Did you know that divorce and being single are fuckin expensive??
Amen! I looooooove paying $1975 a month in rent by myself
Oh, and don't forget the $1200 a month out of pocket for intense trauma therapy!
Yesterday I agreed to give her a ride from job 1 to job 2.
Stupid codependent mom that I am.
Change that to loving, codependent mom. Yes, you're right, we're supposed to let them feel the consequences of their decisions. But I would also like for them to know they can call me and ask for help. Better that than her getting frustrated because she doesn't have a ride, but too embarrassed or ashamed to ask you for one, then ending up taking that shame in and beginning to drink again. It's a fine line to walk, because yes they need to learn to take care of themselves, but they also need to learn that they are not an island, shame does not have to lead to negative coping behaviors, and it's ok to ask for help. Just my two cents. You're a fabulous mom
Can't have the world looking at me with their head cocked because my nipples are uneven and they are trying to maintain "eye contact"
Too funny Chaos!
"I AM NOT ASHAMED OF MY NIPPLES"
Annnnnnd coco just came up with our BWz motto... or at the very least a great t-shirt/bumper sticker idea. Sorry about the cancelled yoga class though, that sucks!
I'm cynical about men, too. A friend dated a man recently who said he was going through a divorce. I immediately asked if she verified that with his wife.
Ditto. My new response to everything any female friend says to me re: a new love interest and what he tells her is "Well he says that, but we'll see if it's true."
Ellie, I'm seriously down to help plan this thing if everyone is serious about some kind of g2g.
For you ladies with kids, I know this is going to sound like a stupid question, but is there any time specifically that is better for you to get out of town without the kids in tow? I know, I know, almost never. But like, I would imagine we would need to avoid Spring Break because the kids will be out of school and you'll likely want to be doing family activities/trips then? Not sure if all of the various school districts would align, but since a lot of families travel out to CA for their vacation, typically April and even into May is just one week after the other of families taking over the beaches, so I would imagine it would be similar in the Carolinas.
Anyone have any thoughts re: timing? I know of a few specific work events that I'm going to have to plan around, but I'll have to check the calendar and see what dates they are scheduled for next year.
20yrs ago, sorry to hear about your flat tire! I get flat tires constantly, I'm guessing because there's so much construction out here that I'm constantly driving over nails or screws. Anyway, I ended up getting road hazard insurance, and it has saved my ass on several occasions! It was something like $17/tire when I bought them, and they will literally replace the tire no matter what happens to it. I only have to pay $17 to put the insurance on the new tire. I've honestly gotten something like 20 flat tires since living in LA, and road hazard insurance is fucking awesome!
BigBlueEyes, you out there lady? Haven't heard from you in a bit, just want to make sure you're ok. And also, if you ended up giving in and talking to him, please don't feel ashamed. I'm not saying that you did, maybe you're just taking a step back to heal like you said, but just want you to know, it's also normal to be trauma bonded to him after all of these years, and no one will judge you if you did end up feeling that pull to speak with him. I don't recommend it at all, but I get it. Hopefully you're still here, just lurking When you're ready to come back, we're here to listen, or for some laughs, whatever you need