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I found out my wife is having virtual affair with old boyfriend (moved to General)

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BH wants to have an affair (moved to Wayward Side)

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I have to vent, before I explode!! (moved to Off Topic)

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What shows did you binge post D--day, during S or waiting for D? (moved to General)

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Mental techniques and the psychology of pain (moved to General)

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Help! (moved to General)

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need advice about a long term relationship (moved to General)

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I wish I can go back and change my actions (moved to Wayward Side)

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5+ years later (moved to General)

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Friends without integrity (moved to General)

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Tiger Woods in horrible car crash (moved to General)

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Coparents I need some help. (moved to Divorce/Separation)

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marriage (moved to General)

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Happy Birthday Ariopolis!!!

2 comments posted: Sunday, February 14th, 2021

Happy Birthday Lowlow!!!!

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3 comments posted: Sunday, February 14th, 2021

Hypocrisy of the AP (moved to General)

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My Life (moved to Wayward Side)

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His denial of outrageous behaviour continues to affect me and ki (moved to General)

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Grieving the old marriage (moved to Wayward Side)

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5 Year Emotional Affair - Having a Hard Time w/ Reconcilation (moved to Just Found Out)

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So tired (moved to General)

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Request for advice turned second Dday (moved to General)

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Struggling (moved to Just Found Out)

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Falling apart...or going crazy? (moved to General)

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Not sure what to do..Wife cheated (moved to General)

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Books (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Wednesday, October 28th, 2020

New Topic in I Can Relate

We've opened up a new thread in I Can Relate based on some recent feedback. It's titled Former Waywards not in Reconciliation

1 comment posted: Wednesday, October 21st, 2020

Former Waywards not in Reconciliation

A thread for former Waywards who are working on themselves after divorce or breakup. Betrayed spouses are not allowed to post. The On Topic guideline covers this topic.

66 comments posted: Wednesday, October 21st, 2020

Madhatters Only - Part 2

This thread is restricted to MadHatter's

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8 comments posted: Monday, October 19th, 2020

Maybe it was wrong but I had to do it (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Wednesday, September 30th, 2020

2020 Christmas Card Exchange (moved to Fun & Games)

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0 comment posted: Thursday, September 10th, 2020

Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 21

For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict

992 comments posted: Sunday, September 6th, 2020

Betrayed Womenz Thread - Part 4

A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.

866 comments posted: Tuesday, September 1st, 2020

Well it happened (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Thursday, July 30th, 2020

BS Questions for WS - Part 14

This thread is for Betrayed Spouses to ask questions of Wayward Spouses. Betrayed Spouses are not to answer on this thread.

700 comments posted: Monday, July 20th, 2020

and just like that... (moved to Divorce/Separation)

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Was the betrayed now the betrayer (moved to General)

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Limerent impulse or exit affair? (moved to General)

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Old Guy Visits after Years Divorced 18 yrs (moved to General)

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A Fresh DDay for me - I became a BS at a new level (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Monday, February 3rd, 2020

An Anonymous Survey on Marital Infidelity (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Wednesday, January 22nd, 2020

Betrayed Womenz Thread - Part 3

A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.

999 comments posted: Friday, November 15th, 2019

Betrayed Menz Thread - Part 34

Part #34

801 comments posted: Thursday, October 24th, 2019

2019 Christmas Card Exchange (moved to Fun & Games)

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Infidelemojis (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Monday, September 30th, 2019

Betrayed Womenz Thread

A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.

999 comments posted: Tuesday, September 17th, 2019

SI Staff

Testing new topic.

2 comments posted: Thursday, September 5th, 2019

Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 20

For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict

999 comments posted: Wednesday, July 31st, 2019

Long Term Affairs Part 39

559 comments posted: Wednesday, February 6th, 2019

Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 19

For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict.

999 comments posted: Saturday, January 26th, 2019

BS Questions for WS's - Part 13

This thread is for Betrayed Spouses to ask questions of Wayward Spouses. Betrayed Spouses are not to answer on this thread.

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999 comments posted: Thursday, November 15th, 2018

12th Annual Christmas Card Exchange (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Thursday, October 11th, 2018

Betrayed Menz Thread-Part 33

Here you go gents!

999 comments posted: Saturday, August 4th, 2018

Betrayed Womenz Thread

A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.

