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Jeaniegirl

"Because I deserve better"

Buffalo

My heart is heavy for the families who have lost loved ones in the hate crime shootings in Buffalo, New York.

11 comments posted: Monday, May 16th, 2022

Happy Mother's Day

To all.

My daughter and I had a wonderful day yesterday. She brought me beautiful roses and a very beautiful card. Then we went for pedicures and an early dinner. Celebrated a day early. I realize how fortunate I am to have such a loving and supportive daughter!

6 comments posted: Sunday, May 8th, 2022

Squatters are a pain

My sister and I, along with one surviving elderly aunt, own our Great Grandfather's property. It's both valuable and sentimental to us as we remember playing on the property as kids. We have always kept up the taxes and usually check on it about once a year as it's about 60 miles away. We recently learned there are squatters living on the property, in a mobile home. So we are having to make a trip down this week to check on the property. We own the oil and all mineral rights for this property and we've vowed to always keep it that way - and keep it in our family. The squatters are someone we know - from the OTHER side of our family. This property is from our maternal grandmother's side of the family and the squatters are from our paternal side and they have zero rights or connections to the property. In addition, there are no utilities on the property. IF they have managed to get electricity, a water well and a septic system, that will REALLY make me angry. The water well and utilities that were there many years ago are all removed, filled in - or obsolete.

I might add that I check the property regularly online for any oil drilling activity as there are working oil wells and gas wells all around the property. We have already received lots of funds in 'damages' from oil companies as sometimes they have to cross the property for the other functioning wells.

So now we have to go and see for ourselves - and take photos and give them a 30 day written notice and then go to the court house and file an eviction. What a pain. Our elderly aunt who is 91 found out about the squatters and we will pick her up and take her with us. She lives much closer to the area than we do. Another relative told her about the squatters. She's angry too!

People are SO entitled to do exactly as they please and that makes me furious.

Anyone else had to deal with squatters?

8 comments posted: Monday, March 21st, 2022

Life is like a football game

My Grandfather always told me life is like a football game. Four quarters. Age 1-25 is the first quarter; 25-50 the second quarter; 50-75 the third quarter and 75-on is then the 4th quarter. With possible overtime.

After my last birthday, I have arrived at the end of the second quarter. Next year I will start the third quarter. Time is speeding by. So I started thinking about what I want to do for the third and fourth quarters. I want to do new things I haven't done before so the list will be long as I've spent my entire life either in school or working.

So I'm going to start now, making a third quarter list. I want my third quarter to be different and exciting.

8 comments posted: Wednesday, March 16th, 2022

My Mom

My Mom has been gone for over two years. She lived with me for a lot of years. I'm to the stage now where I think of the funny things she said -- or would do. Of course I had a front row seat to all of her stories. She was outspoken and very fiesty.

For some reason today, I was thinking of her and her feelings for the Kardashian show. She couldn't stand the Kardashians but for some reason, watched that show. I never watched it. (I didn't have to, she would tell me all about every episode) laugh I recall sitting on the front porch with her, listening to her talk and she once said .."And another thing! Why in the WORLD do those Kardashian women get their butts enlarged with implants?!" I don't know why but just thinking about that made me laugh today. laugh laugh

So my Mom and her quicky sense of humor is on my mind today. smile

4 comments posted: Saturday, February 26th, 2022

Anyone else snowed in?

OMG what a huge snow storm stretching through so many states. It started snowing here around 3pm (Wednesday) and hasn't let up. I understand it might stop 'early Friday morning.' We had ample warning and I have never seen such a ZOO as the grocery and dairy store were. People standing in line at the dairy store as they were trying to put milk on the shelves, grabbing 2-3 gallons at a time. Lines at the grocery were all the way to the back of the building.

I'm alone but that's okay, just hoping the power holds. I can deal with anything except being cold in the dark. I don't have a generator but I do have plenty of candles and food. smile

Winter is not my favorite season and we are not accustomed to this kind of snow storm at all. We are used to dealing with tornadoes, hail storms and earthquakes so this is a new ballgame for us.

20 comments posted: Thursday, February 3rd, 2022

Online thieves

I am so angry! My bank account (along with several other's accounts) has been hit by online thieves. The bank said all the illegal withdrawals were the same amount and were billed as an 'electric check.' What a mess since I'm having to change all auto debits because the bank closed my account and gave me a new one. I really, really hate thieves, especially those sitting around with nothing better to do than steal money online. Since it was an 'electric check' withdrawal, it turns out the thieves had to have my bank routing number and account number. I normally never write a check for anything but I did write one in late November, to a storage company where I have some belongings of my late Mom stored. So I guess .... someone there is stealing routing and account numbers and selling them to others. The storage company claims total innocence, of course. The bank did return the money to my account so I didn't lose anything. EXCEPT I had to change all my direct deposit information and auto debits.

