Parents of adult disabled offspring
I know there are a few others on here.
My disabled DS is 30. I’ve shared before that he has epilepsy, intellectual disability and a constellation of symptoms that probably represent some syndrome according to one of the many specialists over the years. He is certified through Disabilities and Special Needs and also has has SSI since he was 18. We did not choose to be designated representative payee for SSI because we did not want to take away the independence that he does have.
Up until this past year I haven’t had any difficulty managing his heath care. He’s had the same neurologist since he was 15. He switched from his pediatrician to a family practitioner who also treated my parents. Last fall he was hospitalized with kidney failure. And I was… I guess surprised is the best word, when he was discharged from the hospital without them consulting me. They had changed his seizure meds because one of them caused the kidney stone that caused the kidney failure. They were discharging him on a Saturday night, one of the meds required a prior auth and they were just sending him home with no backup plan. I had to raise a stink to get the dr called and the meds straightened out.
Fast forward to this week. We saw urology in April and the stone is still there. 1.5 cm in diameter. Scheduled a procedure for yesterday. DS told me on Wednesday night that someone from “Medical Center” had called to say he needed to get a CT scan. He told them they needed to call me to schedule anything. No one did. Then he says “I have to have the CT before my surgery.” 🤦♀️ This was Wednesday night at 6:30 pm. So I called Thursday morning and spent an hour calling different departments. Finally I got a call from a urology resident. She said she was the one who had called DS. Turns out that anesthesia scrubbed the procedure because they didn’t want to do it in an outpatient center. Since it was scrubbed, urology decided to get a CT before the rescheduled procedure. DS is not capable of understanding all of that.
Meanwhile, I’ve become disgruntled with his neurology management. He’s been treated at a major teaching hospital since he was a teenager. His previous neurologist retired last year. His new one is booked a YEAR in advance. That’s unacceptable to me. DS’s PCP has referred him to a different group that is a little closer to us. They won’t talk to me because of HIPAA. I called to find out the status and they said they will contact “the patient” when the dr has made a decision whether to see him or not.
I am so damn frustrated. I get it. I understand HIPAA. But I have to be able to manage things like appointments and medical decision making. And the truth is JM and I won’t be here forever and DS is going to need arrangements for his future.
Thank you if you’ve managed to read this far. What do we do? Would a HCPOA give us what we need here? I don’t want him to be “incompetent” legally. I just need to be the default first contact for all of his health care.
7 comments posted: Saturday, May 7th, 2022
Finally, some happy news!
Y’all, meet the newest member of the SSC family.
This is Delilah. We brought her home today and we are all besotted with her. Her big brother Samson, not so much. He’s gentle with her but clearly less than thrilled.
19 comments posted: Saturday, February 5th, 2022
This isn't gonna start out very happy, so stay with me. I promise it's a positive post.
I'm drowning here. Life continues to roll over me like waves that won't give me a chance to even breathe. One thing after another and the last week has been very very dark and hopeless for me. I'm not sure I have ever felt this empty and dark in my entire life, and haven't even felt I could talk to anyone about it.
But I reached out today, to another SI member I've never met IRL. We live on opposite sides of the world. She didn't have to respond, but she did it anyway. We had a video call that has left me feeling so much more hopeful. Just to be able to unburden myself to someone who understands depression and won't give me platitudes or tell me how much better I have it than others.
Y'all, I know we can get riled up here and we hurt feelings sometimes when we didn't mean to. We discuss serious issues with a lot of emotional energy attached, and I know it's easy to lose sight of the people who exist behind the keyboard and screen.
But we are real people. And you may never know how a kind word at the right time might literally save someone's life. I'm grateful for the relationships I've found here. I am sorry for the ways I can be an ass. If I have hurt your feelings by something I've written, I promise it was not my intention.
Today, let's share kindness.
9 comments posted: Thursday, January 20th, 2022
Kinda urgent need in WS forum
1 comment posted: Friday, December 3rd, 2021
Dear life, could you at least use some lube?
I’m sitting in the ER with my 14 year old niece.
My brother and his family were in a bad wreck about an hour and a half ago. My sister in law, niece and 19 year old nephew were injured and taken to the hospital/trauma center. They were just going out to dinner and this jackwagon pulled out in front of them with no chance to stop or swerve. My nephew is the same one who has osteogenesis imperfecta and had a broken back about a year ago.
My niece is being so brave. But she’s still scared to death and in pain. Hearing the panic in my brother’s voice was awful.
I’m just so damn exhausted. I mean, seriously. What do I have to do to get a break?
17 comments posted: Friday, November 19th, 2021
I wavered between here and F&G for this topic. Mods, if you see fit to move it, you won’t hurt my feelings.
I have a rotten cold. Not COVID—I’ve tested myself every other day. Just a miserable, rotten cold. Daddy used to make a hot toddy with honey, lemon juice and bourbon. I discovered a variation that I’ve named a Honey Badger.
Equal, or roughly equal parts honey, lemon juice and tequila. Mix together in a coffee mug and heat in the microwave for 30 seconds or so.
