Topic is Sleeping.
Cheatee (original poster member #59284) posted at 10:38 PM on Wednesday, August 26th, 2020
It’s been awhile since I posted, but my girlfriend of four years and I are getting married. I trust her completely and I realize now what an honest relationship is. There are no topics that are out of bounds, no unmentionables. We’ve had disagreements, but no arguments. She is a fully recovered BS and we deeply love each other for who we are.
We’ve told our children, they’re happy for us, next our parents (my Mom is 95!), then siblings. No date yet and COVID likely precludes a ceremony, but we’re excited to spend the rest of our lives together!
How can I trust again? It’s because this woman is really special, her heart is huge, not to mention, she’s Ivy League brilliant, beautiful, a fellow musician and shares my progressive politics.
newlife03 ( member #56527) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Congratulations! That's so exciting!!
Me - 50
Kids 25, 22, 18
1st DDay in 2006, 2nd in 2007
D in 2009
Happily Committed to SO since 2011
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:47 AM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 12:01 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Congratulations. For the upcoming wedding and the hard work you did for yourself to bring you to this place.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 2:09 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Congrats! There are a lot of covid-unconventional weddings going on. I am sure you will find the perfect fit for your celebration.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:14 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 2:29 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Congratulations! I'm truly happy for you.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 3:47 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
That's beautiful! Congratulations!
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:54 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 4:43 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 11:11 PM on Thursday, August 27th, 2020
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:28 AM on Friday, August 28th, 2020
Wow, Cheatee, this is wonderful!! I'm so happy for you. 
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
k8la ( member #38408) posted at 1:01 AM on Sunday, August 30th, 2020
Congratulations! Very happy for you both!
99problems ( member #59373) posted at 1:52 AM on Sunday, August 30th, 2020
This is awesome and gives me hope.
My best wishes to you and your bride.
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 2:53 PM on Sunday, August 30th, 2020
Congratulations!! You deserve every happiness. Very happy for you!!
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
NeverTwice ( member #74421) posted at 10:43 PM on Sunday, August 30th, 2020
I LOVE reading this! Congratulations!!!
And I hope you have a marriage like I did after being the victim of infidelity. Coming out the other side can be absolutely wonderful.
And I am over the moon for you and your love. Turn towards each other, love freely and without reserve and never get complacent!
So exciting!!!!!
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
Booyah ( member #60124) posted at 2:45 AM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2020
Awesome!!!!!
Congrats and wishing you nothing but the best.
babypuke ( member #56585) posted at 3:09 PM on Monday, September 14th, 2020
Thank you for sharing this great news, congratulations and best wishes!!!
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 5:23 PM on Wednesday, September 16th, 2020
There have been so many great updates here as of late. Its a good reminder for those new to the board, going thru D-Day and in the JFO forum to see that there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
Cheatee, congrats to you. Health and Happiness brother
Topic is Sleeping.
