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Quartz countertops

How do you clean and maintain your quartz countertops?

Tell me what you like and what you don't like about them.

I just had them put in my kitchen and bathrooms and am curious to see what you have to say.


8 comments posted: Friday, March 3rd, 2023


Has anyone heard from Dragn? I haven't seen her post lately and she missed SPF last week. I hope everything is ok and she is just busy living life.

11 comments posted: Friday, February 24th, 2023

Insurance mess

I am livid!!!

An agent from a life insurance company reached out to my H four months ago. Supposedly he had some life insurance and supplemental medical benefits with his retirement package that she wanted to go over. She assured us she was not selling anything.

We met with her via facetime. She collected some information. Some yellow flags were popping up for me but I was pretty sick at the time so I was not as sharp as usual. However, she knew my H employer and the union who represented him and paid his benefits.

At the end of the meeting she said we would be getting an email with policy information. Nothing ever came. My H tried to contact her. After numerous attempts she said she would call him. She never did. She eventually blocked his number. shocked I finally got through to her with my number two weeks ago. She was so sorry blah blah blah.and was going to immediately put our information in the mail. It never came.

I tried to contact her today. She would not answer her phone, her mailbox was full and she blocked my number so texts wouldn't go through. I called the company and spoke with three different people. They gave me a local number to call that didn't work. They said they contacted the agent and she would call me back. The next customer service rep said they don't do that and it looks like the agent no longer works there and she was never licensed to do business in my state.

The insurance co can't/doesn't want to help me. I want to complain or do something about this agent. Apparently she asked for information that is not needed for the policy!!! mad

My H's union is supposed to call us tomorrow.

Anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks and God bless you if you read through and followed this shortened version of this mess!!!

9 comments posted: Tuesday, February 14th, 2023

Would you be annoyed?

Is it rude to tell someone you can't make it to dinner (the next day) because you forgot you had plans with somebody else?

We have dinner for five planned for tomorrow night. DD's boyfriend sent me a text letting me know they are having dinner with his dad. He said he was sorry he forgot about it.

I am irritated. I am trying to just let it go but this is not the first inconsiderate thing he has done. And I am wondering why DD didn't call me to talk about it and maybe adjust our plans or something.

6 comments posted: Friday, December 23rd, 2022

Opinions please

I was talking on the phone to my adult DD. She was telling me a bit about some financial difficulties she is having do to an unexpected large expense. She was a little sad and stressed about Christmas. She said that she and her long term boyfriend decided not to buy each other anything but she was upset because she thinks he got her something anyway. She reached for his phone to check the time or something and he grabbed it and told her not to look at it because it was Christmas.

I didn't say anything to her but my first gut reaction was that he was hiding more than a Christmas gift. He was away for a couple of days last week. He BETTER have a gift for her.

He would not be my first choice for her to date but I keep that to myself and let her make up her own mind.

I told my H and he said he understands why I would go there but he didn't think there was anything to worry about.

Is my concern out of line?

14 comments posted: Thursday, December 22nd, 2022

Heated vests

Has anybody tried one or know anybody that has?

DD spends a lot of time outside in the winter where it can get very cold. She asked for one for Christmas. I was wondering if anybody could recommend something.

Thank you!!!

9 comments posted: Tuesday, November 29th, 2022

Adult incontinence products

I have a relative in her sixties that is having trouble with incontinence due to a medical problem. She has little to no control. She has tried using the pads but said they all leaked.

Does anybody have a suggestion for what product would be the best for her to use. Depends pull-ups?

She also has difficulty with her coordination so the easier to get on and off the better.

Thank you!!

7 comments posted: Thursday, November 10th, 2022

Question for those that have had covid

How long did it take for you to feel better?

I am on day fourteen and still have a cough, headache and fatigue. My head hurts so bad when I cough or bend over.

Everybody has said this variant is like getting a bad cold. This has not been my experience at all. I had a 102.8 fever and was very sick for 4-5 days. I am definitely better but I can't shake the cough and headache.

10 comments posted: Monday, October 31st, 2022

Covid fever question

Hi all.

I have a 102.8 fever with taking tylenol.

Anything else I can do?


11 comments posted: Wednesday, October 19th, 2022

Hurricane Ian

Thinking about everyone in the path of this storm. Stay safe!!!

25 comments posted: Thursday, September 29th, 2022

Progressive lenses

I was always very fortunate to have excellent vision and just needed readers as I aged. At my last eye Dr appt I learned that my vision had declined and I needed glasses. I got progressive lenses. The medium distance was fantastic, the long distance good and the readers I could only use to read something quick on my phone but not the computer or a book. I also think I was getting headaches and dizzy.

