How to deal with divorcing a remorseful WS
I think it's time to open a thread in here since I got a confirmation of a court day today, one month from now.
If you did not read my previous threads in JFO/General here's a shirt recap:
STBXW had an EA/PA with her coworker last spring/summer. Didn't confess, had to pull it out of her over the period of many months. During this time she lied, TTd and denied until I set up a polygraph. Then she came clean. They didn't sleep together (but plans were made), but lots of meetups before/after work, kissing and so on.
Over the last few months she became more and more remorseful and aware of the damage she had done to me, our kids and our family. We tried to work it out, but I ultimately came to realization that this was a dealbreaker (as I knew from the beginning but tried to overpower my own convictions) and decided I want out. We went through her desperation, lashing out, outright refusal to cooperate to a mutual understanding that it's for the best and any other attempts to pursuade me to change my mind would be beating a dead horse.
So we filed for uncontested divorce, STBXW moved out and we started sharing our time with kids according to our agreement. No issues whatsoever, but she still makes it clear she wants to stay together no matter what, which obviously makes it hard on me.
So I would love any kind of advice you can offer. Also, I will probably have many question going forward and I hope you might help with that.
122 comments posted: Tuesday, August 31st, 2021
My wife cheated on me with her coworker. What now 2
Since my original JFO topic reached the limit of 50 pages, I decided to continue with a new one here in general.
If you want to read the whole thread please do here
622 comments posted: Saturday, May 29th, 2021