Topic is Sleeping.
WalkinOnEggshelz (original poster member #29447) posted at 1:45 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Pippin reached out to us to inform us and the SI community that another SI veteran has passed. Here is part of her message to us.
Maia passed away in her sleep on Thursday morning. She was in her early 50s and it was unexpected. I know she would welcome prayers of support for her husband, and her children, grandchildren, mother and sister, all of whom are struggling in different and profound ways. If people would like to leave supportive messages for her husband, I will collect them and send them later, at a time it might be helpful to him
I want to thank Pippin for reaching out to us. I have posted this in the Wayward Forum as this was her "home". Maia has been a member here since 2005. She has touched the lives of many struggling members that have followed in her footsteps. She was always kind and compassionate in her posts. I imagine she must have been similar IRL.
She will be missed.
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
78monte ( member #72572) posted at 2:25 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
I am saddened to hear the news of Maia's passing.
I'm a BS and have read many of her posts, she will be missed.
My thoughts and prayers are with her family, at this difficult time.
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447)posted at 7:50 AM on Thursday, February 17th, 2022
Pippin is no longer a membe
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Is there more than one "Pippin" ?
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:38 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
I'm very sorry to hear this. Maia's withdrawal survival guide is a staple thread for pining WS who want to extract themselves from limerence. Her presence will continue here even though we've lost her.
Pippin, on a personal note, I know that Maia was important to you and your own healing, and I'm sorry for your loss.
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 2:48 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Oh no! Her guide has been so helpful for me- especially in the early days.
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
WalkinOnEggshelz (original poster member #29447) posted at 3:38 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Hippo16, nonmembers can reach out via admin email at any time and I am thankful that she chose to do so.
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
DaddyDom ( member #56960) posted at 4:03 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Such a sad loss. I don't even know what say. She helped so many here
Me: WS
BS: ISurvivedSoFar
D-Day Nov '16
Status: Reconciling
"I am floored by the amount of grace and love she has shown me in choosing to stay and fight for our marriage. I took everything from her, and yet she chose to forgive me."
hallelujah ( member #32283) posted at 5:54 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
RIP Maia. Her Withdrawal guide was so helpful for me a the beginning. I went to bump it in her honour, but I see someone has already done so.
It is incredible that a stranger can touch your life so profoundly and then pass away and you are left grieving someone you never knew.
2timesunfaithful ( member #47670) posted at 6:14 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
That's so sad to heat and a loss for the SI community. Maia's withdrawal survival guide still is a valuable resource. Prayer's going out to her family for support and healing.
t2u.
Me: WH 55 I lied to cover up my deceit. Her: BW 40's at D-day [BlueIris]M 25 years | 3 great kids
"A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once. - Shakespeare
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 6:27 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
So sorry to hear this. She was a treasure.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:27 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Oh no… Maia was a force of kindness. And she was a fighter— she had so many challenges but kept meeting them head-on.
There was something about her that showed me, a BS, that some WS work hard to be better people and are successful. That helped me not harden my heart.
(There are other WS like this on SI— but for some reason Maia was the first to really illustrate that for me).
I was just thinking of her the other day and searched for her.
Pippin— please send my condolences to her family. RIP Maia.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 6:30 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Take a moment to think of the impact some people make.
This is the second announcement of a member that passes away. These are anonymous people, and their passing shouldn’t really impact us so much. Yet their contributions have had such an impact that many find a need to offer condolences and express their sadness. I think a life where you manage to impact others positively is a life well lived!
My thanks to Maia, and my condolences to her friends and family.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 8:35 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
OH NOOOOO 
. My deepest condolences and prayers are going out for her family's loss.
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 9:15 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
wow... just no words for how sad this is. RIP Maia... you helped so many people and I am but one. Thank you.
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
ISurvivedSoFar ( member #56915) posted at 9:42 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
It is beyond sad to learn of her passing. I'm just shocked to have such a force of wisdom here and for so many be gone. RIP Maia.
DDay Nov '16
Me: BS, a.k.a. MommaDom, Him: WS
2 DD's: one adult, one teen,1 DS: adult
Surviving means we promise ourselves we will get to the point where we can receive love and give love again.
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 10:03 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
Godspeed Maia. She was a wonderful voice here and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 11:52 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022
So sorry to hear it. She made such a big contribution and I'm sure, an impact on many more lives than she knew.
BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10
MrsWalloped ( member #62313) posted at 1:55 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022
This is so sad. To lose such a beautiful soul so young. Thank you for everything Maia. May you Rest In Peace.
Me: WW 47
My BH: Walloped 48
A: 3/15 - 8/15 (2 month EA, turned into 3 month PA)
DDay: 8/3/15
In R
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 2:26 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022
Maia was so helpful. Her survival guide I know helped many a WS. But it also helped this BS understand the mindset. She reached out privately a few times when I was struggling to understand the WS perspective. She helped me. An in the end - what a great gift she was. She helped me. She had a gift of putting it all out there and not mincing words yet balance with compassion.
I'm so very sorry to hear of her passing.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 8:29 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022
This required a little digging, but it comes from a thread another member had started a few years back. This quote was one of Maia’s with regards to DS. I felt it deserves a place here as well.
But I don't mourn like those who have no hope. Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the song without words and never stops at all. Hope says I'll see them again.
Topic is Sleeping.