999 comments posted: Thursday, July 26th, 2018

Emotionless Infidelity Part 4

Emotionless Infidelity, for those that have personally dealing with a WS who is into Prostitutes and/or Anonymous Encounters.

595 comments posted: Tuesday, July 10th, 2018

Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 18

For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict.

999 comments posted: Sunday, April 1st, 2018

Splitting from a narcissist? (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Sunday, March 25th, 2018

Test

Test

6 comments posted: Monday, February 26th, 2018

When A WS Leaves For Their OP Part 2

Support for BS's that have been left for the OP

796 comments posted: Thursday, January 25th, 2018

Spouses/Partners with Personality Disorders

This thread can include both BPD and NPD.

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263 comments posted: Saturday, December 23rd, 2017

Training for nurse (moved to Off Topic)

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0 comment posted: Monday, November 6th, 2017

Dealing with OC

For BS's that are dealing with children that came from the affair

252 comments posted: Friday, October 13th, 2017

Long Term Affairs Part 38

Here you go

999 comments posted: Friday, September 1st, 2017

Back the blue - Leo's, Medical - Everyone !!!!!!!! (moved to Off Topic)

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0 comment posted: Wednesday, August 16th, 2017

Codependency & Loving Too Much

For those with direct experience

217 comments posted: Tuesday, January 24th, 2017

Funny Cheater Xmas Story (from reddit /r/drama) (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Friday, December 23rd, 2016

11th Annual Christmas Card Exchange

In case you missed the Christmas Card Exchange thread, you can find it up in the General forum. Here's the link -

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=593202

The deadline to sign up is October 31st. More details and an FAQ in the thread, where you will also find the link to the sign up form.

5 comments posted: Monday, October 24th, 2016

Spouses with Same Gender APs

For those that have personally dealt with this particular issue.

520 comments posted: Wednesday, June 8th, 2016

How do you read SI? (moved to General)

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I've developed and inappropriate relationship; 2x4s needed (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Friday, February 19th, 2016

Sexual Abuse Survivors/Spouses - Part 3

For those that are personally dealing with this situation.

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660 comments posted: Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

Postive New Beginning Stories!

Please share your new beginning stories on this thread...this thread is to help encourage those that are starting their lives over and finding happiness all over again

49 comments posted: Sunday, January 17th, 2016

stupid picture friday (moved to Just Found Out)

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0 comment posted: Friday, December 25th, 2015

#1 Hell Hath NO Fury Award (moved to General)

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Support Through Prayer ...Part 3

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Help contacting a BW (moved to General)

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Ashley Madison: Life is Short, Fill in the Blank (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Sunday, August 30th, 2015

The S.I. Official Cookbook Thread

We are pleased to announce the official Surviving Infidelity Cookbook!!!

Everyone is encouraged to contribute their favorite recipes! We do however ask that you also include the number of servings, prep time, cook time, etc., and please be specific, if you post add one cup of onions, let us know if that is chopped, minced or whole. We ask that you please included any nutritional facts, if you have them.

And if you have any food or wine pairings, we would love that as well.

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Please include which category you feel your recipe belongs in.

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21 comments posted: Sunday, August 30th, 2015

Ashley Madison (moved to General)

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car insurance quotes (moved to Off Topic)

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Joking in our Reconciliation (moved to Reconciliation)

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1,000 Post Party for crazynot!!

Congrats, crazynot! Thank you for being here with us and sharing the journey!

6 comments posted: Friday, February 6th, 2015

1,000 Post Party for Devotedman!!!!

Congratulations!! Thank you for being a part of this community and sharing with us!

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1,000 Post Party for Dr. Jekyll!!!

Congratulations, man! Thank you for all you have shared with us. You've shown a lot of growth and compassion and we appreciate it!

8 comments posted: Wednesday, February 4th, 2015

1,000 Post Party for mhca!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support you give.

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40,000 Post Party for authenticnow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support, time, and caring you have given!

28 comments posted: Saturday, January 31st, 2015

1,000 Post Party for lilies21!!

Yay for lilies21! Thank you for being a part of our community!

11 comments posted: Friday, January 30th, 2015

Pigs (moved to Divorce/Separation)

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0 comment posted: Thursday, January 29th, 2015

200,000 Post Party for Deeply Scared!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!!! Thank you for being our light through good times and bad.

53 comments posted: Monday, January 26th, 2015

1,000 Post Party for Morhurt!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support you give!

