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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 8:52 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2024

Continued prayers for you and your H.

Please take your of yourself!! You need rest.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 9:01 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2024

I agree that YOU NEED TOGET YOU CHECKED OUT. Go to urgent care and get a chest film. There are far too many respiratory bugs about right that just knock healthy people on their rear ends.
Rest hydration and good nutrition are key to recovery. If you aren't eating you need to be drinking protein shakes. Same for your H. If they gave him a regular diet and he isn't able or willing to eat then he MUST be getting at least 2 nutritional shakes at the hospital that eats an Ensure or Boost.
You absolutely need to back burner the puppy for now.
As far as transferring to another hospital that isn't going to happen. Unless he has a diagnosed condition or needs a treatment the current hospital cannot do or treat. If its just a preference then you have to find an accepting provider at that other hospital and pay for the transfer which would need to be by ambulance at this time.
As far as palliative care your home provider can place orders but you need a company that does Palliative care to receive it. You can also ask for a palliative care evaluation while he is inpatient. However some hospitals do not have inpatient palliative providers or services.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 2:12 AM on Wednesday, March 27th, 2024

Whatsright? How are you? Please check in if possible.

"Because I deserve better"

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:59 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2024

What's Right please check in. Concerned about you.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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 WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 9:55 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2024

Thank you for all the concerns and helpful suggestions.

My husband was signed into hospice last night. I’m really not able right now to be able to talk about it.

I’ll get back when I can

Thank you again.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 10:11 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2024

Prayers for you and your family.

Our field of dreams,engulfed in fire..and I'll still see it,till the day I die..

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 10:53 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2024

Praying for you and your family.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 11:34 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2024

WhatsRight, you have carried the load for him and I am so sorry this is happening right at this time. May he have relief from his agonizing pain and may you have peace in your heart. ((((WR))))

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 12:19 AM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Holding you and your family in my heart and my prayers.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Sending you mojo and the biggest virtual hug. Please take care of yourself.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 5:33 AM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Thinking of you. We are here for you.

"Because I deserve better"

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:09 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

May you find peace abd comfort during this time. Allow your faith and the knowledge of those caregivers to guide you.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:59 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Prayers and hugs for you and your family. Please take care of yourself. ♥

We will all be here for you when you're ready to share.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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SacredSoul33 ( member #83038) posted at 7:16 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Sending virtual hugs your way and wishes for peace.

Remove the "I want you to like me" sticker from your forehead and place it on the mirror, where it belongs. ~ Susan Jeffers

Your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.

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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 8:27 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

I'm so sorry, WR. I hope this switch enables the doctors to give your husband some effective pain relief.

WW/BW

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 10:11 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024

Thinking of you all, WR.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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number4 ( member #62204) posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2024

So sorry to read this. Please take advantage of every service hospice has to offer, including respite care if you need it. Sending wishes for peace for everyone in your family.

Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R

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 WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 3:11 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2024

All of this has happened so fast. He got out of the hospital with a tremendous amount of fluid in his chest. He was admitted into hospice the next day.

Last night was hard. The son that is at home right now knew something has been up, but not exactly what. Last night his chest was so wet that he could hardly catch a breath. He kept telling me "I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe!"

I went to my son at home and explained to him the situation. He was horrified. all torn up. I told him to go in and speak to his dad. They basically just told each other that they loved each other, and he told him that he hoped that he would feel better. Then he left the room sobbing.

I called my son’s lady and explain to her the situation. I told her that when she got a phone call from my son, that she should have him call me, and then be ready for him to call her back. She was going to be his touchstone, and he really would need her. So he called me not too much longer and I explained the situation. I took the phone into my husband, and he spoke with him just a bit. Same thing… Told him he loved him, and that he wanted him to feel better. After he had said that to his dad, I heard him whisper, "That’s enough mama I can’t." so I’m guessing he called his lady to try to process.

I called the jail where my oldest son is in solitary confinement. I explained to the guards the situation, and asked them if it would be at all possible, if he could call home, even though it wasn’t the weekend. After talking with me for a little while, they got him to the phone. He asked me if something was wrong, and I told him yes. He then asked me mortified, "Is my daughter OK? I told him that she was, and then I told him about his dad. He could hardly speak. He kept asking, "What do you mean?". I could tell he was sobbing. Before I let him off the phone, I explained his dad could very well bounce back a bit from this and and live longer. That we just weren’t sure. I begged him to process the situation without altercation. Told him that his dad would want him not to get in more trouble. I kept asking if he was all right, and finally, he tried to tell me that he was. Thank God, he is very close to his cousin, and he was able to get in touch with him and talk with him for a little bit. Those guards will never know how grateful I am that they allowed him to speak with us last night. And he got to speak to his dad.

He has been sleeping since yesterday evening. He has finally settled down and not been so anxious about not being able to catch his breath through all the fluid in his lungs.

The hospice nurse, as well as my niece have told me that they don’t believe that this is any type of"death rattle" type of fluid in his lungs. That it’s from the pneumonia from the hospital. They said it’s entirely possible that if he can maintain the steady breath that his body will absorb these fluids, and he might be able to become more "aware" and live a bit longer.

My niece let me know about the respite program they have at her facility where he can come for five days and be cared for by them. So I can rest. If he gets stronger, I will probably do that. But not while I’m uncertain if he is going to be able to move through this particular struggle.

I will do my best to keep y’all informed.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:04 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2024

Prayers friend.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:48 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2024

🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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