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jadedangel ( Member #26979) posted at 10:55 PM on Monday, September 13th, 2021

I wasn't exactly proud of myself for snooping in the first place if it makes it better.

You shouldn't be.

You are divorcing her. What is in her phone is no longer any of your concern.

At least you had the decency after the fact to delete it before you read it.

Divorced 2007.
EXWH died 2011
Remarried 2018!

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Lurkster ( New Member #77252) posted at 12:10 AM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

"...or whatever."

Or whatever indeed. My take is you still feel you lack justification for divorce because there are so many stories posted on here where the BS just wants the smallest amount of remorse from their WS in order to move forward, but it never happens. Remorse is something your WS seems to have in spades. But you don't need further justification. What she did was bad and it made you feel bad and that's enough.

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 MrFlibble (original poster Member #76085) posted at 6:38 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

Well, I strongly believe I have enough to divorce as is. I made it always very clear that infidelity is a deal breaker for me. All that subsequent rolling in the mud was just a by-product of my internal struggle between my heart and my mind. I don't doubt the validity of her remorse all that much, but she's prone to jump all over the place and I wanted to know how genuine her remorse really is, or if it's just a game. Not that it would fundamentally change anything, but it might bring me peace.

But I don't want to be dependant on her it that regard, so I decided to cut that cord loose once and for all. My happiness and content is now up to me, and no one else

Me: BH 33
Her: STBXWW 34
2 daughters under 6

EA/PA with coworker 05/20-09/20
Dday 8-10-2020
TTs, lies and more TT's with remorse here and there
Separated 08/21

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grubs ( Member #77165) posted at 7:44 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

But I don't want to be dependant on her it that regard, so I decided to cut that cord loose once and for all. My happiness and content is now up to me, and no one else

You'll get to true peace faster that way. After all, if you had snooped you'd still not know if she was still truly remorseful six months further down the road.

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