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humantrampoline ( member #61458) posted at 7:41 PM on Friday, June 4th, 2021

I hope your surgery and recovery are going well. Have a good weekend.

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 8:29 PM on Friday, June 4th, 2021

..rest, rest, ...and NO jogging in the hospital corridors.

oh ya... and rest!

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!
Me 74 Her 70 Married 49 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumor!

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 11:41 PM on Friday, June 4th, 2021

Thinking of you and sending healing mojo and thoughts your way. Gentle hugs too.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 8:13 PM on Saturday, June 5th, 2021

So anxious to hear how you are doing...

All my prayers sent to you!

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 1:24 AM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

I am barely able to sit up. Worse most painful surgery i have ever had. Just got lung tube put today. Horrible experience. Waiting on biopsy results. I just want to go home.

"Because I deserve better"

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:07 AM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Im so sorry you are going through this hell. But i am so happy to see you post!!!

If you are in pain get on them for pain relief. Theres no reason to suffer in pain.

Sending positive healing mojo and gentle hugs.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 2:48 AM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

I'm so glad to see you posted. I hope you get some good pain relief and can go home soon. Sending healing mojo, strength and hugs.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:56 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Hope you get to go home soon and I’m sorry it was an unpleasant experience. sending gentle hugs.

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:03 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Hang in there Jeannie the pain will get better. If you are hurting make sure everyone who comes in your room knows!!!

Hang in there. You are so strong hang in there.

[This message edited by tushnurse at 9:04 AM, June 8th (Tuesday)]

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 21 &23
Married for 28 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 5:13 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

(((Jeanie)))

WW/BW 51 (Me)
BH/WH 51 (TimeSpiral)

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Going home with home health care.

Still a lot of pain and incision wont stop oozing. I cant have a lot of pain meds due to low blood pressure and being in A-Fib. Maybe it will get better when i get home.

"Because I deserve better"

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number4 ( member #62204) posted at 5:56 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

So sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Sometimes in the hospital when you can't sleep, it can exacerbate the pain. Maybe when you get home and in your own bed (or wherever you find most comfortable), and get some sleep, it will help with the pain.

Hang in there.

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married - 30+ years
Two adult daughters
1st affair: 2005-2007
2nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017
Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addiction
Status: R

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Praying that being at home helps you more than being in the hospital. Rest sweet dear.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 8:26 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Thinking of you and praying for a good recovery

He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!

Love kills slowly.

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 9:09 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

I'm happy to hear you are done with surgery and headed home. Get plenty of rest, and please get help if the pain doesn't subside or if you notice anything questionable.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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humantrampoline ( member #61458) posted at 9:27 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

I'm glad to hear you'll be going home and hope your pain gets better. At least no one will be waking you up in the middle of the night to take meds.

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 9:35 PM on Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Sorry for the pain.

(((Jeaniegirl)))

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:30 PM on Thursday, June 10th, 2021

Hey there- how are you doing? Hope things are getting better.

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 7:32 PM on Thursday, June 10th, 2021

One week from surgery.

I am starting to feel human again. I can walk a full circle slowly through my home. I am not having breathing problems. My A-fib seems to be trying to level off. Not sure if that is from the new meds or because I'm home and away from the torture chamber of the hospital. I did have excellent care (except for one male nurse whom I shall write about later) ....and the pain cannot be blamed on the hospital, surgern or wonderful nurses. But I get a shudder just thinking about having to go back there. The top lobe of the lung was sent to lab but no report back yet.

I can honestly say that had I been told the truth about how horrible and painful this surgery was going to be, I probably wouldn't not have had it done. I wish I had been told the truth. Even my wonderful neighbor who had the same surgery three years ago told me it 'wasn't bad.' Today she checked on me and said she had to apologize for not telling me the truth. She said she was afraid I would back away from surgery had she leveled with me.

I've never known such pain existed and I hope I don't ever have to experience that again.

But it's done and I'm working to do what they say -- breathing treatments, the right diet, walking .. so I don't want to screw up the surgery after what I went through to get to .... TODAY.

Thanks, friends, for your concern and checking on me.

"Because I deserve better"

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 9:40 PM on Thursday, June 10th, 2021

I am so sorry this has been horrible for you. I wish i could take that all away.

You are on this side of a traumatic experience. Take the time to heal. Physically. Emotionally. You are strong. We are all here for you.

Hugs.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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