Drink until you don’t give a F*ck.
You might not feel better but you won’t care. 😂😂😂
6 comments posted: Wednesday, November 10th, 2021
Message from Dragn
Dragn asked me to let y’all know she is sorry for missing SPF today. Internet problems at the farm.
Hopefully too_trusting will be along soon before we all start having withdrawal symptoms. 😂
3 comments posted: Friday, November 5th, 2021
My dad is dying
Well, I had to ask. 3 weeks ago I asked how much one person can take.
Last Monday my mom asked me to go ahead and ask the doctor for hospice services for Daddy. He was admitted to hospice last Tuesday. And he’s in the last hours now. We’ve had a wonderful, sweet time with family over the last two days. Yesterday he was able to tell each of his children and grandchildren that he loved us. Today he has not been responsive at all. My mom tried to pull a control move and make us all leave. To be clear, there’s three of us children and our spouses. Yesterday all 12 grandchildren visited. Today they were in and out. So it’s not like there were 20 of us there. And we kept offering all day to give her some time with just her and Daddy but she didn’t want it. 🙄
Anyway, we compromised and my sister is staying. I’m in my house right next door and will be going down to give his morphine every couple of hours.
If you’re not familiar with my situation, please don’t think I’m unfeeling or bitchy about my mom. Just a couple of months ago I had to bring Daddy to my house for 2 weeks after she punched him. So I just wasn’t entirely okay with leaving her alone with him and a bottle of morphine.
He has been the best father, grandfather, man, nurse that anyone could hope to be. My brother reminded me yesterday of something about Daddy. He was a nurse for the department of corrections for over 25 years. And during the ‘80s when AIDS was first becoming known, people were terrified of being infected. AIDS patients were treated like lepers, and in the prison system they were doubly stigmatized. My dad would go in and take his gloves off, shake their hands and provide them with a compassionate human touch. He was such an example of everything it means to be a nurse.
And as a father, with our mom being mentally ill, he kept everything together at home. And there was never an activity or award presentation for me or my siblings that Daddy wasn’t there cheering us on. Not once. He was the band dad who went to all the football games and competitions.
I’m going to miss him forever.
38 comments posted: Tuesday, October 26th, 2021
How much is one person supposed to deal with??
Y’all, I wish I was making this shit up. It does not seem possible for one person’s life to have so much crap. And I promise, I’m no drama Queen.
So my mom is apparently meaner than COVID and is fully recovered. Daddy, who tested positive but was really not symptomatic, has lost 25 lbs and is just not eating. So we are making decisions about possible hospice for him.
And today I’m in the ER with my almost 30 yr old ds who has epilepsy. He had 2 seizures yesterday and hasn’t kept anything down since Tuesday. He is getting some IV fluid and seizure meds. He had not had a really bad seizure in a couple of years and had one yesterday that lasted close to 2 minutes.
JM is having major surgery next month for an ear problem that could potentially lead to a brain infection.
And I found out yesterday that there is nothing else but surgery that could help my foot/ankle arthritis. I have 4 or 5 joints that are bone on bone. But I can’t even think about surgery right now.
Y’all, I don’t have any reserve left. I’m trying to take care of myself but the hits just keep coming.
18 comments posted: Thursday, October 7th, 2021
I just can’t. More Covid
My mom has COVID. Yay.
She refused the vaccine, of course. It’s microchipped, or it’s the Mark of the Beast. Or some such nonsense.
My niece, who lives with them, started feeling bad last Thursday. She is between her 1st and 2nd vaccine doses. I rapid tested her Friday night and she was positive. Her room is on the opposite side of the house from my parents’ and she’s very responsible and strict w mask, hand washing and isolating herself. Except my mom was determined to catch it, as bizarre and stupid as that sounds. She kept going in my niece’s room, and then her bright and shining moment: she deliberately finished a sandwich that my niece had eaten off.
Mom called me at work Tuesday, sounding awful. I tested her that night and it was, of course, positive. So the last 48 hours has been just delightful. I’m checking her vitals and oxygen level every couple of hours. Thank God Daddy has tested negative every time. He got vaccinated when he was at my work for rehab in the spring. But Tuesday night when I went to check on Mom, Daddy was standing at the kitchen sink, naked from waist down. I asked what he was doing. “Trying to get the shit off my hands.” Lawd. So I got him to the bathroom and TMI ALERT discovered he was impacted. That took almost an hour to, um, address.
Today I had to take her to the ER. Her oxygen level was low and she was so weak I barely got her to the car and I couldn’t get her out of the car when we got to her doctor’s office. Long, exhausting day. But she ended up getting monoclonal antibodies infusion. It was scary… some of her tests were very suspicious for blood clots in her lungs but that was ruled out.
She did ask me how soon she could get her vaccine shot, so I guess she is a believer now. 🤦♀️
Praying that Daddy stays negative and I do as well. I’ve been wearing a KN95 mask and face shield when I’m in their house and in the car with her today. I’m so damn tired.
