Anyone else ready to give up dating?
I don’t know what to say about online dating other than people are jerks. Holy it is unbelievable.
So I am 58, 6 ft tall and no longer skinny but I think I still look ok. My ego was trashed on Sunday.
Here is the story….
I agreed to meet a guy and play crib in a pub. We both like games. It felt fun, and I liked his apparent sincerity. So I drive 35 minutes to the meeting place.
He saw me walk into the pub, did not think it was me because I wasn't tall or looked like my picture and he stayed in his truck for 15 mins more than left.
I was there for 2.5 hours, eventually decided to have soup and talked to my cousin on the phone. It's the first time I have had a meal by myself in a restaurant, so that was good. I thought I was stood up, which was not a good feeling.
When I got home I realized he had messaged me from the truck, that's when he told me. He saw me walk into the pub, said I didn’t look tall or like my picture. I was flabbergasted. I sent him a picture of me that very minute, and said I didn't think it was that different from my pictures in my profile . When he didn't respond, I assumed that he didn't want to meet me and asked that question. So with ‘day of’ pict he told me sorry no thanks.
So this guy who looks like a grandpa, basically checked me out, said ugh, and left.
And through my idiocy/ follow up, I made the rejection 100% by sending him another picture, and kinda repeated the rejection.
Not my best day.
15 comments posted: Thursday, December 14th, 2023
Annulment received. Why does it hurt
Ok. I guess I didn’t realize. But when your marriage is illegal because your ex is a bigamist, the courts can annul your marriage without your signature.
24 years and it is over. Dissolved.
No one cared to ask me for anything.
Kinda hurts to know your life as you knew it, never really was
15 comments posted: Wednesday, August 23rd, 2023
Jealousy, resentment or anger, maybe all three
So my ex is moving in with his new girlfriend which means marriage is next for him. And I have some emotions around this. I wish I didn’t.
DDay 1 was 5 yrs ago. I am over him. I never want to be his wife again.
I truly don’t care that he has a new girlfriend. I feel sorry for her actually.
But, I feel angry that he is happy and I am not. I am jealous that he has the ability to meet and love new people so easily.
I resent that I still have any emotion toward him.
Why can’t I move on as easily. I’m damaged, and here he is on cloud 9.
I know he is wreck, a cheater, a selfish jerk. He is all that and happy.
It irks me.
If I had a voodoo doll. I’d shove a hot pepper up his ass.
11 comments posted: Sunday, June 25th, 2023
What has your ex done to irritate you lately?
When I got this message from my ex, I felt annoyed, but now I am fully irritated!
He asked me if I was ok? Are you ok?
He, of anyone, should know the answer to that.
Seriously, the man just told me he is still legally married to his first wife 3 weeks ago.
We are way beyond that question. Like 15 years beyond it.
What has your ex said to you that has irritated you lately ?
14 comments posted: Saturday, April 15th, 2023
Whose on First? Google remarkable
So, my I had my first modern day "whose on first" conversation with my kid. It was hilarious because it was real. And it happened without me noticing.
Here is how the conversation rolled….
Mom, I think I am going to get remarkable.
Me, ahhh, ok
Son- yah I think it is worth it.
Me getting lost in what he is saying. "Hmmm! What?"
Son - yah it is expensive, but I think I’d really like remarkable?l
Me - completely lost? "What do you mean?"
Son - Google remarkable.
Me - what is Google remarkable?
Son - no I mean google remarkable. You know Google as in a verb.
Me. I actual google "remarkable" it is a tablet that feels like you are using paper and a pen and only costs 550 dollars.
Me - I can give you that experience for 5 bucks. Then I laugh and tell him we just had our first "Whose on First" experience.
Son - What is that?
I seriously can’t believe that happened. Too funny.
6 comments posted: Thursday, February 16th, 2023
Not able to respond to a private message.
Hi it has happened to me occasionally where I can’t reply to a private message? Wondering if I might be doing something wrong.
8 comments posted: Sunday, December 18th, 2022
Not feeling the Christmas spirit
I am just not feeling any holiday spirit this year.
Am I going to be scrooging it by myself?
And my proof reading skills are gone too. Lol
13 comments posted: Saturday, December 3rd, 2022
Online divorce - anyone use Untie the Knot?
Curious if anyone has experience with Untie the Knot? Any recommendations or advice?
3 comments posted: Saturday, November 19th, 2022
Funny Dad jokes
Has anyone seen those "Dad" jokes on YouTube? My son has so many they roll off his tongue with ease. Sometimes I can’t tell if it is a joke or real life until the punch line.
Here are two that tickled me. May you smile. Add your favourites!
I haven’t talked to my wife in 7 years…. I didn’t want to interrupt her.
My kids were still on eBay when I got home from work…. If they are still there tomorrow I will lower the price.
