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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 9:45 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

Huzzah!!

WW/BW 51 (Me)
BH/WH 51 (TimeSpiral)

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 9:55 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

Thats wonderful news.

Ok how are you feeling? Relieved? This has got to be so overwhelming for you. Do you have supports lined up for after surgery??? I wish i was close to help!

Hugs. Lots and lots of hugs!

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 10:20 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

Great news— and glad you have a date and a plan.

Keeping the mojo headed your way…

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 1:38 AM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

That's great news.

Continued mojo for your upcoming surgery.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 4:23 AM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

I sure appreciate all the comments.

Dragn, yes I do have a great support system. I feel so fortunate about that. I have one week to psyche myself up for this but I feel positive about it. Just want to get it done and get on the road to recovery!

"Because I deserve better"

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 8:04 AM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

Jeanie,

Will keep you in my prayers. Fantastic news in regards to the lymph nodes.

5 to 7 days is days is no fun. Here we have a no visitors policy.

PP

BS Fwh

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:29 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

FAntastic News!!!!

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 21 &23
Married for 28 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 2:20 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

Jeanie, this is great - the best possible bad scenario. It sounds like this will all be over very soon, such good news!!

I guess you will have to learn to breathe again? But I don't think that ultimately that will limit you.

My dissertation advisor had some kind of serious lung problem as a child and had abouot 80% of one lung removed. He still did a lot of running, and as an adult ran in ~ 40-50 marathons. Without 2 whole lungs!!

So sending out MOJO to help you through this surgery and your recovery.

((((Jeanie))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 5:24 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand there ya go. One snip snip surgery and you'll be back to your old self, crushing us around here.

ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis

As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 6:03 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

I am do happy you have support there during all of this ordeal.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 6:09 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

Whew! Some pain, a lot of boredom, then cancer-free - not as good as being cancer-free without surgery, but it looks like the best possible outcome.

I'll be thinking of you and sending mojo.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 8:27 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

ZenMum, reading my surgery book given to me by surgeon last week, there is therapy involved during and after healing from surgery. I WILL take advantage of everything they have to offer. Not skipping anything.

"Because I deserve better"

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:12 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

yes, you will have the BEST possible outcome by playing by the rules, no shortcuts

[This message edited by ZenMumWalking at 3:12 PM, May 26th (Wednesday)]

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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number4 ( member #62204) posted at 10:18 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

So glad you got good news from the lymph node biopsies! That's got to give you some positive energy going into the surgery. Glad you have such great support!

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married - 30+ years
Two adult daughters
1st affair: 2005-2007
2nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017
Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addiction
Status: R

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 10:39 PM on Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

.. sending a big thumbs up to you... and well wishes for a speedy recovery.

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!
Me 74 Her 70 Married 49 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumor!

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:11 AM on Thursday, May 27th, 2021

Mojo and positive thoughts to envelope you through surgery, recovery and therapy. The book your surgeon gave you sounds like a great resource to know what to expect and what to do to help yourself.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 4:20 AM on Thursday, May 27th, 2021

Yeah -- about that book. It also has color photos that shows what will happen to me during surgery. I just have to keep telling myself that surgeons do this every day and they know what they are doing.

I told my daughter she might have to chase me down when she takes me to the hospital at 5 a.m. next Wednesday morning. I just might decide to make a run for it, after I saw those photos.

"Because I deserve better"

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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 6:29 AM on Thursday, May 27th, 2021

When I had my c-section, I was worried that maybe the epidural hadn't taken effect because I had a kind of "rummaging" sensation in my abdomen. My H glanced over the drape as the doctor said, "Oh, don't worry, you'd be very upset with me right now if it hadn't." Apparently, due to my scarring from prior surgery, I was partly disassembled with internal organs sitting on top of me. Sometimes, ignorance is bliss!

[This message edited by BraveSirRobin at 12:30 AM, May 27th (Thursday)]

WW/BW 51 (Me)
BH/WH 51 (TimeSpiral)

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 6:53 AM on Thursday, May 27th, 2021

Sometimes, ignorance is bliss!

Exactly! So the surgery book has went in the bottom drawer.

"Because I deserve better"

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number4 ( member #62204) posted at 5:47 AM on Saturday, May 29th, 2021

I heard on the radio today that Amgen just got a new drug approved by the FDA today for lung cancer. They didn't say what kind of lung cancer (and really, I don't know what kind yours is), but it's always encouraging to hear that new drugs are being approved!

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married - 30+ years
Two adult daughters
1st affair: 2005-2007
2nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017
Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addiction
Status: R

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