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deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 2:56 AM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
She passed today. You are never ready. I’m in my 40’s and not ready. This sucks.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:08 AM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
I am so sorry Deena. I lost my mom when I turned 40 and you’re right you’re never ready for it and no matter how old you are. It totally sucks.
Sending you the deepest condolences. Be kind to yourself and allow the grieving to happen.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:13 AM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
So sorry, Deena. You're never ready. It sucks.
My mom passed from pancreatic cancer about 8 years ago. I asked my uncle how he dealt with the grief of losing his mom (my grandma). He said you never get over it, you just learn to live without them.
Cherish the memories you have and hold on to the wisdom she passed to you.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 9:59 AM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
Deena, so many of us here know what you are feeling. It's a loss like no other. I lost my Mom in 2019 and she had lived with me for several years. I still miss the porch conversations I had with her. I cherish those memories. No one can replace them. My condolences.
"Because I deserve better"
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 12:42 PM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
I’m sorry to hear that Deena. Losing a parent is so hard.
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 4:04 PM on Saturday, April 22nd, 2023
Oh no,
I’m so very sorry.
In your 40’s is WAY to young to lose a Mama!
I was 62 when my mom died, and THAT was too young.
Your uncle is right. You never get over the loss, but at some point remembering all of the wonderful things begins to outweigh the sorrow of the loss. And you just learn to live without them.
Eight years later, I still pick up my phone every now and then to call my mom and let her know something that has happened in my day.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 5:03 AM on Sunday, April 23rd, 2023
((((deena)))) One of the hardest losses we ever experience, I am so sorry.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 12:38 PM on Sunday, April 23rd, 2023
((((Deena))))
May happy memories bring you peace and comfort during this time.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
ibonnie ( member #62673) posted at 1:50 PM on Sunday, April 23rd, 2023
"I will survive, hey, hey!"
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:54 PM on Sunday, April 23rd, 2023
I'm so sorry Deena. 
Failure is success if we learn from it.
Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 3:58 AM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
I'm so sorry for your loss Deena. I lost my dad when I was 19. I still remember the pain vividly. You are in my prayers.
MalibuBayBreeze ( member #52124) posted at 4:00 AM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed last year and I miss her terribly.
A man or woman telling the truth doesn't mind being questioned.
A liar does.
deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 4:24 AM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
Thank you all very much. She had a long battle so she’s at peace now. I melted down more in the days leading up to her death than since. She was hurting and that was hard to watch. You are all so appreciated.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:16 AM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
It's still difficult, Deena. Hugs to you.
My mom passed in 2015 and I still miss her.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
SadieMae ( member #42986) posted at 1:36 PM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
I am so sorry. Losing my mom was so hard. I'd still give anything for a hug from my mom. Cherish your memories and hold her in your heart.
Me: BW D-day 3/9/2014
TT until 6/2016
TT again Fall 2020
Yay! A new D-Day on 11/8/2023 WTAF
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 5:17 PM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:37 PM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
I'm so sorry for your loss.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 8:52 PM on Monday, April 24th, 2023
It is hard... hugs to you and yours.
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 3:08 AM on Tuesday, April 25th, 2023
josiep ( member #58593) posted at 10:55 PM on Tuesday, April 25th, 2023
I am so sorry. Sorry for what she went through and sorry for the loss and heartache you're feeling. It's just such an awful feeling and will affect you for quite awhile. Be gentle with yourself because your heart will hurt for a long time. Life can be so cruel because the price for loving someone so purely makes it so hard to lose them.
Hugs to you and your family.
BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017
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