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No words. Just tears. RIP friend.

Although I never met him I feel I knew him like a true friend. He always had the right thing to say and used the most beautiful words.

My heart breaks for his children, family and friends. Rest in Peace Good Friend! You will be missed by your entire SI Family!

[This message edited by SuperDaddy1027 at 2:18 PM, November 11th (Monday)]

RIP Dear Friend. You were loved by so many because you showed love seen by very few of us.

Sending strength and peace to his family. The world has lost an empathic soul

The anonymity of this site can be both a curse and a blessing. In this case, it somehow feels “wrong” to say RIP Ohforanewme if you get what I’m trying to say. I wish there was a way for us to personally convey our sorrows to his family. I’m sure they have enough to deal with right now, I just feel so sad for MMS and his beloved children.

So sad to hear this today. His was the most optimistic, generous voice I can remember ever seeing in an online community.

Jeez...this just sucks.

Really good guy. I'll keep his family in my prayers.

Such sad news.

RIP to a fabulous member of our community. I send my sincerest best wishes to his children, his new wife and all those who loved him, my heart breaks for them all.

Our friend gave MMS the access information for SI, so I encourage folks to post their tributes and memories here for her. Obviously she is in trauma now, and there are many IRL relationships to manage now, and funeral and memorial plans to make and implement. But eventually she will look in here I think. And it will be a comfort to her to see how loved her husband was here, and how many he helped. I hope folks will post their memories and tributes here.

Rest in eternal peace, Ohforanewme - you will be missed.

Such sad news. Rest In Peace ohforanewme.

I knew this was coming, but I still wasn't ready.

Rest well, dear friend. I hope your journey to the other side is peaceful and filled with love.

No one could transport me to another land or destination as poetically as the words you so often gave us. Your journey here at SI is on my short list of most memorable. From the brutal depths of your JFO experience to the highs of finding your MMS and bliss of your wedding vows. You treated all here with a level of dignity, grace, and kindness that I haven't experienced in real life.

I've lost a dear friend. And I never even got to meet you. I never got to visit you in South Africa. I never got to bring you along on my drives in the country.

I'm comforted that you were surrounded by loved ones and that you truly LIVED your last few days, on your terms.

The world just lost a unique voice. Everything seems gray without you with us.

Rest in peace, ohforanewme.

[This message edited by squid at 4:11 PM, November 11th, 2019 (Monday)]

His story of meeting her at the grocery store, looking for mushrooms. I will never forget that.

Ohforanewme is irreplaceable. My pm’s with him make me cry today.

Our first few pm’s he in equal parts consoled me, tested me, buoyed me and his words always brought print to life.

He was quite verbose: I’d get a pm and know I needed to grab a glass of wine, get my reading glasses and settle in😂

He gave me a SA iternerary that I will promise to take.

A quote from ohforanewme well after he was diagnosed and suffering: “if I had the chance to live any life, this is the life i would choose.”

My heartfelt condolences to MMS and the children and his extended family. He was a treasure to so many.

Rest In Peace, my friend.

[This message edited by Greeneyesbluezy at 4:39 PM, November 11th (Monday)]

I'm here to celebrate the life of Ohfor... We here who have followed his story from the beginning saw a man who was successful at life with an attitude towards others such as a superiority complex, be transformed by infidelity. He learned compassion. He learned what was important in life, family, love, honor, integrity. With his skill for writing, we all saw him transform into the person of honor with humility that he became. He found his inner strength to do all the right things as a father, an individual, a friend.

He will be missed on this earth. But he will live on in the annals of SI.

I would like to propose to create a new category to add to the web site. Kind of like a hall of fame thread lines. It should contain both the memorial threads of both R and D. It will help future newbies see the importance of taking action. When people take action, they get out of infidelity. Ohfor's thread definitely deserves to be in there for the number of people he has touched and help through reading how he made his way through his journey out of infidelity and finding his new beginning.

[This message edited by NoOptTo at 5:02 PM, November 11th (Monday)]

Ohfor,

I pray you find your journey to the other just as beautiful as your life here was with us.

The world lost a wonderful man.

Sending prayers and strength to MMS, DDS, and all of his family.

You are truly the blessed ones to be his family.

RIP dear Ohforanewme.

I'm sorry to hear this, rest in peace.

To MMS, and family, your beloved husband, father, and friend took us along on his journeys with you. I have looked up, and enjoyed, all the places he wrote about. Places I never knew. He was a comfort and a joy to us here on SI. I hope your grief is partnered with celebration that you had him in your life.