I went back to the eye doctor's office and they checked the glasses and measurements. They said the reader portion was probably too small. I go back tomorrow to see the optician again.

Are the progressive lenses hard to get used to? I haven't worn them for a few weeks. The headaches are better. I feel less unsteady when walking but still feel slightly not quite right. I'm not sure if I am sick and the glasses were adding to it or I'm just sick and it's not the glasses at all. If it was just the glasses I would feel better after not wearing them?

I am also going through quite a bit of stress so not sure if that is a factor.

Sorry for rambling. I'm having a little trouble focusing and organizing my thoughts.

16 comments posted: Thursday, August 4th, 2022

Covid test question

I have not been feeling well for the last ten days. I am exhausted. I wake up tired and always feel like I want to lay down. I also have trouble focusing. The last few days I have had a headache and neck pain that might be muscular. I did an at home covid test yesterday and it was negative.

Should I still be concerned with covid or am I covered with yesterday's negative test?


5 comments posted: Sunday, July 24th, 2022

Coloring hair at home

Does anyone color their hair themselves? I used to be blonde but my hair has darkened and now has a fair amount of gray. I was getting it colored at a salon for the past 15-20 years and my hairdresser retired. I have digestive issues that are very unpredictable and make those long appointments very stressful.

Is it possible to do this at home without ruining my hair?


25 comments posted: Thursday, July 14th, 2022

Facebook question

I don't have Facebook so excuse my ignorance.

My H recently signed up for FB in order to sell some things. The password is accessible to me and he leaves his page open on our shared computers.

The other day I was using the computer and noticed something on his page. It said Fitness Singles. Meet local singles into hiking. That is word for word what it said. Meet local singles in your area.

He doesn't hike and is not heavily into fitness.

There were other things coming up like videos of snakes and other things he has no interest in.

Is this something I should be concerned about? Is it a random ad?


32 comments posted: Friday, June 24th, 2022

Health insurance options

My H and I will be uninsured July 1st. His COBRA payment would be $2000 A month.

He has already applied for jobs that have health care but I'm sure that will take a while.

Does anyone have advice in the mean time?

We have so many decisions to make coming at us all at once. I am overwhelmed with everything. I refilled all our prescriptions that I was able to.

I am afraid to go without insurance because a few years ago I was hospitalized for over a week with no warning.

Thank you!!

10 comments posted: Friday, June 17th, 2022

Losing a job

My H may be losing his job. He has worked for the same company for 37 years. He is being blamed for something he did not do and accused of lying. The whole thing is so unbelievably ridiculous.

He has been a great employee, A very hard worker and not a complainer. This company is notoriously difficult yet he has enjoyed working there, not been one of the complainers and gotten along well with everyone.

I am suspicious that they want to get rid of him because he has been hurt too many times and is older. None of the injuries were his fault and more times than not he would not say anything and push through. He lived on ice and advil. He was always able to do the job.

He was going to hopefully retire in three years.

We are both so stressed and upset. This is the only job he has had since college. I can't believe they are doing this to him after all those years. He also worked every single day during the pandemic (being high risk) while many others were able to work from home.

This has been going on since last week. Today might be the day.

I'm sorry I'm rambling.

We don't live in an area with many good job options. I haven't been able to work do to my health. On a positive note we have zero debt.

I'm scared, angry and I feel horrible for him. I can't imagine being questioned about something and then told you are lying. He has self reported multiple things and told them on more than one occasion that they paid him for hours that he did not work.

People can really suck!!

40 comments posted: Wednesday, June 15th, 2022

Protein drinks

I'm looking for protein drink suggestions. I'm lactose intolerant.

I have IBS and have been having a horrible time lately. Last night I woke up with excruciating pain and was up for hours until it calmed down. I am doing broth today until things calm down.

I'm thinking maybe protein drinks would be good for easing back from clear liquids.

These painful episodes can hit anytime of the day or night. I'm barely able to leave the house.


12 comments posted: Friday, May 20th, 2022


I have neighbors that are nice people but not good neighbors. We've lived in our home for almost thirty years and never had a problem until the current neighbors moved in.

They decided to get chickens and roosters. They never asked if we minded if they free ranged in our yard. They poop on our patio. The roosters make noise all day and last night at 2:30 am. It's not as bad when the windows are closed but for now we are able to open windows and go without airconditioning. My husband has to sleep during the day due to his work schedule. He moved into a room on the opposite end of the house with a noise machine. They know he sleeps at odd hours. Our other neighbor works from home and let them know the noise bothers her. They don't care.