29 comments posted: Thursday, September 9th, 2021
More fun at the S S C compound
Y’all, I would write a book if I thought anyone would believe it.
I wrote on Tush’s COVID thread that my facility had to open the COVID unit back up again. We had one positive patient and 6 exposed that we know of. I had to work all day last Saturday after working 44 hours already.
Then, just because clearly my life was going a little too well, I got a text, then a phone call from my niece who has been staying with my parents. Just as a refresher for those who haven’t been playing along at home, my parents live about 200 feet from me and JM. My niece is 27 and lives there but works full time. She is there in the evenings and mom and dad have been on their own during the day. We check in on them frequently; my sister does their grocery shopping.
Anyway, Mom had a breakdown one morning last week and I spent an hour and a half listening to her vent and rage. Mostly about the topic I can’t bring up in this forum. She seemed better over the next couple of days. Until she lost it Saturday night and hit Daddy. Nobody saw it happen. He told my niece Mom had hit him. When I got to their house she was just seething and boiling over with rage. Just horrific. I told her one of them was coming home with me. She said “Take him!!! Take him away from her so I don’t have to look at him!!”””
So daddy has been here since Saturday. It’s like having a 250 lb toddler, bless his heart. He is super sweet. Compliant. No trouble at all. But has ZERO short term memory. Someone has to be with him constantly. He can’t dress himself or bathe without a lot of help. But he feeds himself and like I said is just so sweet.
Mom… not so much. We can’t let her hurt him. I am also afraid that he will not recognize her one day and hit back. And he would hurt her bad. My siblings and I have lived with this our entire lives. And so far in our lives when she reaches this point she has never been able to get it back together without inpatient care. So I’ve spent the whole week trying to find an inpatient psych bed for her, trying to keep Daddy clean, dry, safe, and fed,—oh, and doing my work from home because that has to keep getting done.
Took her to the dr and she was sarcastic and hateful. Told the dr we were shipping her off to a mental institution because she was crying on a couple of days. That we were holding Daddy hostage and forcing her to go to the loony bin.
I drove her around for 4 hours doing every little thing she wanted. Library, CVS, Walgreens (she wears a mask everywhere) and groceries. Got lunch and brought for her and Daddy to eat together. When she went home I crashed because daddy took a nap. I’d mentioned I wanted to shower him and JM sent our ds29 to get their shower bench for me to use. Mom posted this pissy thing on Facebook about how someone just walked in her house and took the shower chair she needs to bathe safely. Forced her to climb all over my niece’s belongings to get her other, less safe chair.
It pissed me off. So I took the damn shower chair back and threw it back in the bathroom. (Not a healthy way to have handled it.). Stormed out. She starts trying to back track saying “Oh, it’s okay. I’m fine with this other chair.” Rolled my eyes and left.
I was not happy with the way I acted and I wanted to try to make things right with her. Why, oh why would I think that would be possible??? She jumped right in and started with all of my buttons and I let her push them. To the point that I just broke. And as I was standing there, her youngest child, sobbing and shaking, my mom looked at me and SMILED. She said “HF, you are CRYING. You need to be in a mental institution.”
Y’all believe that shit? I’m almost 55. I have never allowed her to get to me like that. Never. And she was satisfied. Gloating that she’d broken me like that.
Oof. Oh and my brother and sister think I’m doing all the right things. They “have my back” and oh , “anything I need” you know, I should just ask. But neither one of them has showed up to give me a break or help so I could go in to work. My sister does not work. She lives rent free in the house my mom and dad lived in before moving next to me. My brother’s wife does not work. She home schools their 14 year old daughter but makes time to do what she wants to do.
Meanwhile I work full time in a SNF, have a part time home care job. JM is here but he works 40-50 hours minimum on the furniture he builds. DS29 is perfectly willing to help but again, it shouldn’t be his row to hoe.
I have a bed for her in a Geri-psych hospital unit that’s about N hour away. But the paperwork is not easy to get together. After she’s released, idk what that will look like. But I have a caregiver who can start in 2 weeks. We can’t afford much more than 4 hours a day but that will at least help me get back to work.
But I am so tired and overwhelmed. And angry.
JM is absolutely wonderful. He is taking care of me and making me take rest breaks and do things for me. But he’s pretty stretched with his dad. That’s a whole other story too.
We don’t have a flat on its back, fully deflated emoji. But we need one.
7 comments posted: Friday, August 6th, 2021
Fucking fuckers with the fucking fireworks.
Motherfuckers “celebrating.” Celebrating our country’s “Independence Day.” Most of them probably would never even think about serving this country in any way. Just an excuse to get drunk and make a bunch of things go BOOM.
Never mind the people who actually served and now have PTSD. Or animals that don’t understand what’s going on. My husband is in the bed. With pillows over his head. My dog is a nervous wreck and won’t sit for more than a minute.
I posted something on Facebook a couple of years ago and my sister tried to shame me because it hurt her son’s feelings. He has autism and he gets so much joy out of fireworks and he couldn’t understand why I was so angry about it. Wtf, my husband is shaking and crying and jumping out of his skin with every boom and pop. But let’s put on a fake happy face and not hurt anybody’s feelings.
