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ZenMumWalking

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

M.O.J.O. pls pls pls

Maybe I'm just toooooooo impatient and worried, but DS3, who has suffered a concussion, traumatic brain injury after being dropped flat on the back of his head, then a menengitis with a tear in the meninges in the area. At the moment it's too small to operate (according to the top drs in the country, so I believe them).

He's having daily physio, focusing on the head area that's affected. That's supposed to help, at least in theory, idk.

Anyway, every other day or so he is still vomiting and has nausea. Still sensitive to light.

I'm going crazy with the waiting.

Any advice from the med peeps, and extra mojo would be MOST gratefully appreciated.

Thank you all SI army!!

11 comments posted: Tuesday, September 27th, 2022

med peeps - DS3 update (tbi)

So the latest on DS3 is that he has suffered a traumatic brain injury (which we pretty much already knew) but also some other problems.

He has been having arm / leg numbness along with back spasms, for which he has been prescribed (daily Mon-Sat) physiotherapy.

When he was at physio today, the physio thought his neck felt weird so sent him to the hospital. There they did an eeg and found a part of his brain that seemed slow to react, so they followed up with (another?) ct scan.

They found a tear in the meninges where some fluid was leaking out, probably that's what's causing the pressure and arm / leg numbness I guess? And identified the location of the injury to his brain from his concussion.

So physiotherapy is going to focus on that part for the next ~month, and they said if there isn't any progress, they would probably need to do a surgery. (I guess this is the procedure where they put in a shunt for the liquid to drain??) Anyway, we're not there yet.

DS3 is in good humor, but bummed out that he's supposed to be taking it easy (he's always been very sporty). He expressed relief that there was some explanation and a plan for going forward. And I'm so proud of how he's making good decisions about his health. He is not hesitating about going back to the hospital when he's not feeling right.

Any and all info along with mojo, thoughts, prayers, shared experience, etc. most greatly appreciated. Thank you all so much.

9 comments posted: Wednesday, September 14th, 2022

fml

DS3 got meningitis..... he's doing better now but was really sick for about 2 weeks.

WH had a heart attack Monday. He's very thin, but eats a lot of fatty foods. Anyway, he had 2 stents put in and there is a third artery with some blockage but they didn't add a stent to that one.

I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop now..... sad sad sad sad sad sad

21 comments posted: Saturday, September 10th, 2022

If flying to Europe this summer - Avoid Schipol (ams) and London Gatwick (lgw)

In an effort to reduce travel chaos, Schipol (AMS) airport is limiting passengers by 13,500 due to not enough security personnel. In a double whammy, London Gatwick is reducing daily flights too.

And can we make that a triple whammy?? DS3 needs to fly home soon because he needs to get army stuff, he starts 4 July (and where is he coming from? yup, ams), while DS1 is coming home from London to visit for the first time since xmas 2019. And he usually flies from (yup you guessed it) Gatwick because it's most convenient for him.

Soooooooo, I guess DS1 will switch to either London Heathrow or Luton. DS3 won't have much choice unless he takes a long train journey to another country and flies here from there.

I have seen pix of the looooooong security lines as AMS, reminds me of 10 August 2006, when LHR closed because of the liquids scare. I was at a conference in Seattle, then was to fly to LA to meet WH and the boys, who were connecting from our country through..... you got it, LHR. Their plane had already take off from our country and had to turn around and fly back. They got put up at a 5* hotel (of which there are many here), so the boys had a great time in the pool. Then the next day they got rerouted through a nearby city in Germany. They had to stay there overnight before there was clearance over US airspace, another overnight there and then finally coast to coast and we met in LA. What a clusterfuck!!!!!!

I had no idea what was going on with them until their final flight, because every time I checked their reservation number there were different flights (one was even supposed to go through Bombay....).

Ah, what memories it all brings back....... laugh laugh laugh laugh

6 comments posted: Monday, June 20th, 2022

trains anyone???

Most train services in Great Britain will be cancelled Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday (strike).

London Underground strike 24 hours Tuesday. So I guess DS1 doesn't have to work!! (or works from home)

Reminds me of the good old days when British Airways went on strike every summer.

0 comment posted: Monday, June 20th, 2022

and now Heathrow.....

'baggage mountain' (due to knock-on effect??).

I plan to visit Australia this year, covid-willing!! And I really hope that I get to see my boys smile smile

2 comments posted: Monday, June 20th, 2022

wtf - Alabama church pot luck!!!!

With friends like these, who needs enemies crying crying crying crying

5 comments posted: Saturday, June 18th, 2022

monogamy 'not natural'

How many of us BS have heard this bs?? How many of you WS have said it??

Here's the thing. Whether or not you believe monogamy is not 'natural' for humans, you CAN CHOOSE your behavior.

Well crapping in a toilet is not 'natural'. It's a learned behavior. Not crapping our pants but rather holding it in until we can get to the toilet. Whereas it would be more 'natural' to let it fly whenever / wherever.

Can we all agree on that??

So..... no. Whether or not monogamy is 'natural', it is a behavior that you can choose.

We all engage in 'unnatural', LEARNED behaviors ALL. THE. TIME. It's part of the price of living in a civilized society. Part of the price of belonging to a monogamous, committed relationship is STAYING MONOGAMOUS!!!!!!!! Whether you want to make the 'it's not natural' excuse or not. Jeeeeeeeezzzzzz rolleyes rolleyes rolleyes rolleyes rolleyes

If you don't want to choose that behavior DON'T GET M. DON'T commit to a monogamous relationship. It really is that simple.

For those of you out there who get this line of bs from your partner, or your family or friends - tell them the toilet story. That oughtta shut them up.

((((all hurting members))))

34 comments posted: Tuesday, June 14th, 2022

Give me an F!!

Give me a U!! Give me a C!! Give me a K!!

Can we spell FUCK CANCER!!!!!!

It seems that so many of us here are either affected or know (or 'know') someone affected. So many recent threads here in OT, Jeanie, MN (but hooray for the positive followups), the tragic death of MissesJai.......

Let's do all we can to fight this ugly beast!!

((((cancer victims, survivors and loved ones))))

9 comments posted: Monday, July 19th, 2021

Moderna....

1 down, 1 to go!!

89 comments posted: Thursday, April 29th, 2021

Stacked threads

In R:

What is "doing the hard work?"

A guy question- (it's about masturbation)

5 comments posted: Wednesday, January 20th, 2016

What the fu....

I just received the following email confirming receipt of a recommendation for a student:

Thank you! Your recommendation for (student's name) has been successfully submitted to Columbia Engineering.

Thank you,

Office of Graduate Student Affairs

Fu Foundation School of Engineering and Applied Science

Columbia University in the City of New York

F-U foundation?? Almost sounds like they're flipping me off!!

1 comment posted: Thursday, November 27th, 2014

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