They have a child with special needs. He has walked into my house a few times. He does not communicate so I have to go get his parents. If I am home alone that leaves him in the house with my dogs and he could get hurt.

I try to keep my doors locked but I have dogs and am constantly in and out all day. I'm afraid he is going to open the door and let my dogs out. It is also very unnerving to have somebody walk into your house unexpectedly.

I have extremely bad anxiety and I feel like I am constantly on edge worrying about the doors being locked at all times.

We are also having some home renovations done this summer. We will not be living in our house so I will not be able to monitor door locking all day and there will be tools and things left out.

I am not unfamiliar or unsympathetic to their situation. I just want to be able to come and go and live in my own space without having to worry so much about this happening. A peaceful nights sleep would be nice too.

How would you handle this? Thanks!!

26 comments posted: Saturday, May 14th, 2022

Dog people

Anyone have a dog with seizures?

Mine was just diagnosed. I brought my concern to the vet's attention two or more years ago and was brushed off. They said he was probably falling down from the effort it takes to vomit and some dogs are dramatic.

This weekend he had an episode that I was able to film. I had another vet look at it and he said he definitely had a seizure. Fortunately if it was related to a brain tumor or something else really bad we would know by now. The type of seizures he seems to be having are not doing any damage.

I'm a little annoyed because I was led to believe all the vomiting was due to stomach issues. He was even on prescription food for a while. I guess I should have trusted myself and pushed.

The vet told me I don't need to medicate him at this point and there is nothing I need to do.

He is nine, the sweetest dog and I love him so much. I hope this isn't going to shorten his life.

11 comments posted: Monday, April 11th, 2022

Opinions about my appointment

My GP referred me to cardiology because I have been having increased episodes of tachycardia.

I went to the appointment. I had an EKG which was normal and had a monitor put on for two weeks. I saw the cardiologist and we discussed the episodes I have and also my high cholesterol.

He never listened to my heart. Maybe he saw everything he needed to see on the EKG but it seemed a little odd to me. I would think he would still want to listen.

What do you all think?

I have a return appointment in six weeks. Other than that I liked him.

Thank you!!!!

5 comments posted: Wednesday, March 23rd, 2022

Help phone question

I have an iphone. I was on a call and the call got dropped. Now I can't make any calls. Nothing happens when I try to call somebody.

I tried shutting my phone down and turning it back on. Still nothing.

Any ideas?


3 comments posted: Monday, January 31st, 2022

Cat question

How do you get cats to stop scratching furniture?

DD has two indoor cats. They have a scratching post that they use. They still scratch the furniture. DD used the clear double sided tape but they just find another spot to scratch.

Is there anything else you can do?


7 comments posted: Wednesday, December 8th, 2021

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving SI friends!!!

I'm headed out to drop food off at the church for their free meal then going for a run before dinner. So much to be thankful for!!!

4 comments posted: Thursday, November 25th, 2021

Dead mice in yard

I found a dead mouse or possibly a vole in my yard yesterday. This morning when I took the dogs out I found another one.

They are all in one piece. If a cat or other animal killed them wouldn't they eat them or at least do what I am familiar with what cats do to them?

I have some neighbors but also live surrounded by farm land so seeing mice is not unheard of but I have never seen them in the open, intact dead.

Is it possible somebody is using poison? What if my dogs had gotten into them?

Thanks! I always appreciate all who take time to respond!!!

18 comments posted: Tuesday, November 23rd, 2021

Dog people

Are there any experienced dog people around tonight?

I'm a little stressed out about how my dog is acting and I could use some advice.


17 comments posted: Thursday, November 18th, 2021

Covid family vent

I learned that one of my siblings and their whole family had covid. They are very much against vaccination and will not wear masks unless forced to.

One of the family members told me, while I had a mask on, in a rude snarky way that they chose not to tell ANYONE because of those, pointing to my mask.

At least ten of them were sick and did not tell anybody. They kept it a secret and did not inform people they had been around.

They went out and got their own groceries, going inside the store. They thought it was okay as long as the sick person was home. The family members that were exposed but not yet sick were still going out and to work with no masks on.

I cannot believe the selfishness and arrogance. They are also deeply religious. Their actions show that they only care about themselves.

One of the family members apologized for speaking rudely to me and admitted that maybe they made a mistake not telling anyone so there is that. The rest of the bunch, not one word.

I am so disappointed and angry at their behavior and hurt that my sibling was very sick and didn't want me to know. I would have gladly dropped off food.

I am vaccinated and still wear a mask when I go out. I do it not just for myself. I do it because I know there are others with weakened immune systems that can't handle getting sick. Same thing with the flu shot. It's not just for ME.

