Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
Friend Moving Out: Post Script
Moderators, if this is inappropriate, I apologize and ask/suggest that this be deleted ASAP.
About a week and a half ago, I posted a small new thread simply stating that a friend of mine, who stayed married solely for the kids, was about to move out and file as his youngest was about to graduate from high school.
I had no motive in creating this thread other than to say that this option, the option staying for the kids and leaving when they are grown, is an option someone that I know took to its completion.
I did not expect the responses and extreme differences of opinions that were expressed. I actually forgot about the thread and was only reminded of it because someone sent me a private conversation about it when it was getting heated, which I saw when I first logged on yesterday. I thought so little of the thread that I don’t think I logged on between the day I created it and yesterday. The delay between first seeing that the thread went off the rails(yesterday), and writing this thread (today), which is actually only hours apart, is actually because I didn’t have time to read all of the texts earlier.
I think many read things into this situation and or projected their own issues/experiences into it.
Once again, I did not intend the thread to go off the rails or anticipate that it would cause any interest at all.
I do apologize for causing the increased level of passion expressed by those that commented on the thread.
4 comments posted: Saturday, June 4th, 2022
Friend moving out
Four years ago, when I discovered that my wife was cheating on me, I reached out to a coworker that the rumor mill said that discovered his wife cheated on him. A few months later, our group expanded to 6 people. We would lean on each other for advice as well as just going out for drinks. All of us became friends.
While most of us divorced our spouses immediately, this one guy stayed with his family for the sake of his family. He put on the best face for the wife, while always planning on leaving once the youngest graduates from high school.
Well, the youngest graduates in less than two weeks, and he just closed on a condo last month. Everyone knows about the wife’s affair, including the kids. Everyone, especially the wife thinks that they have completely reconciled and have move past her affair. But he hasn’t. He was staying around for his kids ONLY!! He plans on moving out sometime this month. Yes, he has been meeting with a lawyer for some time, and he says he doesn’t do anything without their approval.
He plans on moving out and having her served at work since AP was a coworker.
144 comments posted: Wednesday, June 1st, 2022
It has been two years since my divorce was finalized. I’m not sure if anyone other that ex and maybe kids remembers.
My life is going very well right now, and seeing someone for a relatively short period of time. Have minimal contact with ex as kids are both college age, but living at home. She is still living with her parents and really just beginning to rebuild her professional life. I don’t think she ever has had even a short term relationship with another person since separation. And she has asked/begged repeatedly for another chance whenever she knows that I’m not dating anyone, which is not going to happen.
I was just wondering, does anyone do anything to celebrate/commemorate the anniversary of their divorce being finalized? If so, what?
Thanks, and have a good day.
21 comments posted: Wednesday, September 23rd, 2020