I am over cautious and even avoid ordering anything online as I don't like to put my banking info 'out there.

What a headache!

7 comments posted: Monday, January 31st, 2022

Food shortages

Are you noticing any food shortages in your area? In the local supermarket, I am seeing lots of void spaces on shelves.

Absolutely ZERO pasta of any type. Dr. Pepper and Coke in short supply. And the quality of BEEF is way down -- three times the regular price and NOT good meat. Produce seems to be still coming in but the potatoes seem like they are OLD. Musky tasting and lots of bad spots.

I went to the Deli at the store today and it has a sign saying "closed temporarily' ... due to shortages and lack of employees to work.

What about your area?

11 comments posted: Wednesday, December 22nd, 2021

Online grocery shopping, first experience a total failure

I decided to try Insta-Cart for grocery shopping and delivery.

Never again.

35 Items ordered. Over $100. Order to arrive by 5pm. Didn't happen. Called Insta-cart and they said shopping wasn't finished and it would arrive by 7pm. Didn't happen. Finally was told order had been delivered to 'my driveway gate.' I don't have a driveway gate. Got picture and I recognize the house where food was delivered, about one mile away. Not my home. Called Insta-cart again. They said it seems groceries were delivered to wrong residence. Duh! They were doing 'new shopping' for me and would arrive before 9pm.

Order arrives and out of the 35 items, I was missing more than half and OTHER stuff was delivered. Also, I specified BRAND names (sorry, I do NOT order SOME thing unless it's the brand I want) and instructions were if my brand names could not be found, then delete from shopping list. No problem they said.

So I was left with several bags of frozen scallops that made me gag as they were thawed out. Off-brand milk and bread and NONE of my fresh fruit was included.

I guess the OTHER people got the groceries from my list..

Soooooo I don't know the people who got my groceries. I know the blame is totally on Insta-Cart but I have to wonder what the home owners thought when they saw several plastic grocery bags TIED to their driveway gate. The delivery driver, who appeared to have the IQ of a door knob - said she went back there and groceries were gone from gate.

I will never do this again. I'm demanding a full refund from Insta-Cart after they refused to come and get the MESS they delivered to me.

What would you have done?

PS - my barn cat loved the scallops mixed in with their dry foot last night.

20 comments posted: Friday, October 29th, 2021

$690 Million Dollar Power Ball Lottery - dreams

I don't play the lottery.

Did everyone see that ONE PERSON won that $690 Million power ball lottery last weekend??

So I started thinking what I would do if I had $690 Million (probably half of that after taxes) and it was sort of fun to dream about it. In my mind I set up my family in new homes and cars and necessities. I would help friends who are struggling. I would definitely make a large donation to the American Cancer Society, the Crohn's Foundation and Juvenile Diabetes Foundation. (I have a close friend with children with both those diseases.)

After a while I started thinking about what I would do for myself. smile After I took care of everyone else, I'd probably build myself a little rock and cedar cottage on a peaceful lake somewhere - not far from where I am now.

Have you ever thought about what YOU would do with a big windfall like that? I was telling my daughter about my dreams about it and she said ....'well Mom, if you ever decide to buy a ticket, you might win." laugh

14 comments posted: Sunday, October 10th, 2021

It can happen to anyone

I so wish people would use their HEADS. And stay alive.

Our family lost a new family member to Covid two night ago. He was my young cousin's newly wed husband.

Another one of those people who thought they were too healthy, too young and too active to catch Covid.

They aren't anti-vaxers but rather caught up in wedding plans last April, building a new home and both have (had) six figure income careers. They hiked, they ran marathons, lived healthy -- and were a real Ken and Barby couple.

She had one shot of J&J vaccine in May but the new husband kept putting off getting a vaccine. They both became ill the end of August. She had a mild case of the virus but recovered quickly. On September 1, he was in the hospital and by the next day he was in ICU fighting for his life. On the vent. Two nights ago he passed away. She was at the hospital everyday, looking at him through a glass wall. No one else was allowed to visit.

She is heart-broken. It's not the time to say "I told you so" but we are all wishing they had paid attention to SCIENCE and gotten the vaccine. I have heard so many 20,30 and 40 year olds say they are HEALTHY and they don't think Covid would get them. DEAD wrong.

