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To Our brave and strong scooby. So glad you are safe. Big hugs

Glass up to Scooby here in CO! Was out of the loop today getting my car fixed, but so so SO glad you and kids are all safe dear!

Was out walking at wine time. Having mine now.

Was working so a bit delayed... cheers to Scooby and all of your wonderful kids!

Oh, and FUCK!

Thank you ladies,

I'm taking a couple days out to spend much needed time with my whole family.

I just need to spend time with them atm,

Stay strong girls...I WILL BE BACK

NO MORE FUCKS GIVEN

Holy Cow Scooby! I just read here about the.....CROSSBOW”!!!!!! I cannot even imagine.... he is lucky the police did not kill him....

Enjoy your camping trip and kick back for now.

Mimosa morning girls?

Well it kinda feels like it fits this am.

DANG!!! I normally lurk on here...but I had to go back about 4 pages to catch up...y'all really went to town on this thread !!!

First off...Scoobydoo...I am HAPPY that you are safe and with your family . Your WH's post in JFO would have been almost sweet...if he wouldn't have written all that VILE stuff in Wayward !!! The minds of Waywards can be just like affairs...SENSELESS!!!

TX1995...for ME...facing the triggers helped me to overcome them . Maybe you can try facing one to see how it goes for you? If it works...then conquer those bastards Dear Lady !!!

I never understood why FUCK isn't used more in some of these threads. "Having sex" seems too sanitized for me. THEY fucked...like teenagers...according to what my H said the adultery co-conspirator mentioned about THEIR fucking. When I stated that meant THEY fucked all the time...my H quickly said NO...it meant that THEY fucked awkwardly . FUCK THAT!!! Thank y'all for making me smile...and getting all of my FUCKS out !!!

Another word that bothers me is "affair". It seems too sanitized also. ADULTERY is what it is...punishable by an everlasting stint in HELL!!! My H was SHOCKED when I told him that I couldn't believe he had damned his soul to hell by committing adultery. The look on his face...I can see it to this day . He didn't think that what he had done was adultery...because he didn't have an affair . Affairs were something that coworkers did. I'm serious!!! I couldn't make this stuff up !!! So when a sweet BW coined that term on here..."adultery co-conspirator"...I knew that was what I would write from now on . These people weren't "affair partners" . They were FUCKING adultery co-conspirators!!!!

Rant over . Sorry...all of this stuff with Scoobydoo brought back memories of my XWH...who was eerily a lot like ScoobyDUM. It feels GOOD to get it off of my fucking chest !!!

Scooby, enjoy your peace with your family.

TG - I wouldn't turn down a bloody or mimosa if offered right now! It's Saturday, day drinking and brunch drinking is totally kosher.

W2B - Glad you posted. I always appreciate your positivity. Thanks for the advice. It's good to know that you have been able to overcome those triggers. I'm so annoyed that he's taken things I like away from me that HE DOESN'T EVEN LIKE! Las Vegas, a variety of restaurants, an entire shopping center with my favorite store in it! I want those things back.

I also agree that FUCK is the only way to describe what they did. It's the only way I describe it to him. I've never thought about the affair word, but I think you are right. It romanticizes it. That's probably why my WH calls her AP. Less dirty.

On an interesting note, I had sex last night. I didn't even think about her at all during it. I cried afterwards of course. You know what I was thinking? That THIS was how he felt during the A. That he just wanted to get off and nothing else entered his head - like me. That's how I was. I asked for it, even though I wasn't emotionally connected to him in any way. I just hadn't had sex in three months and wanted to. Made me feel after. Making it all about me worked in the moment, but reminded me how little he thought of me 2.5 years ago when he was fucking her. Ugh. Infidelity sucks. Now I've got that panic anxiety in my chest.

Was going to try to clean house today but am going a different course and doing some painting for me. And having coffee with a little Kahlua in its - thanks for the idea TG! Hope y'all have a great Saturday womenz!

[This message edited by TX1995 at 12:00 PM, August 24th (Saturday)]

Happy fucking Saturday!

I didn’t get on last night but my deer Scooby - you were toasted with some lovely Pino Grigio over a dinner of scampi.

Tonight I have an impromptu night out. WH band plays and teen has plans. You will be toasted again.

