Newest Member: Beschaedigt


BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas

Sincere Apology?

How do/did you differentiate from more stonewalling?

2 comments posted: Thursday, October 13th, 2022

Pinpointing When The Infidelity Started

I believe WH started lying to my when we started dating

Those lies, conflict avoidance, and porn all created a perfect storm for the evil to take root

Similar for yours?

11 comments posted: Tuesday, July 26th, 2022

Depression and Rage

My WH has a volatile temper.

Lots of complaining, ranting, bellyaching

He’s always been like this. His father and brothers too

I’m a fixer, not a complainer, so I don’t understand it

Shouldn’t someone who behaves this way be mandated to seek help?


4 comments posted: Wednesday, June 1st, 2022

Intimacy and Cheating

When one person in a marriage chooses to cheat, doesn’t the truth intimacy between the marriage parties disintegrate?

I mean, if you’re actively choosing to lie and cheat, that’s a lack of integrity

Aren’t integrity and intimacy interdependent?

8 comments posted: Wednesday, April 20th, 2022

Why Even Reconcile


Why stay married to a monster capable of such betrayal?

What are they even good for?

Why do we observe them through our glasses?

They are nothing like us. They cheat, they lie, they steal happiness

What is the goal? To erase the betrayal?

Nothing erases that. The cut is too deep

26 comments posted: Friday, March 18th, 2022


I bought these little things off A*****, they came in a package of four. I put on in WH’s car! It’s called the Tile Sticker. I downloaded their app, made it mute the sound, and it even gives a location history. No monthly fee. It’s a GPS tracker!

I put one in my wallet, one in my purse, so I can locate those too.

The purse and wallet don’t lie to me though.

If you press the button on a Tile that isn’t muted, it will ring your cell phone, even when your phone is on silent.

1 comment posted: Friday, October 25th, 2019

An Offer

I just read in another forum, of a cheater forcing a BS to sign a non disclosure agreement to not tell the OBS about the affair.

Here’s MY offer. Need an OBS told about your WS’s affair?

Pm me with the information.

You know I will!

And will report back with the results.

Fuck this Infidelity Bullshit! What happened to being human beings first?

9 comments posted: Wednesday, October 9th, 2019

Open a Second Facebook Account

I discovered that WH’s family has me blocked from my regular account.

He never did tell them he lied to me and about his sneakiness a few years ago.

So, they probably think I am just insane. So what?

If something happens to my WH’s parents, I would be left out of the chain of communication, then blamed for not knowing about it in the first place.

I also discovered a hypothetical former friend who pretended to be a faithful wife, was “angry” that my WH cheated. She’s a cheater too! Her AP left her last year. Boohoo!

Anyway, if your family is plagued by drama, like my outlaws, maybe make a second account, go take a look!

0 comment posted: Friday, October 4th, 2019

Members in Florida!

Let’s plan a Get 2 Gether!

Since we’re in Florida, it HAS to be the best!

PM if you want in on planning this.

Where should we have it?

What activities?


Who do we invite? Do we allow non Floridian members to attend?

If you’ve attended a G2G before, even out of state, care to share your experience?

3 comments posted: Saturday, September 14th, 2019

GPS Fell Off!

The gps I purchased and affixed to our car, fell off! It still shows up on a local highway, battery at 39%! I deserve an F grade in sleuthing

14 comments posted: Saturday, November 3rd, 2018

Brain Teaser?

Please delete

[This message edited by 20yrsagoBS at 7:39 PM, November 12th (Monday)]

0 comment posted: Wednesday, October 24th, 2018

Spyware Google Pixel?

Any good ones?

1 comment posted: Friday, February 9th, 2018

Possibly Stupid Question about VOice Activated Recorders

I bought a new Sony VAR, have it all charged up, can get it to record if I manually press the RECORD button. So how does it record if I place it in WH's car unless I am there to press that button?

2 comments posted: Friday, April 21st, 2017


I purchased an inexpensive little RFID doohickey to GPS my WH. I slipped it into his backpack last night, then promptly forgot I did that. So I looked for it frantically today to no avail.

WH saw me unwrap it and pair it to my phone last night. Tonight he asked me if it worked well. I told him I misplaced it last night and couldn't find it since. It has this feature that you can make it beep from the app. But it has to be in range. I could not hear it beep at all today. WH goes into his backpack to retrieve some postage stamps, and finds the tile. He works in a secured workplace, so would be in deep trouble if caught bringing a bluetooth device into work.

He has an Android, so FindMyIphone won't work. I thought this was a good substitute, but it isn't, obviously.


1 comment posted: Tuesday, December 6th, 2016

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