My fathers estate- just a vent really.

My father died recently. I am in my late 50s and have many siblings. My dad left my mom for an AP when I was in college. He had then been sick for a few years, and my mother and siblings managed his health care and the family business. Thats when he had the free time to take up with AP. It was painful for the entire family. I was always somewhat protected as the little sister far away in college who should be protected.

My parents' separation and divorce was terrible. My father was terrible. He felt entitled to keep any asset as his and fought brutally.

My father was off and on with the AP as a companion for years. They never married. Ap had drug and alcohol issues and died young. She had a daughter from a previous relationship a little younger than me. My father was quite close to her. I think. Although he was embarrassed of her when i met her, he later spoke highly of her and her children.

My father's death has brought up all of the old pain of my father's treatment of mother for my siblings and me.

The AP's daughter produced a hand-written will. She also showed a video of my father writing it taken on her phone. It shows his estate to be divided equally with her receiving the same share as the children and also being co-executor with one of my siblings.

For some reason i cant exactly explain, I have found the hand-written, solo, taped aspects super creepy. It is a 7 figure estate at least. My father's brother and nephew are attorneys. It's just weird.

Also, my sibling who is on several of my father's accounts and the supposed co-executor, found a hand written paper from AP's daughter saying she will relinquish any claim to the estate if she can keep a certain house. My dad apparently recently bought her a house and car.

AP's daughter has retained her own attorney trying to pressure my sibling to filing the will with the courts. In speaking with most of my siblings, we've agreed we dont care to put our life energy into fighting this. Yet we have two siblings who are disabled and/or have health issues. They need to be cared for.

My co-executor sibling has had a hard time finding an attorney. It's looking better though.

I don't know anything about law. I Googled valid will in that US state, and it says it has to be written and signed with also two valid witnesses. It's only AP's daughter as witness. Also valid witnesses have to be impartial or only entitled to what they would get if it were in testate, or whatever the term is if there were no will. She would be entitled to nothing.

Yet, I can't help feeling my father wrote that will in front of her with the full knowledge it wouldn't be valid. Yup, he's that kind of person. And there's so much pain going around for my siblings right now.

Thanks dad. Way to step up one last f$#^ing time for your family.

7 comments posted: Wednesday, November 2nd, 2022

Mod please

I have a question. Thank you.

1 comment posted: Thursday, June 30th, 2022

I Steal Wives - Books 1 and 2. Erlandson

I saw these books recommended somewhere and downloaded the sample content from Amazon.

I thought it was mostly trash with a few insights. They might be helpful for BH or might mislead them. Some of his broad generalizations certainly don't apply to any of my married female friends or relatives.

Anyone read these books and have an opinion?

0 comment posted: Wednesday, July 17th, 2019