Your update OMG. The shed. Hiding in the shed with a loaded cross bow. Holy fuck! So glad the authorities had it together. Hugs and prayers for you and your children.

Take care of yourself and your children my beautiful and brave Scooby.

I never liked "affair" either. Sounds too nice, like an afternoon tea. I use MOW instead of AP and cheating insteadof affair. Adultery co-conspirator takes too long to type. They were definitely co-conspirators, though.

I wonder if my fch thought about going to hell. I'm not a believer, but he's Catholic. Although, I think maybe Catholics can get away with it as long as they repent.

I know this is BW and not LTA thread, but I call WH's POSOW that or "girlfriend". Early on he asked me to use AP and not girlfriend, but IMO, if you had a 10-15yr EA followed by a 10yr PA, the POSOW is more than an "AP".... she's your fucking girlfriend.

TX - your dday is nearly a year before mine, so bummer about the sex thing. It took me some time to emotionally detach but once I mastered it, it was quite helpful. Doesn't mean I stopped having mind movies or the emotional hangover afterwards, but did become farther between.

I want those things back .

YESSSS...that is how I felt too TX1995...HOW DARE THEY take things from ME !!! I'm not a person to get angered easily...but around 6 months after DDay...I started the ANGER phase. That RAGE fueled something in me that kept me FIGHTING for ME. When I had success with OWNING the first few triggers...I didn't turn back .

BTW...one of the biggest triggers for me was hotel rooms. I conquered that one by telling my H that I wanted him to initiate sex EVERY time we went to a hotel. We travel a lot for his job...and are in hotels quite often. Doing this WORKED . I am actually in the GREAT state of Texas right now...in a hotel room...ENJOYING IT !!! I am so THANKFUL that I fought like I did...but at the time...it was a torturous journey. So TX1995...Howdy neighbor !!!

cocoplus5nuts...it IS a long word to type !!! I started typing "ACC"...but it didn't have the same meaning to me...so I take the extra few seconds to type it out . Who knows...maybe a WS might see the word ADULTERY and have an epiphany like my H did . I'm a "Triple C"...a Cradle Catholic Cajun...I came into this world like that !!! We definitely believe in repentance...so hopefully your fch is doing his best to make amends for his sins...because he KNOWS where he is going to end up otherwise.

gmc94...I always say in my head "PIECE OF SHIT" when I see "POS". I like to see the acronym COW also...it's the little things that count for me !!!

This is what MisterSister looked like when both the MC and I said in unison (not planned) "She was your GIRLFRIEND!"

SisterMilkshake...that's what my H looked like when I told him he damned his soul to hell for committing adultery !!!

I wonder if we can make this the picture that goes on the front of the "Cheaters Handbook"???!!!

Lifelong Catholic here.

I vote 🙋🏼‍♀️ for the picture of Mr Sister on the cover of the Cheaters Handbook 😂

I used the phrase “slutty ass bitch” until I settled on Donut Whore. Donut Whore sums it up all quite nicely.

And ...FUCK. Just because....

Ladies, I am making fucking sangria tonight. And I am fucking drinking the fucking sangria.

My adulterer called his bitch whore, his girlfriend, that is how he introduced her to people. This for 5 years. That is how I refer to her with him - your girlfriend. When I am angry it sounds more like your prostitute whore girlfriend.

As for sex, glad you did, sad to hear about the tears. I hear that post infidelity sex tends to have a certain amount of required amount of tears after. I am sorry that these fucking adulterers have done this.

Me, no tears post sex. Mostly because there has been no sex for years. See why I like sangria... it i can trust. Can you turn into a virgin again?

Today, today I hate him. And he has more than earned it.

We will see about tomorrow.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 4:30 PM, August 24th (Saturday)]

This is too perfect! In the aftermath of D-day I referred to my husband’s COW as “your fucking girlfriend.” He didn’t like it much but knew better than to protest.

Now if he has to refer to her he calls her, “that ho” or “that ho [her name]” because he did it once and it made me laugh.

Scooby - please continue to keep us updated. The image of the crossbow gives me full body chills.

I'm going to ask my fch about hell.

Coco how are you going tp phrase that. I may ask my wh(y).

That made me giggle.

I will revise your girlfriend label to your fucking girlfriend.