Now we are preparing for a funeral instead of the party that was being planned to show off their newly built home. Their wedding registry is still online, they had just started their life together. Sad thing is, her Mom is a nurse and begged them to get vaccinated. I'm glad she had at least one vaccine or I feel she would be gone too.

27 comments posted: Friday, October 8th, 2021

What kind of predator am I dealing with?

I always have barn cats. Living in the country, cats are vital to keep the snake population under control, especially since there is a small lake behind my property.

I had 11 cats. One was a dumped kitty that was pregnant. People dump animals out here in the rural areas and personally I think they should be sent to prison for it. But there are always people like me and other to take them in. This dumped cat had six kittens and they are (were) 8 weeks old. Cute kitties. I have been sitting on the porch and playing with them in hopes of taming them down and finding homes for them. Today I am down to THREE adult cats as something has been taking the kittens and the smaller adult cats. I found what appears to be a lair -- by the south fence of my property -- a place where some sort of predator has been hiding under some trees. Out of the 8 missing cats, I have only found two bodies. I found some bones in the lair so whatever predator is getting them, it's killing and eating the cats it's taking. It's so very sad. These are outside cats that usually sleep on my front porch in warm weather but stay in my small barn in cold weather. None of them, except the three that are left, are (were) tame, lap type cats.

Checking out the area I found where the predator has been staying and the predator has a clear view of my porch. Whatever it is, it's coming in the middle of the night because my dogs hear something and create a lot of barking but by the time I get outside, I can't see anything.

I am thinking a coyote or wolf. There is a lot of construction going on within a mile of me -- lots of woods and natural habitant being cleared out - so I know wild animals are hungry.

Still, it's a sad situation and my only hope is they didn't suffer. I have the mama cat left and she's scheduled to be spade next week. The other two are very large males that are about 3-4 years old and they are very large. My neighbor told me a Bobcat had been spotted out here but I haven't seen it.

3 comments posted: Thursday, August 19th, 2021

Have you ever found yourself ...

... in a very STRANGE situation that was not of your making? This should be a fun topic, I hope. I need to laugh.

Here is just ONE of my strange situations. Was in NYC for a conference, got to JFK for my flight home. Flight was booked full. We waited, they kept putting on departure times. Then cancelled. Angry people (but anger in this situation is a wasted emotion.)

Several people rebooked for the next day and some got alternate flights.

There were THREE of us who held out as they were saying the plane MIGHT depart after all, much later. But it didn't.

So airlines booked a car and hotel for the three of us. The car was a limo, a BIG limo. So we got it. It was 1 a.m. and we headed to the hotel, which we assumed was very close by. We just kept going and going and going --- so we started asking WHERE the driver was taking us and he said he was waiting on hotel confirmation from airlines.

3 a.m. we finally arrive at this very expensive, Luxury hotel -- on Long Island! New Yorkers here will know how far it is from JFK to lower Long Island - and in addition the driver kept driving around BEFORE he took us to the hotel. We were exhausted.

When we left the limo (none of us had luggage, had no clue where THAT went) ... he told us his limo service would be there at 6 a.m. to pick us up! 3 hours later!! We were shocked.

5 comments posted: Thursday, August 5th, 2021

Florida Condo collapse

I haven't been posting much or keeping up with the news. But today my heart is heavy for the people who are awaiting word on their loved ones, in the condo collapse in Florida. The recovery efforts remind me so much of the Oklahoma City bombing.

Just a very bad tragedy.

2 comments posted: Saturday, June 26th, 2021

Whatsright? check in!

I have been thinking of you and hoping you are okay and your H has improved. And the sons and the babies. Check in girl!

1 comment posted: Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Strange happenings

I think a few months ago there was a thread about 'strange happenings' .... it may have been my own thread, not sure.

So how about this?

Man tosses alligator through Wendy's drive-thru

A Florida man faces multiple charges for throwing an alligator through a Wendy's drive-thru window

WTH?!

And on the 'strange weather front' -- hail as big as tennis balls, baseballs and footballs? Yes, it's happening. Homes, cars being destroyed.

Next will be the locust??

4 comments posted: Monday, May 3rd, 2021

A new worry

Well, it's always something it seems.

When I was hospitalized a couple of weeks ago for pneumonia, they found a 'spot' on the upper right part of my right lung. They found it with a CT scan. The doctor thought it was just pneumonia showing up. To be sure, he sent me for a Pet Scan on Tuesday (4 days ago.) I got the call this afternoon that he wants to do a biopsy next week. The PA said it's about the size of a dime. However, in the hospital it showed up as the size of a nickle so it's either gotten smaller or they mis-read the size the first time. I was told the biopsy is outpatient and I will be asleep as there will be an incision and I will be there 4-6 hours, then come home. I think the hard part will be waiting on biopsy results.

