who for what reason, which I corrected
[This message edited by 99problems at 1:43 AM, December 6th, 2020 (Sunday)]
34 comments posted: Monday, November 30th, 2020
The Tin Drum
New to the book club, but a voracious reader my whole life.
Has anyone here ever read this, by Gunther Grass?
It's probably my favorite novel of all time.
I highly recommend it, but it's not a casual read. I re-read it every 5 years or so and always find something new that speaks to me each time.
7 comments posted: Wednesday, August 19th, 2020
Ok this one is a bit hard. I'm a bit of a computer geek but if anyone can save me some time I'd be appreciative. My spouse's work computer is locked down- I can't install a program. So if anyone's got tips on how to install a keylogger I would be all ears. It's a Pc, windows 7 and I do not have administrator access. I'm down to try shady stuff.thanks in advance
2 comments posted: Saturday, August 5th, 2017
Couple of tips I haven't seen on here
Hey all. I have a couple of things that I found to be very helpful to me on my trip down the rabbit hole. First thing- if you have access to your spouse's Google account, and they have their photos set to backup to Google drive, then when they delete those photos they can still be found in the trash of their Google drive.
Secondly- if you are on republic wireless you can retrieve deleted texts by installing "republic anywhere" on your computer and having their login info. I recovered 1 mo. of deleted texts this way. I have also read that if your spouse uses a different messenger than the default, then if you get their phone and install the default Android messenger, you can retrieve all deleted texts. Dr. Fone was a no go on my spouse's Moto g.
And thirdly- "track view" is a free program that you can install on your spouses android phone that can record video and audio, but you need to install an app hider program(I use privacy hider) so they cannot uninstall it. You also need to block notifications for track view.
Hope this helps anybody.
4 comments posted: Friday, August 4th, 2017