So... yesterday was a big update day.
I had my kids this weekend, who reported that they have been sleeping at xWW's new house for about a week. I am not certain of the details from a legal perspective, but xWW's BF has been officially living at this house since December.
So, on Sunday evening, I sent xWW a message and I asked her for her new address. She did not respond.
Last night, I sent a follow-up inquiry, this time reminding her that according to the parenting plan that she signed... that she had 24 hours to inform me of any new address change... and the purpose of this requirement is so that I can come get the kids in an emergency.
She angrily responded that she had just sold her house and that she had 24 hours (according to the parenting plan) to inform me of her new address. I responded that the legalities of her buying/selling the house were irrelevant; I simply have a legal right to know where my kids are living... and they had been living at this house for a week.
At that point... things got interesting...
First, she accused me of threatening her. I responded that threats take the form of "do this or else I will do that." I did not threaten to do anything and in fact, given that there are no parenting plan police in existence (I am right on this, correct?)... that there literally could be no "or else...". I simply told her that I wanted to know where my kids are and that the parenting plan requires her to provide that information.
Second, she informed me that she had paid off her car. Meaning, I am no longer financially linked to her via a car loan. She then accused me of intentionally telling US Bank (the bank that provided the car loan) to send all correspondence to my current address so that she couldn't get it. This is an interesting allegation... that has a very simple explanation. I put in a change of address form and US Bank has continued to send me the paperwork because of that. That is, US Bank is sexist and they send the documents to the address of the man in the relationship. Anyway, this allegation suggests that she is paranoid that I am out to get her.
Third, she accused me of not giving her my address as required by the parenting plan. This, of course, is false as it relates to the parenting plan. She specifically complained that I have been living at this address for a couple of years without her knowledge. While that is true, my children did not stay at this house (ever) until I told her that they were staying at this house (when I officially moved her in July 2020). Basically, she's angry that I moved on from her and then moved in with my girlfriend...
Anyway, the REALLY GOOD news in all of this:
1. I am no longer financially entangled with her for a home mortgage, a second mortgage, and a car loan. These were the last of our financial entanglements.
2. I have her admitting to her address, which matches the address that her boyfriend provided on property tax documents when he sold his home in November. That is, I now have strong evidence that she is living with her BF and thus almost certainly disqualifying her from receiving alimony. I emailed my attorney last night (Attorney#3 for those of you trying to keep track).
3. I "ruined" her first official night in her new home. Instead of celebrating with her boyfriend, she was all pissed off and emailing back-and-forth with me.
edited to add: One astonishing thing about xWW is that she is VERY angry at me, particularly when it comes to the fact that I started dating my GF and that I have since moved in with her. Our working theory is that she will eventually start accusing me of having an affair. The voice in my head (imitating Darth Vader) says: The power of projection is strong with this one.
[This message edited by barcher144 at 8:22 AM, March 30th (Tuesday)]