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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 12:08 AM on Friday, March 31st, 2023
Best of luck moving forward. Wishing the best for you, your WW and family.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Reddirtman ( new member #77340) posted at 1:58 AM on Friday, March 31st, 2023
Best wishes moving forward, Mr. F. Hope you come back from time to time to give an update.
masti ( member #54237) posted at 3:30 AM on Friday, March 31st, 2023
Wishing all the best to you and your family Mr Fibble. I hope you guys make it.
SI Staff ( Moderator #10) posted at 4:28 AM on Friday, March 31st, 2023
ITFC4E ( new member #83183) posted at 10:37 AM on Friday, April 7th, 2023
I hope you keep us updated on the progress of your reconciliation!!
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 3:06 PM on Monday, April 10th, 2023
Welcome back Fibs! Trying for R once D has happened is not something I often see here. You've been through the ringer and have come out a stronger and wiser man, and I think you will take these attributes with you as you move forward.
I disagree that you have shown weakness as on poster put it, though I do agree that women, as a general rule and backed up by numerous studies, are attracted to strong, decisive men. You have shown strength during each step of the situation and have demonstrated to your WW that if there is infidelity, you will terminate the relationship. If she was unclear as to your resolve before, there can be no misunderstanding now.
Only you know if your WW has done the work, but I advise caution as you move forward. Make her demonstrate her growth and healing. Trust sparingly and verify. You now know what she is capable of and so must incorporate that knowledge as you move forward. What you forge as you move forward will be an entirely new relationship, complete with the baggage of the old one. Only this time, you both have full agency moving forward.
Be mindful of intertwining your finances as well, just as a protective measure, but as I recall, you were always very wise in that area. Me, not so much.
Please update as I could use a little good news, as we all could! Here's hoping!
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 10:01 PM on Monday, April 10th, 2023
Welcome back Fibs! Trying for R once D has happened is not something I often see here. You've been through the ringer and have come out a stronger and wiser man, and I think you will take these attributes with you as you move forward.
I disagree that you have shown weakness as on poster put it, though I do agree that women, as a general rule and backed up by numerous studies, are attracted to strong, decisive men. You have shown strength during each step of the situation and have demonstrated to your WW that if there is infidelity, you will terminate the relationship. If she was unclear as to your resolve before, there can be no misunderstanding now.
Only you know if your WW has done the work, but I advise caution as you move forward. Make her demonstrate her growth and healing. Trust sparingly and verify. You now know what she is capable of and so must incorporate that knowledge as you move forward. What you forge as you move forward will be an entirely new relationship, complete with the baggage of the old one. Only this time, you both have full agency moving forward.
Be mindful of intertwining your finances as well, just as a protective measure, but as I recall, you were always very wise in that area. Me, not so much.
Please update as I could use a little good news, as we all could! Here's hoping!
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
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