Thanks all. Just to reiterate, I am not suicidal. Friday was just a really anxious days with lots of intrusive thoughts. I was stuck on a loop and beating myself up for no reason.
Listen....I think that covid-19 or whatever fucking number you put after it, ..has pretty much ALL of US thinking about death a whole lot more than normal.
I think everyone I know is just kind of... losing it, a bit, tbh. We're all cooped up in small NYC apartments, working and doing virtual school from home. I haven't seen my friends and most of my family since last March, and we've had six family members pass away in less than a year.
or smoke some fresh POT!!
Ha! I wish, but I have zero chill whenevr I've smoked. It just makes me incredibly anxious, paranoid, physically twitchy, bur unable to get up from wherever I'm sitting... and that's onlt after one or two pulls!
I wonder: do you have any OCD tendencies? Sometimes, well-formed intrusive thoughts like these, when not attached to ideation/intent, really represent a compulsion, rather than any relationship to suicide (beyond their content, which is sort of meaningless when removed from the context of intent).
I do! And I've mentioned it in passing to previous therapists, but have never really pursued it any further, because it doesn't really impact my life too negatively? For example, I shower the exact same way every day. If I shower that way, I know it will be a good day. If something happens, and I can't shower that exact way (like oversleep and running late, or problem w/ hot water), I am off. I feel unclean. I can muddle through, but it won't be a good day, I'll keep thinking about it, and things won't be okay again until I can shower correctly to set things right.
FWIW, some people also report that their OCD is made worse sertraline. It might be worth talking with your doctor about trying another SSRI. Citalopram (Celexa) is one associated with positive outcomes vis-a-vis OCD, and the lowest incidence of SSRI side effects, overall. (It's also a good one because it can be dispensed as a liquid; when you're ready to wean, you can switch to that form to titrate dose down slowly and completely bypass any withdrawal symptoms.)
I did not know this, so thank you for sharing! I'll def. look into this more.
Also, you mentioned you are not currently seeing a therapist. I don't recall if you saw an IC in the past but maybe now is a good time. Where I'm at, they are online/zoom meetings. No schmoozing.
I've been to therapy 3x in my life, most recently when I suspected my WH's A, but he was gaslightling me, so I thought I was losing my mind. I stopped when I felt like I had plateaued -- the therapist was nice, and a life safer post-d-day, but idk. I just felt like I hit a wall with her, and just needed time to process everything that happened. But I did see her for awhile.
Honestly this last year feels surreal, because we have gone almost nowhere, and have done almost nothing that we normally would. When the weather's been nice, we've tried to plan outdoorsy day trips places where we won't run into too many other people. I haven't looked into therapy just because I'm literally almost never alone, as DS is doing virtual school from home full-time, and it's almost impossible to get any privacy these days.
I am not sure why we all have such a hard time with the word no. Someone guilted you into doing this volunteer work that you are not suited for. I can talk to anyone about anything but I am very reticent about having people come in my house without calling first. All of us have quirks. Don’t try to fight yours just let someone else, who enjoys this, do it. Look after yourself. No one else will.
I emailed w/ another person on the committee, who thanked me for the potential leads, and said they would handle reaching out to the one person I was most nervous about. I was able to think about it on Saturday, and I've been able to find two people who are definitely interested (plus three other maybes), which is four people more than the last person tasked with this responsibility was able to do, and their one potential volunteer didn't even pan out.
I'm perfectly capable of saying no to things that I'm really not comfortable with, but I'm not good at saying that I can't complete a task that I volunteered for. I have until the end of this crazy school year (June!) and then I'm done. I know why I'm not good at saying no in instances like this -- it's my mom's voice in my head saying, "Don't say you can't do it. Say, 'how can I make this work?' and then figure out a way to do it." There's a whole bunch of mental health issues and transgeneration family trauma there to unpack though.
Then have a convo with yourself saying how proud you are of you. I think you should be proud already.
Ibonnie, I only see great posts from you. You are a great person, be kind to you
Thank you! That's very kind of you to say, and much appreciated. I do try to do my best and be a helpful person to others, but I'm always surprised when other people notice, because I try to help from in the wings, rather than center stage.
Yea, that's what I was thinking. That is a very low dose that isn't even therapeutic; you can always ask for a blood serum level to see if you're in a therapeutic dose range for the Zoloft. For context, I'm on 200mg of Zoloft for anxiety. I'm on the high end definitely, but 25 mg. is a baby dose. Are you seeing a psychiatrist for your meds? I am a firm believer that psychiatrists are the only ones who should dole out psychiatric medications - it's really an art that someone with lots of experience should be handling.
I'm not. I was originally directed to my ob/gyn because I was still EBF, and they said that sertraline was extremely safe to use while nursing, that there had been numerous studies showing it's safe in breastmilk, etc., and that's why that specific SSRI was prescribed to me. My kid has long since been weaned though.
And yes, it is a low dose, but I do feel a difference. Most of the side effects I experienced when I started it have gone away, but there's one weird one I feel -- if something specific happens that would normally make me extremely anxious, I get this tingly feeling at the back of my head, going down my neck/upper back. It happens right after, and I'm aware that it's a situation that might have caused a panic attack, except now I can kind of look at the situation more logically, since I'm not feeling anxious.
Thank you all though, for the responses. Just getting these thoughts out of my head and onto this post was helpful, and I have more information now to start looking into, in regards to the dose of sertraline that I'm currently taking.