Summertime22 ( member #79796) posted at 10:38 PM on Sunday, June 19th, 2022
Thank you. I can’t tell you how much I needed those words today.
Thank you. I am 6 months in and may sleep a little easier tonight- which is saying a lot! Believe me. Thank you. X
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:54 PM on Monday, June 20th, 2022
If you consider R, consider the fact that the ap affaired down with your WS.
I found that pretty daunting. I saw things in my W that ow did not see. I had admired many of my W's characteristics. I lusted for her. I thought R was the right choice for me, but I needed someone who really knew us to argue against it, and that someone had to be me.
I'm for R when both partners will do the work and when the BS - WS, too - make themselves as aware as they can that R is hard work, with a LOT of unpleasantness and downright pain to work though, not least of which is: the ap, as awful as they are, affaired down with the person the Bs wants to R with.
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fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
