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Mammogram

I've never been worried about breast cancer for myself. Colon? - possibly due to sedentary lifestyle careers. Esophageal? - higher risk due to hiatial hernia and acid scarring. Skin? - that's where my immune system chooses to make a mess of things in several different ways and I never know if some new looking outbreak is something to be concerned about. So I get checked.

But breast problems? No genetic component. No alcohol, smoking, HRT, etc. Primary risk factor is weight. But due to skin, even my diet is pretty clean.

So last week, I went in to a mobile clinic at the request of my family doc (I hadn't been checked in 5 years), since it was conveniently parked at his office for two days. Monday I got a call about the results - some calcification spots - they wanted to get a magnified look at so this time at the hospital. Now I'm scheduled for a biopsy in a week - they showed me the little crystals angled every which way and different shapes. Collectively they're probably smaller than the size of a grain of rice. The radiologist suggested that the biopsy will remove at least part of the crystals, if not all. I'm visualizing them all lining up to leave like bumper cars at an amusement park as they go into storage for the winter.

Any thoughts? Anyone been through a needle biopsy before? What should I expect?

8 comments posted: Friday, May 21st, 2021

Emotional Alchemy - mindfulness topic

I'm almost finished listening to Emotional Alchemy by Tara Bennett-Goleman.

I had previously recommended a book to someone then found for that person some triggers in some of the content, so I've been cautious about sharing since. I'd been actively reducing my sensitivity to triggers in order to heal my relationship with my husband but also to keep those triggers from rippling into other aspects of my life. So the content of that particular book made sense to me and I felt bad about my lack of sensitivity that it might be a bit of a rough read/listen for someone who was just embarking on the healing path.

However, this book had some profound insights for me as an active trigger disarmer. Having dealt with anxiety from the time I was a toddler having witnessed violence, alcoholism, and other forms of mental illness-sourced abuse, I found mindfulness pointers to be extremely helpful. This will be a book I listen to on repeat as I internalize and work to remove some of those buttons my FOO installed decades ago.

3 comments posted: Tuesday, February 9th, 2021

Spousal support question

I have a young family member going through a divorce - filed for divorce before their 5th anniversary. The type of infidelity was financial - not sexual. When his wife quit her job (it was an abusive situation - she needed to be working somewhere else that was less of a ball-and-chain-type call center) but then didn't look for anything else, and took out credit cards and ran up 10s of thousands in credit card debt without him finding out until they went to refinance their house - that was the final straw and he filed.

They've agreed on assets splitting and division of the pets (no children). But she wants spousal support for life. I know and he knows she won't get it, but in our state you can usually get a divorce in less than 90 days and he filed in October. He's been in limbo and she's still holding out for spousal support.

How long can she pull this off?

What can he do without racking up lawyer fees to move it along?

13 comments posted: Tuesday, January 26th, 2021

Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey

I just finished this book. I would say a must read for any wayward truly wanting to understand what they blew up, and why it will be so difficult for them to rebuild.

Also for betrayed spouses who want to extend trust but no longer willing to go with blind faith.

This book gave me words I haven't been able to find in 5 years, and my wh may finally get a chance to learn and earn his "F" to add to WH.

0 comment posted: Tuesday, August 8th, 2017

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