When I had to be taken to the hospital last October after passing out, they did a CT scan then and the spot did not show up then. The doctor looked at both CT scans for comparison with the Pet scan.

Of course I am worried but I'm remaining positive. Has anyone had a lung biopsy before and if so, was it painful afterwards?

246 comments posted: Friday, April 9th, 2021

Odd and sad Events. Covid related?

I'm not sure if this has been addressed here previously.

I've been working from home, like so many others, for well over a year. Therefore I spend a lot of time online - and being a long-time news junkie, I read everything.

It seems to me that there is a problem with 'after Covid' people going through sad and just crazy times. I've never seen so many reports of suicide, I don't think. The long-haulers or 'long covid' people are suffering tremendously with all kinds of health problems and mental health issues. This virus has so many unknowns attached to it.

It's almost like a Zombie invasion for the 'afters.' Did anyone read about the woman in Florida pulled from a sewer this week after wandering around down there for THREE WEEKS? She said she just kept walking and swimming down there, looking for a light and finally found one and spent days 'walking and swimming towards it.' They pulled her out yesterday after a woman heard weak cries coming from a street drainage area. She was nude. How in the world did she survive down there? Florida has huge snakes in their sewer system. And Gators. Human waste, trash --

They said she has some mental health issues (no chit!) and is a drug user in the past.

The after Covid suicides are so very sad. The founder of the Texas Road House, one of my favorite restaurants - killed himself the last few days. His family said he'd recovered from Covid but was constantly in pain and having health issues to the point he just couldn't stand it any longer. I think it's going to be YEARS for us to know the full damage Covid has cost us.

23 comments posted: Thursday, March 25th, 2021

Total home renovation

Well, I'm taking the plunge and having almost a total make-over of my home. I THINK.

It's an older home, 4 bedrooms, 2 baths and 1800SF - not a huge home but a nice size ... on 8 acres of land backing up to a lake. The home was built in 1970 and has original hardwood floors everywhere except the kitchen and bathrooms. I have a contractor and he's been bringing out sub-contractors for estimates. While they are here, I go out to the garage and sit in my car - to be safe. They all wear masks.

I've been pondering this move for months, trying to decide to do it or not. I also have a smaller condo near Dallas that I have leased on a long-term lease but I will probably not ever use it again -- only have it as a rental.

The contractor says I will probably have to vacate for a lot of the work but I'll worry about that when the time comes as it will be late spring or early summer before work starts. All that depends on Covid (as everything depends on Covid!) I guess I am getting excited about it.

This is what is being proposed:

New energy efficient heat and air units

New windows

New kitchen (yay!!), stainless steel appliances.

My kitchen cabinets were redone about 6 months ago so not changing them.

(I also have a new roof so don't have to do that.)

New plank flooring in kitchen and bathrooms to blend in with wood flooring.

All the original wood flooring refinished

New bathtubs, at least one jacuzzi tub.

All the electrical and plumbing checked and anything needed to be replaced.

The outside multi-color brick painted a light gray and trimmed out with cedar trim.

A new, larger front porch with a different roof angle. I spend a LOT of time on my porch.

New sidewalks and new driveway.

Right now the contractor is gathering estimates and I hope I don't faint when I see the costs BUT .. with a new turnpike one mile away, my 8 acres is already 4 times more valuable than it was about 6 months ago -- so it's a good investment. It will never get 'crowded' where I live as everyone has a minimum of 5 acres on a dead end street. The lake behind my house also adds to the value.

Soooo big ideas, a big project .... and banker has already said YES if I need help with $$.

Something to look forward to!

17 comments posted: Tuesday, December 15th, 2020

Craigslist

I posted this in Just Found out but thought it would be helpful to post here also. In MY area, the personals section (hook up section) was done away with on craigslist. I think that is their policy now, all over. HOWEVER, the hookers and hook-ees have found a new way on Craigslist and it in the "Missed Connections" section. That section used to be for families trying to find members, people looking for old school friends, etc but it's by hi-jacked now with the 'nasty ads.'

I'm curious to see if that is happening in just MY area or if it's all over. The ads in that section now are really awful.

5 comments posted: Thursday, January 24th, 2019

Just for fun, if you won the lottery

Okay, the winner of the $447.9 million dollar lottery winner still has not come forward to claim their money.

So, what would you do if you won that much money?

16 comments posted: Wednesday, June 14th, 2017

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