I can't take the selfishness and I can't stand the hypocrisy.

Thanks for letting me get that out!!!!!

18 comments posted: Sunday, November 14th, 2021

Kitchen remodel

We are renovating our 25 year old kitchen.

We have oak wood floors and stained trim to work around.

My kitchen and family room are one open room. I have floor to ceiling built in oak bookcases in the family room that match my existing kitchen cabinets.

I think white shaker cabinets would probably look the best with the floor and trim but I haven't made a final decision.

Anyone that has or had painted cabinets, do they hold up as well as stained? I have heard they show dings a lot more and the finish isn't as durable.

Any suggestions, ideas or things I should consider?


10 comments posted: Tuesday, August 17th, 2021

Covid ramble

I live in a rural area. Numbers are low but going up.I am fully vaccinated since May but am still being cautious. My H was vaccinated in February.

With very few exceptions, everyone I am around is acting like the current virus situation is no big deal. They are either vaccinated and feel safe or have no intention of getting one.

People are traveling and attending professional baseball games, going to Disney and going ahead with big weddings.

I honestly don't know what is safe. I am invited to a shower and I know at least a few of the attendees, possibly more are unvaccinated. Should I go or not?

We have friends that live in Florida that have a visit planned in September. They were vaccinated in January and are bringing an unvaccinated child. They regularly go to Disney. They have not made any mention of what is going on with the virus and just assume it is okay to come.

I seem to be mostly alone with my concerns. I am unclear if we are still fully protected 6 months after getting the vaccine. We are being told if we do get sick we won't die or require hospitalization but if it's like getting the flu or pneumonia who wants that?

I do understand that people are tired and want to live their lives but in addition to keeping ourselves well we should not be spreading this virus. The exhausted medical community needs a break and we need to look out for our medically fragile population and keep people well so they can work.

I sometimes feel very alone listening to everyone go on and on about all the trips they are taking and then asking me what I'm doing.

Honestly, its not hard to be grateful for your health, to find joy in everyday things while not contributing to spreading this virus.

This pandemic has shown how very self centered and selfish people are. I just wish the selfish people would stop judging me for being boring and "living in fear."

Thanks to anyone who read through this ramble.

32 comments posted: Monday, August 9th, 2021

Best fitness trackers

I am training for my first 5k in almost 10 years. I currently have a fitbit versa2 and also use map my run.

The app and watch never agree on distance after a run which also affects pace.

Years ago I used a Garmin watch but it was confusing to use.

What is the best way to track runs for distance accuracy? Ease of use is a big plus.

I'm looking at the Apple watch and the versa 3 plus different apps.


10 comments posted: Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Olympic uniforms

The Norwegian female beach handball team was fined for wearing shorts instead of their uniform tiny bikini bottoms.

I can't believe they make them wear those skimpy bathing suits. Meanwhile the men get to wear shorts and a tank top.

Pink offered to pay their fines!!!

8 comments posted: Monday, July 26th, 2021


I am scheduled for a colonoscopy on Tuesday.

This is my third so I am prepared for what is coming. I have had a rough time with the prep in the past possibly due to having IBS-C. I know some people breeze right through with no pain or nausea. That has not been the case for me.

I have been doing a low residue diet and slightly increased my daily miralax dosage. Is there anything else I can do to make things go easier?

I am doing the miralx\dulcolax prep. I see most places have you take 2 dulcolax. This place has you take 4.

I also have a legitimate vomit phobia so I can't tell you how much dread and anxiety this is causing.

I also have a very hard time with getting an I.V. The last time I had one two nurses try with lots of digging. The nurse anesthetist had to eventually put it in. I always tell them ahead of time that I am a hard stick and I still got reprimanded for showing up and not informing them. My first colonoscopy the anesthesiologist told me not to show up so effing dehydrated that it was impossible to get access my veins, while he was throwing things.

Would love any suggestions or encouragement.


36 comments posted: Thursday, July 22nd, 2021

Email question

Can somebody possibly tell me what this means?

I share an email account with my H. In the sent folder there is an email that says brain teaser at the top. From: our email. To: chat.

In the body - Answer: Your breath

Husband's name

H's phone number

There is another one with answer: egg

Husbands name


Phone number



2 comments posted: Thursday, November 5th, 2020

iphone question

If someone were texting from an iphone is there any reason why incoming only texts would show up on the verizon usage log? There are incoming texts from a particular number but no outgoing.

Also, if two people are texting with iphones will those texts show up on the verizon usage log.

I don't have a smart phone so you may have to dumb your answers down.


3 comments posted: Friday, March 27th, 2015

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