It won’t stop. I’m surrounded by ignorant rednecks, especially the oh, so wonderful “Three Percenter” next door neighbors.
Why is this shit so important to people? Why is their “right” to get drunk and blow shit up more important than my husband’s right to peace and feeling safe in his own home?
I wish it would just start pouring down rain and ruin it all.
Thanks for letting me vent.
16 comments posted: Sunday, July 4th, 2021
Positive R Story
Well I wanted to post this in the sticky thread but it’s closed.
The first part of this post is in General, topic “50 years ago”
My parents have been M almost 61 years. My mom is mentally ill and was not controlled or treated at all for most of my childhood. Daddy was the glue that held our family together. He took care of my siblings and I. He was the one who attended all our school functions. He was the cool “band dad” who went to all the football games an competitions for 6 plus years as my sister, brother and I made our way through HS.
As I was typing out the other post I realized I know a LOT more about my parents than is probably healthy. I’ll skip most of that here. But basically, my mom had an A with their BIL (dad’s sister’s H) and they R’ed. (More rugswept than reconciled). A couple of years ago my dad confessed to multiple PA/ONS during their early M. It just about destroyed my mom. His dementia is so far advanced that there is nothing he could or can do to help heal their M. Oh, but she tried. She bought a SA workbook for him. Tried to do MC.
I felt so helpless. I understand her pain. But it’s my Daddy. Who is vulnerable and child like now. And my siblings and I have struggled with the decisions about the future.
Here’s the beautiful part of the story though. Since Daddy almost died in early April, Mom has done a lot of healing. I think it’s been happening slowly and the crisis with his health solidified things. She’s been going to work with me a couple of days a week and spending the day with him. We’ve talked a lot during the drive to/from. She has found acceptance and peace. I think she’s found, if not forgiveness, then the grace to just not keep punishing him. She acknowledged to me that she had been a terrible wife and mother a lot of the time. And I told her she didn’t cause him to cheat any more than he caused her to. They both made choices. But he took care of us and her during the times she couldn’t take care of herself. He never ever disparaged her or allowed us to disrespect her in any way.
And in all of the dysfunction and brokenness, they raised 3 children of their own, plus half a dozen unofficial foster children. And my sister, brother and I love each other. We love and honor our parents. All of our children have close relationships with each other and with their grandparents. So for all they did wrong, they got some stuff right.
Daddy is coming home from rehab next week. And Mom has been helping to prepare the house. She’s even willingly parted with stuff she’s hoarded, in order to make their home safer for him. (This is HUGE, y’all.). And she is planning a vow renewal and anniversary party a couple of weeks after he comes home. It will be on their 61st anniversary.
It’s never too late to do better. It’s never too late to change unhealthy patterns. That’s the one thing about my mom that I admire more than anything else. She’s 80. A CSA survivor. She has several mental illnesses that are difficult all by themselves. No one would blame her if she just quit trying. But she won’t quit trying to do better.
She has a peace about her now that I don’t think I’ve ever seen in my life. And that makes me a happy daughter.
5 comments posted: Saturday, May 22nd, 2021
Tuesday was the first anniversary of my MIL’s death due to COVID complications. I just got the news that one of her best friends, who was also a friend of mine, passed away last night.
We had a cookout at FIL’s 3 weeks ago. First time since COVID. First time he’s had anyone besides us at the house since MIL passed. There was a group of friends who came to all of our gatherings for the past 5 or 6 years; C and her husband were part of this group. They didn’t come to the cookout because C was running a fever. We heard a week later that she, her H and their grandson all had COVID. She was on a ventilator for the past 2 weeks and died last night.
I’m so tired of this. We don’t know how to tell FIL. Part of me feels he is the one person who can truly know how C’s H feels and they can maybe help each other. But the timing is just brutal. Meanwhile, people are all but rioting over masks and scared of vaccines.
16 comments posted: Saturday, May 8th, 2021
Hoarding. So disgusted
Daddy is still in rehab. We have purchased a new bed and mattress for him but have to clean out his room to get the old one out and new one in. Then their clothes dryer stopped working. I had to clean out the laundry area and pantry so JM can work on it. DS29’and I have spent the entire day sorting canned goods, etc. we have thrown away 8-10 large black trash bags full of expired food. Just from the pantry. We haven’t even looked in the refrigerator. 🤢
There are at least 31 bottles of laundry detergent. 7 gallons of bleach. I found a milk crate full of soap. Individual unopened bars of soap.
THERE ARE TWO PEOPLE LIVING IN THIS HOUSE!!!!
I am so disgusted. There are people starving. There are people in our own community in need of food, hygiene items, etc and my mom just keeps buying shit so it can sit and rot. What the actual f*ck is wrong with her????????
My sister won’t stand up to her. I refuse to take her shopping or buy anything for her.
Just needed to vent. Thank you and you may return to your regularly scheduled programming.
