Ummm yeah I've been checking in this forum daily to see if there's an update
Never hesitate to ask, but I have not posted any updates because there have been no legal updates. The good news, if you love gossip, is that appellate mediation is next Thursday... so I should have a legal update soon.
Curiously enough, I logged on today to vent because she's been crazy again. Venting commencing in 3... 2... 1...
Incident#1: Baseball tickets.
DD15 is in marching band and she has an event at the local baseball stadium. DD15 asked if I wanted tickets to the game and I said yes, I'll take six (me, my other two kids, GF, and her two kids).
About a week ago, xWW said that I still needed to pay her for the tickets. I responded... sure, no problem. Send the tickets home with the kids and I'll send you a check.
She responds with "No, I don't trust you" and she requires that I give her money before I get the tickets. I tell her no. I don't provide any explanation. I tell her that I have the money and I would rather have the tickets but she must produce the tickets before I give her the money. I also informed her that I could simply purchase the tickets at the gate. She does not respond to this email message, which is typical of her (she stops communicating if conversation goes a direction she does not like).
Today, I received a message from the band group. They have 6 extra tickets, curiously enough. So, I asked to buy them.
Also, the band email says that tickets will be distributed at practice on Tuesday... meaning, xWW didn't have the tickets to give me, which is why she couldn't give them to me. She could have said that, which would have been honest (of course, I wouldn't have believed her anyway... so maybe that is a moot point).
And yes, I need to remember to not do anything (ANYTHING!) when xWW is involved. Yes, I made a mistake.
Anyway, I've heard from the band program. Apparently, I will be buying the tickets from xWW at band practice next week. That should be fun!
Incident#2: Med bills
DD14 (then DD13) got really stinking drunk at xWW's house on Thanksgiving. As in, call the ambulance drunk (BAC = 0.30). By the way, as you might guess, xWW literally told me that DD13 getting drunk at her house was caused by me, somehow (and I am not joking about that).
I knew that the bill would be expensive and so I had been asking xWW about it ever since (I'm tight on money, so a big medical bill requires planning by me).
About 6 weeks ago, I received a phone call from the ambulance company, threatening to send our bill to collections. Apparently, we hadn't paid the ambulance bill. It's a SNAFU of epic proportions because the responsible party is xWW, but somehow the ambulance company had only my phone number and my address but her name. I offered to pay the bill immediately, but once they figured out that I was not xWW and we were not married... they stopped talking to me.
Needless to say, I told xWW about this (and I think that they called her). I had two requests: (1) I wanted to pay my portion of the bill from my flexible spending account (FSA). This means that I wanted to pay the ambulance company directly, and (2) I believed that the insurance was handled incorrectly. So, I asked xWW not to pay the bill because I suspected the amount was wrong too.
I proceeded to ask her about the bill every week or two until last Friday. I received an email message from her saying that I owed her $800 for med bills with no explanation. After checking her math, I figured out that she was trying to charge me 70% of the bill (which is what I am required to pay AFTER the final divorce decision), rather than the 50% which is the amount that I had to pay prior to the divorce being final (February 2021).
I proceeded to ask her for documentation (which is required); she claimed to not have the documentation (she only had a "pay this amount or we're sending it to collections" statement). She also claimed to have paid the bill in full, which was something that I had asked her not to do. When I asked her why she had paid the bill in full, she told me that I was not being cooperative, that she needed her money IMMEDIATELY, and that I was being a jackass.
So, I informed her that I would not pay anything until I could confirm that with my insurance company that it was handled correctly and I received an itemized bill for my records. I specifically wanted to know that the patient was DD13 as well as the date of the service. These are critical pieces of information, especially given xWW's history of lying about everything. I can easily see her claiming, in court, that I did something wrong in all of this and I would have no defense unless I had an actual itemized bill with my daughter's name and the date when she was in the hospital.
Anyway, armed with only the knowledge of the precise amount of the bill, I was able to call my insurance company and get a quick review of the situation. About 2/3 of the bill was a mistake. Something was incorrectly charged as "out of network", resulting in a combined savings of $800.
Per her normal, I did not receive a response from her when I told her that she had incorrectly paid one of the bills and that she would need to call and get them to send her a refund check.
p.s. I called the ambulance company a second time. They again refused to send me an itemized bill, but they did say that xWW had called and requested an itemized bill... so there is at least some progress being made.
(I might have complained about this one on here before).
She enrolled DS9 in a soccer league. Practices are on Mondays and games are on Wednesdays. Her parenting nights include all Mondays and Wednesdays. So, she decided that I didn't need to know about soccer because it was on her parenting night. My guess is that she didn't want to tell me because I would volunteer to coach his team (like I did with his flag football team).
When the other kids told me that DS9 was playing soccer, I asked for the game schedule so that I could attend. xWW refused. I responded with an excerpt from the parenting plan that clearly stated that she was responsible for informing me of events (and vice versa). She said that because it was on her parenting time, I could not stop her from signing him up for soccer. I agreed with that (we only need to ask each other for permission if it interferes with the other's parenting time), but she was still required to inform me of his game schedule so that I could attend.
About 4 hours later (my GF thinks that she asked her lawyer and received a response), she posted 34 new events on our co-parenting software.... including the times/dates/locations of his soccer games. Apparently, she was withhold numerous events from me (I knew about all of them already, except for the soccer).
[This message edited by barcher144 at 12:10 PM, June 17th (Thursday)]