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Bleep's Update

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Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 3:36 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Wow, Bleep, I heaved a sigh of relief when I got to your last update (I hadn't been following along, so I started at the top of the page). GREAT NEWS! I love the fact that you have a "clean" house to live in. And that you feel JOY on this promising first day of March 2023, after 5 years of that grief! (Living IHS for this many years, I almost have a tinge of envy, hehe.)

posts: 2015   ·   registered: Sep. 22nd, 2017   ·   location: Washington D C area
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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:47 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Congratulations!!!!!
I am very happy for you.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

posts: 20121   ·   registered: Oct. 1st, 2008   ·   location: St. Louis
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BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 7:36 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Woohoo!

What a long saga! Wish I could bring over a bottle of Dom Perignon and toast with you!

BW, 40s

Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried

I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.

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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 8:08 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Congrats on your freedom day! Very happy for you. Perseverance pays off in the end.

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

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jadedangel ( member #26979) posted at 8:27 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Yes!!!!

That is some good news indeed!!!

Divorced 2007.
EXWH died 2011
Remarried 2018!

posts: 695   ·   registered: Dec. 30th, 2009   ·   location: Central City
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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 8:28 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

BLEEEEEEEP-Y!

This is brilliant.

You are mighty. You are a class-act. You are a resilient and beautiful person.

This is a hard-earned moment. Be gentle with yourself.

For me, I had a wave of emotions wash over me after my ugly and long battle. It was like I could let down my armor and didn't have to hold on so tight. Once that happened, blammo - here came the feelings. I remember it being like a pressure valve being released. Not so much about *him*, but making it to the other side....it's a lot.

So be kind to you and let things soften in this gorgeous moment in your new life where you are the decider. Good things are coming your way, I just know it.

Cheers, girlfriend.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

posts: 2233   ·   registered: May. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: Reality
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BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 11:20 PM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2023

Bleep!!! This is truly fantastic news!! You must feel completely buoyed with relief!!! I didn’t feel sad or bad or anything but happy when we signed. Just profound relief it was over and I was free. I’m so proud of you getting through this slog of a divorce and you can now shine your light as brightly as you want. Big fucking high five!!!

Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide

posts: 3409   ·   registered: May. 24th, 2014
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:59 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023

YAYYY!!! You know that GIF of Kermit waving his arms around? That’s me right now for you!

Congrats amazing lady.

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 5898   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 5:02 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023

Congratulations on your freedom! Way to go Bleep!
I hope to join you in the freedom winners circle soon!

"I managed to survive a five year divorce incurring no additional debt. My only debt is my mortgage. I love my house, and I get to stay here. No bad juju since STBX has never lived in it. Most importantly, I am not married to a cheater anymore. He has no say in what I do with my life or my money.

There are no words to describe"


Yessssssss you go girl!

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

posts: 1610   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2018   ·   location: VA
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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 7:14 PM on Thursday, March 2nd, 2023

Congratulations Bleep this is fantastic!!! I bet it feels so freeing. I'm still in the midst of D but hope to be where you are soon!

fBS/fWS(me):50 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(20) DS(17)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorcing

posts: 8727   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
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josiep ( member #58593) posted at 9:45 PM on Friday, March 3rd, 2023

I’d like to take you out for a celebratory dinner. I’m hoping to get down to visit my brother sometime this month so I’ll be in the area. Are you game?

BW, was 67; now 73; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.
DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017

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Forks027 ( member #59996) posted at 8:30 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023

Congratulations, Bleep! May the rest of the proceedings go smoothly as well.

Freedom come!

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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 6:02 AM on Monday, March 6th, 2023

So happy for you, Bleep!

WW/BW

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Makesmewannapuke ( member #62580) posted at 4:29 PM on Monday, March 6th, 2023

CONGRATULATIONS WTB!!!!!!!! I'm not a big poster but I am a big silent stalker. laugh Have been reading your posts for years and I think you're pretty awesome. Reading some of the crap you've had to go through...yikes. You've always been so strong and optimistic even when things were really hard. You deserve this SO much and I'm so happy to hear this amazing news!

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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 4:31 PM on Wednesday, March 8th, 2023

This morning was our final hearing. I raised my right hand, and it is officially done.

Way too many of you wonderful people to thank individually, but know that it brought tears to my eyes seeing all of your names. Names I have gotten to know these past 7 years by following your own painful stories, and also aspiring to be on the other side where some of you already were/are.

"I’d like to take you out for a celebratory dinner. I’m hoping to get down to visit my brother sometime this month so I’ll be in the area. Are you game? "

Josiep, absolutely. I think I have your contact info. I will reach out.😁

One of my favorite movies is Shakespeare in Love. I picture the scene where Viola opens her bedroom door and says to her maid (who has just told her to wake up as it is a new day),

"It is a new world!"

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 4:32 PM, Wednesday, March 8th]

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

posts: 4512   ·   registered: Sep. 6th, 2015   ·   location: USA
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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 7:12 PM on Wednesday, March 8th, 2023

CONGRATULATIONS!!! So very happy for you!

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

posts: 3279   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 7:58 PM on Wednesday, March 8th, 2023

I raise my glass to Bleep Freedom Day!

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades - Children (1 still at home) Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBS 2018 Cease & Desist sent spring 2021"Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

posts: 3770   ·   registered: Oct. 13th, 2017   ·   location: East coast
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:19 PM on Wednesday, March 8th, 2023

Yay for BLEEP!

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 5898   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
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BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 1:51 PM on Thursday, March 9th, 2023

I know you’re happy to put all this hell behind you, Bleep, but I hope you’ll stick around to give advice to newbies. You’re the SI equivalent of a veteran who survived WWI, WW2, and Korea!

BW, 40s

Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried

I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.

posts: 1894   ·   registered: Jul. 13th, 2020
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 WhoTheBleep (original poster member #49504) posted at 5:43 PM on Thursday, March 9th, 2023

BTB, I’ve been thinking about that, asking myself if it would be too painful? The answer is no. I feel so at peace. If I can guide others through the fire, or at the very least hold their hands while they stumble, I would like to do that.

I even have hope that I might one day have a countrydirt-type post (am I allowed to reference that?) in New Beginnings😊. Whether I do or don’t, life is very good on this side of D.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 5:44 PM, Thursday, March 9th]

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

posts: 4512   ·   registered: Sep. 6th, 2015   ·   location: USA
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