14 comments posted: Wednesday, May 5th, 2021
Update and a giggle
My dad was admitted for rehab where I work earlier this week. I'm happy. Our rehab department is amazing and I love being able to look on him throughout the day.
This morning as I was sitting with him, he looked up and asked me, "Why does it say 'Pee' on my window?" I was confused until I looked up at the window myself.
We had the room numbers on the outside of the windows to make it easier for visitors to find when we weren't allowed inside visitors.
6 comments posted: Friday, April 9th, 2021
If you need a good laugh
Just follow me around. 😂😂
This week’s episode: See HF get both feet in her mouth at the same time!!!
We admitted a lady for rehab 3 weeks ago. She has the same name as JM’s great aunt who was the last remaining sibling of his grandmother. And who I very clearly recalled having passed away. When I saw her picture I thought, “Wow! She even looks like Aunt C.”
I went to this lady’s room to do my assessment and said to her, “Did you know there was another C_____ G_____ in this county?” She said she didn’t. I said, “My husband’s great aunt was also named C_____ G_____ but she passed away a few years ago. You even look like her. It’s uncanny.”
Well, the other day I was assisting with family visitation and this lady had a visit scheduled. Imagine my surprise and chagrin when JM’s cousin walked through the door. Yeah. It was Aunt C. Apparently I was wrong about the whole “passed away” thing.
I sent my ds22 a text and said, “Hey, remember Aunt C? Mimi’s sister?” He said “Yeah. What’s up?” I said, “Turns out she’s not nearly so dead as I thought she was.”
How was YOUR week?
15 comments posted: Sunday, March 21st, 2021
Prayer request-horrible situation
I'm asking for prayers, good thoughts, whatever you can offer for a coworker of mine. She just lost her fiance about a month ago very suddenly and unexpectedly. Her home caught fire early Sunday morning with her and her youngest child asleep. Thankfully, her older two were staying with grandparents this weekend. She and the 2 year old suffered severe smoke inhalation injury and carbon monoxide poisoning. She is at a burn center and baby is at the children's hospital in our city. He coded twice in the ambulance and currently exhibits no brain activity.
I'm heartbroken and our entire staff is devastated. She is a CNA who is wonderful at her job and has been with us for several years.
Please lift her, the baby and her entire family up with me, as a miracle is needed for her son.
51 comments posted: Monday, March 1st, 2021
A new game--More realistic versions of songs
I need to be silly for a bit.
I was thinking the other day about the old children's songs I used to sing to/with my boys. "Wheels on the Bus" and so forth. This one especially stuck out to me:
There were 9 in the bed and the little one said,"roll over! Roll over!" So they all rolled over and one fell out.
There were 8 in the bed and the little one...
It repeated until it got down to "There was one in the bed and the little one said, "Good night!"
Don't y'all think a more realistic version would be,"There were nine in the bed and the little one said, "Roll over, roll over!" So they all rolled over and beat the shit out him and told him to shut up so they could sleep. The end."????
So, lay some more on me. Alternative (better) lyrics that make more sense than the original song.
0 comment posted: Tuesday, January 9th, 2018
Stacked threads in OT
This made me literally LOL.
Celebrating 8 Years of Sobriety
Pharmaceuticals and mood/demeanor
1 comment posted: Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017
My alligator mouth
My daddy used to tell me that one day my alligator mouth would get my hummingbird butt in trouble.
Well, I do not have anything close to a hummingbird butt these days, but my alligator mouth is still causing me problems.
I work for a nursing home/rehab center that is part of a corporation with over 100 facilities in the Southeast, Northeast and Midwest areas. Our mandatory training is contracted to a web based company and we're supposed to do 2-3 training modules each month to satisfy the annual training requirements from Medicare and the state health departments. I despise these modules. The previous company that we used had slide shows that would allow you to read at your own pace and advance the slides. The current system requires you to wait..for..the..speaker..who..sounds..like..they..are..speaking..to..kindergarteners before you can advance the slide. So something that I can read and comprehend in 0.2 seconds requires me to sit for 3 minutes while the speaker carefully enunciates each word on the page.
It makes me stabby.
Then we have the interactive training sessions which require us to do fun stuff like "click the cell phone to make a phone call" and "click the mop to clean up the chemical spill."
So I've started being VERY honest in my evaluations. In one of them I wrote that I'm a college graduate with almost 30 years experience in health care and I do not appreciate being forced to play "Dora The Explorer" to demonstrate my knowledge of chemical exposure control measures.
Well, now they've upped the ante. In addition to the stupid training sessions, we're now barraged with "brain spark" emails to stimulate further thinking and help us retain the knowledge. I sent an email to the company asking if there was a way to opt out of those emails. I may have written something to the effect of it was bad enough to have to sit through Blues Clues or Dora the Explorer training, but completely unacceptable for them to harass me with emails afterward.
That was last weekend.
Today, I was approached in the hall by my regional nurse. She's 2 managers up the chain of command. She told me that my email had ended up with the freaking vice president of the whole company over nursing and clinical services. And that the VP would appreciate if I wouldn't send any more emails like that.
