I have said that relationships are like a stool in that it depends on 3 legs. In relationship/narriage, those legs are
If one of those legs is destroyed, the relationship/marriage is gone. I’m sorry, but in your case, all THREE legs are gone.
Do you really think that you will ever actually trust her again? If you did try to get back together with her, Anytime she is 5 minutes late, you are going to be wondering if she is on her back in some cheap hotel by the airport. Is she cheating/not cheating with some guy in the back of a car again? Is that the type of marriage/relationship you hope to have?
I’m sorry, but she obviously doesn’t respect you or else she never would have done what she did.
And the sad part is that she is losing more and more Respect for you every day that you aren’t brutally honest with her and tell her that there is absolutely ZERO CHANCE of you two ever getting back together. Right now, she sees that you haven’t moved in, therefore she feels like you two getting back together is going to happen!!! If she did respect you, would she have ever sent those photos to her lover(s)? Of course not!!!
This one is so blatantly obvious that I feel foolish bringing it up. Do you REALLY believes she loves you? Do you think she was remembering all your good times when she was planning and telling you lies???? Do you think she was remembering how you proposed to her while giving herself to him? Even now, do you think she loves you when she is selfishly worried more about herself and her future rather than the pain you are feeling caused by HER?!?!?
I’m not going to tell you what you should do as you seem to know what you must do. It might take time to get over the shock, the disbelief, and anger, but I think you will get there.
As for the dating pool, I am just a bit olde than you, and I have to say that I find the dating pool of women to be incredible. Since my divorce, some 3 1/2 years ago, I have had a great deal of fun with women. I’m not wealthy or gorgeous, but I was shocked at the incredibly high number of extremely high quality single women that are looking for good men. I am actually the one that usually gets asked out. Yes, there are some crazies and incredibly needy ones that want a long term commitment after the first date, but the vast majority are great women. In Florida, I can only assume that the numbers are significantly higher.
In the end, do what you must do that is in YOUR best interest!!! What will make YOU happy?!?!
She has shown you who and what she really is! You now know that the woman you loved was a figment of your imagination, and now see who and what she really is, an incredibly selfish woman
There is nothing wrong if cheating is a dealbreaker for you. It certainly was for me.
Do what you must, and there is no need to fear the unknown. Since turning 50 and having a heart attack, I’ve cone to realize that time is too short to deal with the ridiculousness of people unworthy of my time, feelings, and commitment. The other side is great!!
NEVER allow yourself to be someone else’s Plan B!!!! Respect yourself enough to say, "HELL NO!!!!" to that!!!!
And do what you must do that you can always look the man in the mirror in the eye.
Time to move on!