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1,000 Post Party for Pollybuddy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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8 comments posted: Sunday, January 25th, 2015

How to print messages from the phone (moved to Off Topic)

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0 comment posted: Sunday, December 21st, 2014

N P D Thread - Part 14

706 comments posted: Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014

Now Playing (moved to Just Found Out)

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0 comment posted: Friday, May 23rd, 2014

SI quote thread- Vol 14

Yes, I know. (13 was intentionally skipped)

311 comments posted: Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

Double Betrayal

476 comments posted: Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

Madhatters Only Thread

This thread is restricted to MadHatter's Only.

999 comments posted: Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Positive Reconciliation Stories

This thread is for is ONLY FOR POSITIVE stories.

No venting.

No OP talk.

Strictly reconciling progress between couples. Share your stories as you heal.

534 comments posted: Thursday, January 5th, 2012

Support for BS in Limbo

A topic for BS only that are still undecided on what path they will take.

640 comments posted: Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

For Those Who Found Out Years Later

A thread for those of you who found out about affairs years after they were over.

952 comments posted: Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)

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Test Thread (moved to General)

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Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)

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Test Thread (moved to Fun & Games)

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Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)

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0 comment posted: Thursday, June 11th, 2009

Emotional Affairs

A thread for those seeking support for affairs that were strictly emotional.

942 comments posted: Thursday, April 3rd, 2008

"I Can Relate" Forum

Each new thread must be submitted to and recieve Moderator approval before being started.

No new threads or groups will be posted in here by anyone other than a Moderator. This will protect against duplication and ensure that equal support is given to each situation.

95 comments posted: Monday, April 2nd, 2007

Newbies...Important Information - Please Read

1. First of all, know that you are not alone. This happens to people every minute of every day.

Realize that this is something that you CAN and WILL survive.

2. You may feel that you need to make a final decision immediately. Your feelings will likely fluctuate - many describe these changing and conflicting feelings as the "rollercoaster" Take time for yourself, your emotions may be too raw for the first 6 months to make an informed and healthy decision on which direction you want to truly go. A hasty decision either way may make you feel trapped if you haven't given yourself some time to heal and tend to what you need for your own emotional health.

3. Be certain you want people outside of your marriage/relationship to know of the Affair. You may regret telling people later down the road.

4. Seek out a Counselor that specializes in infidelity and family crisis. It helps to have a mediator that can guide you both in the direction of healing.

5. Don't take advice from people that have never experienced infidelity or ones that immediately say "cut and run...". They are not in your shoes and do not know your history and/or investment with your relationship.

6. Regardless of the outcome, there are thousands of members here who can testify to having a wonderful life after being hit with infidelity.

7. Take necessary steps to ensure that the A is over. Having your WS write a No Contact letter to the OP is a very healthy first step towards healing and recovery.

8. Many BS's are unsure of what direction to go, keep in mind, you're not in a race, there is no time limit on when it feels right for you to take another step forward.

9. Consult an attorney to know what your rights are should divorce be the path you decide to walk down.

10. See your Doctor if you're feeling overwhelmed, depressed and can't seem to concentrate.

11. Make sure to take care of yourself. It's very hard to eat and sleep when the pain is so deep, but you must remember that your health is very important.

12. Do not take any responsibility for the Affair. Your spouse/partner made a conscious choice to cheat, you did not push them into the arms of another person.

13. Odds are your spouse/partner had unprotected sex. Please make sure you're both tested for STD's before engaging in sex with eachother. Please do not be embarrassed to talk to your Doctor about possible STD's, there's not much that they haven't already heard.

14. Please take the time to read in the Healing Library (upper left corner, yellow box), there are numerous articles and resources that will help you cope with your feelings.

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34 comments posted: Tuesday, August 15th, 2006

Religious & Political threads

SI is a support board from the pain of infidelity. We have very few rules here. We have asked in the past to please refrain posting about religious or political beliefs.

PLEASE NOTE - The No Politics guideline has been revised and the banner at the top of the forums has changed to reflect the change -

IMPORTANT NOTICE: SI Staff has decided that the recent no politics guideline changes will be permanent. There is to be NO mention of political names, and absolutely no political topic content in any context. Any violation of this guideline will result in the loss of posting privileges. Thank you.

This means members are no longer allowed to post about politicians even if the post is infidelity related.

If you have questions, please contact the staff to discuss.

Thank you for your cooperation.

-SI Staff

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143 comments posted: Sunday, February 5th, 2006

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