Well hell, all I can say is at least when I screw up, I go ahead and swing for the bleachers. Go big or go home!
15 comments posted: Friday, January 13th, 2017
We are in the process of moving my parents into a modular home next door to us. There were no options for the interior, which was fine. Neutral colors and very nice floor and wall coverings. Today was the last of the paperwork and stuff to order the home. Our salesman informed me that we can choose from different colors for the exterior-- siding and shutters.
I asked if he could send me something with the available options so we could decide. He sent me a brochure.
In BLACK AND WHITE.
After I got done laughing, I sent him a reply. "Thank you so much for your quick response. Do you, by chance, have any pictures that are in color? It's really hard to decide based on the names."
He replied, "Oh, crap! I didn't realize it scanned in black and white!"
He sent me a color picture and said "That was really nice--'Here's a black and white picture for you to pick your colors'"
8 comments posted: Monday, January 9th, 2017
Hfssc and her new bathing suit. T M I alert
First of all, before anyone says anything... yes! I know it was gross but it was an emergency. And I've learned my lesson quite painfully.
Okay. That's out of the way.
JM took me away for our anniversary. A surprise trip to our favorite beach. But because he did not (would not) tell me where we were going, I didn't pack my swimsuit. Our hotel had indoor heated pools and a hot tub so we went shopping. You may not know this, but it's the off season at East Coast beaches right now, so let's just say there were not many available options for me. In fact, there was exactly one fat girl swimsuit to be found, so we paid $64.99 for that sucker.
I would ordinarily not wear a swimsuit without washing it first. But we only had one night. So I decided to wear it.
Boy, was that ever a bad decision.
You know that crotch-protector thing they put in there? Well, it was put there with some sort of bizarre, industrial grade adhesive. The plastic came right off. But the freaking glue stayed. I didn't realize it until I took a step and yanked a bunch of hairs out.
I tried to pull the suit off but it just spread that shit around. My butt cheeks were stuck together. My lady bits were folded over and glued shut. I got a wash cloth soaped up and was scrubbing my nethers and screaming while JM offered a weak, "Honey, Are you okay in there?"
It was like the world's worst Brazilian wax job.
All I could think was, at least with everything glued shut, it'll be like I'm a virgin again.
[This message edited by HFSSC at 8:37 PM, December 15th (Thursday)]
25 comments posted: Thursday, December 15th, 2016
I wasted way too much time on this
I don't know when this happened. I'm probably the only moron in the country who is just finding this out.
But my iPhone does all sorts of cool things when people text certain words. My sister sent me "congratulations" last night about my son's college acceptance. And confetti covered my screen. "Happy Birthday" sends up balloons. I don't know what else happens.
What other fun features do y'all know about?
6 comments posted: Tuesday, November 8th, 2016
Laughing at myself
Well, I can laugh at myself. So I'm gonna put this up here so y'all can laugh at me too.
JM took me out to dinner the other night. To a FANCY restaurant. With real silverware and plates and stuff.
I got prime rib. And got a piece of meat stuck between 2 teeth. I tried everything to loosen it. We had some shopping to do and it was driving me crazy.
So I got resourceful. I am a redneck and I'm not above MacGyvering a solution.
I have very long hair that is very tough to break. So I had the brilliant idea to use a strand of hair as dental floss.
DON'T JUDGE!! You don't know my pain.
Well, my unbreakable hair broke off. Great. Now I had a piece of meat and a hair stuck in my teeth.
We kept driving. I noticed a couple of finger nails that were getting a little long. WHAT?? Don't tell me you've never bitten off a nail and used it for a toothpick in an emergency.
What? Oh, it's just me? Well, don't try that because the fingernail broke off and then I had a piece of meat, a hair and a fingernail stuck between my teeth.
So I demanded a trip to anywhere that sells dental floss. Well, real dental floss. We went to CVS and you know what my sweet husband asked me? If I wanted some caramel corn.
Yeah. Cuz what I really need right now is to add a popcorn kernel to this friggin' Dental Jenga game I have going on in my mouth.
5 comments posted: Monday, October 17th, 2016
I came across that term here a while back. It took me days to be able to even say it without uncontrollable giggles.
If you've never seen it before, it means "Eat a bag of dicks"
Oh Lawd, I laughed so hard at that.
Imagine my reaction when I looked in the fridge and saw this:
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2 comments posted: Wednesday, September 14th, 2016
I am so juvenile!!!
I was walking through a patient's room today and caught a glance of our weekly menu package on the bed. We offer menus that the patients can select from for the next week's meals.
The packet was lying on the bed such that the patient would be reading it, so it was upside down for me.
Here is what the cover looks like:
It has a nice little clip art of a chef hat. How sweet.
Only THIS is what I saw:
That was CLEARLY not thought out well. I can't decide if I'm going to tell the dietary manager or just let it ride.
4 comments posted: Saturday, August 6th, 2016
Cuteness to help you get over dragn's stupid tarantula thread
For those of us who are simultaneously shuddering, puking, and sucking our thumbs, here are some adorable pictures of our goats.
