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15 Things Cheaters Say When Confronted

on youtube - blundered into the

"15 Things Cheaters Say When Confronted"

worth a look I think

"We" should be quick to point this stuff out to the JFOs

part of the cheaters handbook?

Ring a bell with anyone?

edit: She hit 7 of them when confronted

7 comments posted: Tuesday, August 9th, 2022

The Body Keeps the Score - health due to cheating experience

Thoughts/experiences anyone?

I was looking at some SI historical posts and blundered into 'ohforanewme' last thread and the reference of his passing noted in General Nov 11/2019.

It seems he is the "poster boy" case for the immense and awful stress and pain of betrayal contribution (my postulation) on the quick onset of his illness as noted theme in the book by Mr. Bessel.

I can relate somewhat to what the stress of learning your spouse has betrayed.

The last TT I received - the full extent of the affair - affected me in an unanticipated way.

Something like "out of body" / brain just stopped thinking / mind blank on what to do next / no emotion / no pain / just "there" but not. Fortunately I didn't lose by sense of balance as I was standing. Took several minutes before brain stated working in that I thought I should move and do something. What? - I had no effing idea - just lost/blank.

I remember, sorta, the look on her face when she realized what she had just inflicted (by words) on me.

I remember ohforanewme having the inner strength to deal rationally with his situation. (Read his JFO thread) - went back and looked to refrech memory and found the "ending" post which led me to think aboout the topic in "The Body Keeps the Score."

So can you relate any health issues to your experience that brought you to SI?

I guess I am pain-shopping a bit - but also wondering if I fit the mold of what it takes to stay with the WW (no longer) and be happy.

Thanks in advance for any replies.

15 comments posted: Tuesday, March 1st, 2022


enjoyed the tongue-in-cheek postings - anyone heard from him since last year?

1 comment posted: Wednesday, January 19th, 2022

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