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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 5:13 AM on Sunday, May 16th, 2021

It sounds like your persistence has saved your life, Jeanie. I look forward to hearing that you kicked cancer's ass.

WW/BW 51 (Me)
BH/WH 51 (TimeSpiral)

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Countingsheep65 ( member #56000) posted at 4:47 AM on Monday, May 17th, 2021

My cancer was diagnosed at 2b.

You focus on each step one at a time.

Some steps will be longer and tougher, especially if chemo and radiation are involved.

I hope it can all be done with surgery for you.

I hope you have a good support system, sometimes it’s hard for people who have never been through cancer to relate to what’s going on in your head, your fears, your thoughts and sometimes it’s hard for them, they don’t know what to do or say to you, so it’s really important for you to make sure you let people know what you need.

Wishing you the best.

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:01 PM on Monday, May 17th, 2021

MOJO Jeanie, and remember that there is another person on the team - YOU.

And if you have people irl who can help you, line up their assistance as well. These 'volunteers' could maybe help you with shopping, meals, light housekeeping, keeping you company (if you feel up to it), bathing, etc..... Or, depending on your insurance, some of these services might be covered.

If anyone you know has made it through cancer, they might be able to provide a shoulder to lean on or a listening ear.

And WE are there for you - there is always someone here who is able to listen.

Thank GOODNESS that this was caught early.

Sending strength, MOJO and positive, healing thoughts to you.

Oh, and one more thing - FUCK CANCER!!!!!!!

((((Jeanie))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 1:51 AM on Tuesday, May 18th, 2021

Jeanie,

You will kick cancers ass. I will continue to keep u in my prayers, send mojo.

Hugs PP

BS Fwh

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 8:21 AM on Tuesday, May 18th, 2021

Again, thank you ALL. You have no idea how much it means to me to come here and read the encouraging words.

Updatey - here it is after 2 a.m. Tuesday morning. Went to the surgeon yesterday (Monday) and he says he wants to do another biopsy on another spot that is just below the sunk-in part of my throat. It's lymph node area and while it's tiny, he wants to biopsy it before doing any surgery. So he set the biopsy for today (Tuesday) but called me after I got home to tell me it will be Friday as he has two surgeries tomorrow that he wasn't expecting. So I will have yet another biopsy and if that little spot is clear of cancer, he will recommend to the other two doctors that I have surgery immediately. He would be removing the top part of my lung - about 40% of it, going in through my back. If the tiny spot is positive, he will not do surgery but rather send me back to the Oncologist for radiation and/or chemo. I am so hoping for the surgery.

I feel okay, just get tired easily and my chest area feels 'tight.' I just want this done and over with, for sure.

Again, thank you all for the positive Mo Jo and checking on me. It's appreciated.

Now, to see if I can get back to sleep.

"Because I deserve better"

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:23 PM on Tuesday, May 18th, 2021

(((Hugs))) this is a lot, but it sounds like you have a competent and kind team working with you.

I hope you got some rest, Jeanie.

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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humantrampoline ( member #61458) posted at 3:39 PM on Wednesday, May 19th, 2021

Jeanie,

Good luck. You've got this! I agree with reaching out to neighbors and friends. If you're a church person, they often have people who'll come by and say a prayer if you let them know.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 3:49 PM on Wednesday, May 19th, 2021

Sending you mojo for a clear biopsy on Friday.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 3:46 AM on Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Made it through the second biopsy. I'm home but still sort of goofy and out of it. I was asleep during the entire procedure. I woke up having a horrible coughing episode and then had so much pain for about 30 minutes. Horrible pain. Pain that made me cry like a baby. They gave me morphine in my IV for the pain. After a couple of hours they sent me home. I barely remember my daughter driving me home. She said the surgeon was 'pleased' with what he saw during the biopsy and feels that the possibly of having surgery to remove the cancer could happen next week if this biopsy results are good. Results should be in by Tuesday. I have an incision about 1.5 inches long.

I'm going to sleep but wanted to check in.

"Because I deserve better"

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Countingsheep65 ( member #56000) posted at 6:56 AM on Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Hoping all is clear on that biopsy!

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:00 AM on Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Jeanie, you're in my thoughts and in my arms. I'm very sorry for your pain, but I hope that this has been the extent of it. I'm so hoping that the results of this biopsy go your way, please keep us posted when you can.

MOJO!! And strength and positive, healing thoughts headed your way.

((((Jeanie))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 1:07 PM on Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Thank you so much ZenMum. I'm up early and I did get a decent night's sleep. My throat is so raw and sore, swallowing is difficult. I found out they had a tube down my throat during the procedure so I'm sure that explains the sore throat.

So I'm back to waiting and hoping -- that a decision will be made this coming week. I have handed off some of my work to others but have two federal appeal cases that I have to do and work should take my mind off of things for a while. I finally got my taxes done and as usual, have to pay some cash to the government -- while reading about the rich folks and huge corporations getting by with paying nothing. That doesn't help my mood.

"Because I deserve better"

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 3:05 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

..I'd say good morning, but I'm guessing those are few and far between these days.

Hope the pain killers are doing their job. I've suggested to many people here to roll up a bit of the 'herb'. In case I missed you, consider yourself included..

Working will definitely help to take your mind off the pain...we all hope!

Keep us posted eh!!!

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!
Me 74 Her 70 Married 49 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumor!

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 3:24 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

According to the surgeon, I will find out today or tomorrow if surgery is an option...or if it's radiation and chemo. To be honest, I feel like I've been hit with a truck.

"Because I deserve better"

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 3:25 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

And I guess that should be ...'hit by a truck.'

"Because I deserve better"

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:33 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

fingers crossed and MOJO!!

((((Jeanie))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 3:55 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

Sending you mojo Jeanie.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 4:08 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

No "hit with a truck" totally works! Like some unseen force picked it up and slammed it right down on you.

Praying and sending mojo and hugs to you!

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 4:53 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

Been following along. The nest news is that it's early, you're being a bulldog getting what you need.... This will work out. I know it will.

ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis

As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...

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 Jeaniegirl (original poster member #6370) posted at 9:37 PM on Tuesday, May 25th, 2021

UPDATE, just got the call.

lymph nodes are carncer free!

So I'm scheduled for surgery a week from tomorrow. 8 a.m. June 2nd. They will take off the top lobe of my right lung and according to the surgeon, I will then be cancer - free. He says he sees a lot of CT scans in my future but I can do that! If the lymph nodes had revealed cancer, I would have been moved from Stage One to stage three and surgery wouldn't be an option.

I'm not jumping for joy over surgery but feel so much better about the entire situation. I will be in the hospital 4-7 days. according to how I do.

"Because I deserve better"

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