This is Beyonce' at approximately one week old, being bottle fed by ds17.
This is baby Biscuit a couple of hours after she was born.
Our four silly girls on the playground JM made for them.
And our newest baby, who will be joining us as soon as s/he is weaned.
You're all welcome.
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15 comments posted: Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
Stacked forums O M G
Just looked at the forums list and from OT to Book Club, the last topic posted reads:
A laser for your hoo-ha
Anyone need my help?
Radical Self Love
I am dying!
5 comments posted: Thursday, June 23rd, 2016
Great moments in texting
So I was texting with DS17 a little while ago and meant to send a smile emoji. Unfortunately, it was right next to another emoji. Needless to say, DS did not really appreciate it.
1 comment posted: Thursday, June 2nd, 2016
Out of the mouths of babes
Oh Lord, I've been laughing about this since last night.
Yesterday during children's church, the teacher was talking about the creation story. Every day, after God finished His work for the day, He said, "It is good." After He created man and woman, He said, "It is very good." As they were coloring pages, the children were talking about all the things they are thankful for God making. One of the little girls, who is about 5, said, "God made my bladder?" The teacher said yes. Then she said, with great joy, "and He made my private parts!!!!"
At this, the teacher was trying to hold it together. That's when the pastor's son, also about 5, said, "And it was GOOD!"
7 comments posted: Monday, April 18th, 2016
I can laugh now
Sort of a T/J from the "hardest I ever laughed" thread.
Stories that weren't funny at the time but crack you up now.
One evening a few years ago I had to stop for groceries after work. I was driving JM's truck for some reason. When I came out, it was POURING rain. I had like 6 bags of groceries. So I planned my move. I was going to hold all the bag handles in my left hand, open the door with my right and then swoop the groceries in with one smooth motion.
Well, I got the door open, so that part of the plan was A-okay. Where it went wrong was when I realized I had the wrong truck. And the owner of this truck was sitting in the driver's seat talking on his cell phone. I was about to jump on his lap.
I laugh about it now.
15 comments posted: Friday, February 19th, 2016
I feel so sorry for all of you
I've had the BEST day EVER!!!!
When I share the awesomeness of my day with you, you will all just wilt into tears of envy. Here are some tissues for you all.
First of all, we had a FIRE DRILL today at work. Those are SO much fun. Old people in nursing homes just love it when lights start flashing and klaxxon alarms sound at 900 decibels. Everybody was just... really irritable after that. A little while later, I had to pee. So I went in our one freaking bathroom that we have on our side of the building. There was a half-roll of toilet paper sitting on top of the dispenser. Thought I'd be a good citizen and use it. Well, I bobbled it as I was grabbing it, and managed to just barely grab the end piece. So it proceeded to roll out and then roll all over the bathroom. I was not really in a position to be able to stand up and try to grab the roll, so I thought MAYBE I could gently pull it towards me.
Yeah, not so much. Damn thing just continued to roll all over the room like a deranged pinball game. I ultimately just wiped and then grabbed the whole thing off the floor and slung it into the trash.
Then, came the CROWNING experience of my glorious day. My dear, darling husband, who is the light of my life and all that crap... decided to schedule a visit from some energy conservation consultant. To talk about solar energy.
Now, please understand. If this is how you make your living, I do not intend any offense. We all have our callings and have to pay the bills. But this guy caught me after a long day, before I'd even had supper or even a chance to take of my damn pantyhose. And he had a whole presentation with videos and powerpoints and all sorts of little graphics to explain the intricacies of solar power to me. I wanted to scream at him that I have an IQ over 150 and understood every single thing he said as soon as he said it. I did not require cartoon images and little invisible hands writing out the points in COMIC SANS font. I did not need his condescending, "It makes sense, right??" After every single point he made. (Picture David Spade in Tommy Boy here. That's what this guy sounded like) After an hour of education, he then took JM up in the attic to show us how horrible our insulation is and how it's a miracle we haven't all either died of heat/cold exposure or starved to death from paying our outrageous power bills.
At one point I told him that I was hungry and tired and could not process his questions. He told me to feel free to eat my supper and come back to the table. I told him an amusing story about how we were at the beach one time and some guy tried to get me to listen to his time share presentation. I told him I didn't have time because I'd just gotten out of prison for killing the last guy who tried to sell me something.
He laughed, I guess in an attempt to appease me and keep me from turning violent. I very kindly did not point out the misspellings and grammatical errors that I had noted in his presentation.
JM finally banished me to the bathtub. Not sure if that was a punishment or a reward, but I'll take it.
So, all of you peasants that didn't have a day as awesome as mine, go to bed. There's always tomorrow.
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17 comments posted: Tuesday, January 26th, 2016
I posted this on fb a couple of days ago but thought we could have fun with it here, too.
I don't understand fragrance commercials. Who sits around, sniffing perfume and then saying, "Oh yes! This smells like Charlize Theron climbing up a long rope of brown silk and onto a rooftop. Everyone will want to smell like that!"???
Last night there were a couple of malnourished models rolling around on a beach together. I'm pretty sure I don't want to smell like THAT, either.