62 comments posted: Saturday, November 5th, 2022
So my ex has a special woman in his life
My son told me tonight. His dad has someone special in his life. And I kinda don’t care.
Is that progress?
12 comments posted: Monday, October 3rd, 2022
Medical Assistance in Dying, a topic my ex raised with our kids
I think I am pissed at my ex, still deciding.
My ex’s dad died on the weekend at the age of 91. He had a great life and left this world in a dignified manner. There is no terrible story, just the circle of life.
Clearly my ex has done a lot of thinking about this. He arranged a conference call with our kids unbeknownst to me. The topic was assisted dying.
He shared that he wants this if he ever needed it. Ok. I get it. No biggie. It is a reasonable topic given what is going on.
He then told my boys they should set themselves up for this as well.
What the actual fuck!?!
I am deciding if I should rip his face off or if I should take it as an opportunity to have a healthy thoughtful conversation and let the kids know that they only need to do what they want. It is their choice. 100%
I am leaning to option 2, because as my girlfriend suggests, "you can’t fix stupid". But I so want to yell wtf at him.
What would you do?
8 comments posted: Tuesday, August 16th, 2022
The game of Whack Fuck
My boys bought golf clubs and are starting to golf. I love their sense of humour and playfulness. They have renamed golf to Whack Fuck.
They Whack the ball and emphatically say Fuck after it inevitably hits a tree, water or the very rough.
So born is Whack Fuck.
6 comments posted: Monday, June 27th, 2022
New Aggressive dog behaviour.
Today My son took my dog to the off leash park where she went all aggressive on another dog. This is my mellow puppy. The other dog owner started hitting Lucy to get her off of her own pup. Don’t blame her.
My son got in the middle and yanked Lucy off. She bit my son and broke the skin.
She has been becoming more aggressive towards other dogs but I don’t know why. And always on leash until this. She is a cuddle bug in the house.
I would appreciate all wisdom.
9 comments posted: Sunday, April 24th, 2022
Vent about medical system.
Both my son and I can’t get into see our doctor. We have been trying. They don’t pick up the phone, the voice mail is full so you can’t leave a message, and there are no online bookings. Wtf!
I will have to drive to the office to book an appt.
It irritates me because I am pretty sure I have a skin cancer spot on my face. My first and it came on in a nanosecond. Nor is it small.
How can they make it so difficult?
And yes I am in Canada
12 comments posted: Thursday, April 14th, 2022
Just heard, my son fractured his back. I am trying not to freak out
My son sent me a text, he got a call from the doctor, he has a fractured back.
I just heard, now I wait. More X-rays are needed, so I hope he is leaving work now.
OMG, it is hard to breathe when you are freaking out. And I have to be calm so he stays calm. It is just me as his dad is across the country.
Anyone know about this? Any experiences?
14 comments posted: Friday, February 18th, 2022
How did you start over?
Hi, I often see stories here of successful new beginnings, and people enjoying being single.
I have not had a new beginning. I haven’t gone on more than 2 dates with anyone and no intimacy either. And honestly I haven’t really wanted to. I would love to be in a relationship, even a light and friendly one but I don’t know how.
How did you do it? How did you meet people?
How did you feel confident enough to go forward?
How did you give off the I am single and available vibe?
How did you relate to new people? I come off as a friend, one person told me that I didn’t know how to flirt. Probably true. I am not the flirty type.
I am somewhat afraid that I don’t know how to have a relationship after a really cold marriage.
All help appreciated as I am a truly inept dater.
18 comments posted: Thursday, February 17th, 2022
Changing back to your maiden name…. To do it or not ….
I am considering changing back to my maiden name…. There are cons…I don’t like having a different name than my kids…. It is never spelled correctly, and it is a lot or work. I do like shedding the name that ties me to him, and becoming myself again….
What did you do and why?
19 comments posted: Saturday, December 4th, 2021
Online Divorce Service experience?
I have a formal separation document and I am thinking of using an online divorce service. Any experiences good or bad? How would you rate it?
I am in Canada but I imagine the services are comparable every where.
Thanks for sharing.
2 comments posted: Saturday, June 5th, 2021
How did you feel when you took your first legal step?
Well today I signed the legal separation agreement. I chose this. I knew it was coming. I couldn’t live with a cheater. And yet I am not overjoyed, not elated, not feeling satisfied.
It came with more of a sad relief. End of the youthful dream life I guess.
I also found some documents I should not of read. I know better but I read a few anyways. Confirmed he is an outstanding liar. The betrayal knife still goes to the quick. When I don’t care, it will be a relief.
Next step. Buy him out and divorce.
Maybe it will get easier when he moves thousands of miles away in 2 weeks.
Here we go, the next phase. On my own. I will be ok. I will.
24 comments posted: Monday, May 10th, 2021