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elKAPPYtan

Me: 36 STBXWW: 36 DDay: Oct 3rd 2019

"You keep it in between the pages of the books you burn so no one gets to read" -Corey MF Taylor

Had my final talk with WW

I will not ask again for a timeline. I told her I love her, that I want to make this work, but up to now it's been hell and that I can not heal by myself while in this marriage. It's been 19 months and I will not accept the current state of affairs and I will go file if she isn't going to step up.

I will be watching her actions, she said all the right words again. I am serious, this is the last convo that I will have with her. I will be shopping for a new IC in the next week. I will see where she is at in a month.

This is my shit or get off the pot moment. After all these months, I finally feel better, like I have taken the first step FINALLY out of infidelity, what remains to be seen is if we are going to grow together, or if I am going to do it solo.

I did tell her to make an account here, she did initially make and account and post her story on reddit and got lit up. I think she will find this place helpful.

[This message edited by elKAPPYtan at 11:27 AM, May 28th (Friday)]

46 comments posted: Friday, May 28th, 2021

happy 4/20

Peace

22 comments posted: Monday, April 19th, 2021

When to call it quits

It's been so long since I posted here, over a year for sure.

Currently 18 and a half months since discovering my WW EA a number of years prior.

I guess I am trying to gage how long I should give her. This last week, I took care of the last item on my list, which was paternity testing the kids, I should have the results in a couple of days. Meanwhile, she hasn't put together a timeline of her affiar, no lie detector test, and she attended 3 or 4 IC sessions before Covid, but has made no attempt to resume her sessions. She bought books that she never read. I requested all of her old phones so that I could go through her messages, she made no attempt to locate them.

Aside from her lack of action, she has been honest and transparent with me since DDay, and has been understanding with the terrible days I still have. While I appreciate it, and how she is attentive to the triggers I do still have, that list wasn't optional.

We fight over it, she tells me that I know everything, that most of the time they spoke on the phone and it was 6 years ago, she can't remember, etc. etc. etc. She tells me she doesn't understand why I would need a timeline. At best it will just be a rehash of everything I read in their messages back and forth on facebook. That is not what I want, and I don't buy that she can't remember, considering I remember what she was wearing the first time I saw her, I remember vividly the 2 hours we spent at dinner just talking and what about. If I had to generate a timeline today of our courtship, I could get pretty damn close of calendars and memory alone, and that is after 12 years.

As the time goes on I notice more and more that I feel indifferent to her. I am to the point where stay or go, I really truly don't care either way anymore, and feel I would be better off on my own going forward. Is this the point where I should call it quits?

Thanks

[This message edited by elKAPPYtan at 2:15 PM, April 19th (Monday)]

23 comments posted: Monday, April 19th, 2021

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