16 comments posted: Wednesday, December 23rd, 2015
There! I fixed it. Christmas tree edition
It's been a tough year. JM and I have had 3 surgeries, one major accident and a heart scare between us in the last 8 months. We have family drama and issues on both sides. I had surgery on my hand last Friday and he had surgery on his shoulder this past Friday.
To say we haven't had any Christmas spirit is putting it VERY mildly. We decided we weren't going to get a Christmas tree this year. We've always gotten real trees and I have always loved decorating our house, but I just don't feel it this year. When my MIL found out we weren't getting a tree, she freaked out and insisted we HAD to have one. So she brought me one in a box today.
Here it is:
Hope she's happy.
7 comments posted: Sunday, December 13th, 2015
Why I love living in the country
You just never know what you're going to see.
We live on the other side of a crossroads from a large farm/animal sanctuary. The owners are vegans. They take in farm animals that have been abandoned or mistreated. The animals are well fed and cared for. As vegans, they are obviously not big fans of hunting, etc. They also don't build very good fences. On July 3rd, one of their small pigs (they have about 50) got out, walked to our yard and then just gave out. She laid on the ground and refused to move. JM had to put the pig in his truck and drive her home.
Then, a couple of weeks ago, one of their very large (600+ lbs) hogs got loose and tore up another neighbor's yard. So that guy, 85 year old man, shot the hog and killed it.. He called my FIL and asked him to get the hog into his truck and take it to be butchered. FIL just got there when the owner showed up. She refused to allow them to take the pig and instead dragged it home with her tractor and buried it. Funeral and all.
But the best damn thing I've seen was Sunday afternoon. I was going to choir practice and when I turned on the dirt road just around the corner from our house, I encountered 30 or 40 people on horses coming toward me. Then I realize on horse did not have a rider, seemed quite agitated and was running directly toward me. It was just so freaking bizarre. The road was torn all to Hell. I called 911. "911, what is your emergency?"
I said, "I'm not sure if it qualifies as an emergency, but I am pretty pissed off right now." I went on to tell her what was going on and asked if that was against the law. She was silent for a few seconds and said, "Um, Ma'am, I gotta tell you I really don't know. But it sure oughtta be."
Edited because my Kindle is just an idiot.
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19 comments posted: Wednesday, September 9th, 2015
So this just happened
we just had the most delightful lunch with Aubrie and her kids! JM, ds16 and I are in the area on vacation and we were able to meet up for lunch. JM and the kiddos were camera-shy so Aubrie and I went crazy with the selfies. I'm sure she will be here later to post the ones on her phone.
It was such a treat to finally get to meet another one of my SI friends face to face, after spending a couple of years getting to know each other online. If you ever get the chance to go to a G2G or just meet up one on one, go for it. It's another blessing that comes along with the dubious honor of
Membership in this club.
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13 comments posted: Thursday, July 9th, 2015
Let's rename the V
Seems to be a quorum, if not a consensus that vagina is an awful word for, let's face it, an awesome body part. It brings pleasure, it cleans itself, it brings new life into the world, and in the (possibly misattributed but still damned funny) words of Betty White, "Those things can take a pounding."
So, let's come up with a new word or phrase. Or let's see how many awesome words we can come up with (pun intended)
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31 comments posted: Wednesday, December 31st, 2014
Well, since my "private donation" didnt work out...
I have a new idea that is guaranteed to make me rich.
A clothing line designed for menopausal women. I'm gonna call it Red Hot Mamas. I'm thinking little vents down the sides. Sleeves that attach with Velcro to allow the wearer to remove them during hot flashes. Then they could reattach them when the inevitable rebound cold flash occurs. Maybe also a v-shaped piece that Velcro's to the neckline and could be removed and reattached as needed.
Oh,oh, oh!!!! I just thought of another feature. Concealed pockets which could hold chemical cold packs.
Now I just have to find someone to help me make prototypes and market them.
9 comments posted: Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014
I'm rich!!!! See you chumps later!!
Well, I don't like to brag, but I just received this email:
Private donation to you,write back for more information's
I have replied but haven't received my "information's" yet. Probably tomorrow. I'll be thinking of y'all when I'm sitting on my own tropical island.
39 comments posted: Monday, November 10th, 2014
Oh dear Lord, I weep for the future
I work with a lot of younger nurses. But, damn, we are in the South. I just read this, written by one of our nurses:
"Patient picked turn-up greens and said she possibly fell."
TURN-UP GREENS????????????? WTF???
Are there really people who have never heard of turnips??
4 comments posted: Thursday, October 30th, 2014
Ad on a for sale/free/wanted site
For sale! Need gone before tomorrow afternoon. Car is ugly at best. Nasty interior broken bumpers. Previous owner must of had 3 dogs and 7 children in the car at all times cause there's hair all over the seats and roof of the car. Basically the car is good for getting places and gets 30+ mpg on the interstate. I'm selling it to help pay for my mustang.
This just cracked me up this morning.
2 comments posted: Thursday, October 30th, 2014