When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where the power is.
exAP very publicly vocal
I’m doing ok, WH is doing ok, life is generally easy and happy. We keep to ourselves and concentrate on repairing our family. He’s working hard. Tbh I’m proud of him.
But (and this is truly an issue for me with reconciliation) the exAP is NOW using the affair as part of her strategy to promote her new ‘coaching’ business which is based on sex, dating and relationships 🙄. I’ve been dealing with a couple of videos describing the ‘relationship’ (she’s ALWAYS the victim of emotional and mental abuse, I’m always ‘HIS EX’ never the wife) and how she fought back to exit this damaging relationship for her 🤮. I have avoided her SM as much as is humanly possible to do, (hard when you know that she will be discussing this) but I have now been told there will soon be ‘podcasts’ which I know will have her talking about my WH (again) because she describes their relationship as the ‘reason’ for what she’s doing, ‘helping’ women avoid men like him! Nothing to do with the six figure salary she’s hoping for... but I digress.
It’s been a hard few months dealing with this. I’ve also woken up to see her bloody face on the page of a national newspaper around all of this, so I really am in need of support.
IRL friends and family are just tired of hearing about her, I barely mention her as I get shut down if I do. They hate her, they loathe everything she stands for and don’t want her to have any power over me but that’s easier said than done.
I’m tired and worn out of there always being another way of her shouting about it all from the rooftops.
I just want to move forward but this keeps throwing me back.
I won’t listen to these podcasts when they start, i know pretty much everything there is to know about the affair because she’s already put it out there, I guess that makes me ‘lucky’ I have the whole picture, maybe I just want some sympathy.
I haven’t given her anything, I won’t feed a narcissist, so we will not respond to any of this.
I just want to heal quietly. Anyone else had to deal with this sort of thing?
[This message edited by Dragonfly123 at 7:40 AM, May 9th (Sunday)]
34 comments posted: Sunday, May 9th, 2021