Newest Member: Pathfinder

Reconciliation :
Thankful Thursday

default

Tanner ( Member #72235) posted at 3:21 AM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

I am a bit low today but am always thankful for all the great people here. W2BHA, you are the calm in the storm, you seem so positive and full of good vibes. I appreciate all your contributions here.

I read here several times every day and I only comment occasionally when I feel I have something to contribute. Recently I followed a thread that I did not participate in but one comment made a huge difference in my mindset, I had to screen shot it and it read it many times. I am thankful to many people here but the1stwife made a recent huge impact on our R journey. I’m so thankful that people stick around and pay it forward. Looking forward to next Thursday when I’m back on top of the hill.

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 717   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
id 8614100
default

Unhinged ( Member #47977) posted at 4:00 AM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

I'm thankful for my big sis'.

Heading towards divorce
D-Day April, 2015

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button."
-Brene Brown

posts: 6361   ·   registered: May. 21st, 2015   ·   location: Colorado
id 8614103
default

GTeamReboot ( Member #72633) posted at 4:53 AM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

We had our first meeting with a new MC today. I think it went well overall. I’m trying neurofeedback starting tomorrow. Things are still tense and tenuous with FWS. Climbing our way back from a really bumpy few months. But today felt hopeful. And for that I’m thankful.

Me- BW, 45 (FWH, 47); DDay Oct 2019 - Double Betrayal (x2) during Aug-Sept 2018. Hard at work in R! Whole story in Bio
I tend to make little edits for clarity and typos!

posts: 497   ·   registered: Jan. 21st, 2020
id 8614113
default

 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster Member #45088) posted at 7:00 AM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

1492...it's so good to "see" you on here !! Reading your post makes me very happy...you deserve that kind of husband .

Tanner...thank you for your sweet words . The1stWife has helped me in my journey also with her words of wisdom...and I appreciate her sticking around too! Just to let you know...there is an "SI quote thread" pinned at the top of the Fun & Games Forum for unforgettable quotes...in case you want to post that comment that made a huge impact on your R journey in there .

Unhinged ...I feel the same lil bro !

GTeamReboot ...thanks for sharing your hopeful journey with us .

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

posts: 5569   ·   registered: Oct. 2nd, 2014   ·   location: Southeastern United States
id 8614122
default

 Want2BHappyAgain (original poster Member #45088) posted at 4:27 PM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

Tanner...I hope you are feeling better today (((HUGS))).

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

posts: 5569   ·   registered: Oct. 2nd, 2014   ·   location: Southeastern United States
id 8614305
default

Tanner ( Member #72235) posted at 4:57 PM on Friday, December 4th, 2020

Tanner...I hope you are feeling better today (((HUGS))).

Thank you, I’m better today and it’s not really infidelity related but I think it’s always below the surface, so daily stress becomes amplified. One day at a time.

Thanks for the quote thread idea, and there are so many posts here that have helped me but that one is top of mind right now.

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 717   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
id 8614338
default

Tanner ( Member #72235) posted at 8:11 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

Having a great week. The boy’s schools are closed again (covid) until January. It’s nice to not have the crazy rat race in the mornings getting everyone motivated to get out the door. We have 12 year old twin boys with autism.

I’m thankful that my W is a Super Mom. She is handling it well schooling the boys, while also running her business. It’s times like this, that I see her true colors and know that she truly wants to be here, it’s a very difficult life. I always help when I get home and tell her much I appreciate her.

[This message edited by Tanner at 2:13 PM, December 10th (Thursday)]

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 717   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
id 8615646
default

Oldwounds ( Member #54486) posted at 8:34 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

I’m thankful for SI and the good moments I see here as people recover from their worst days.

As I get ready to jump offline again for awhile — I tend to take extended breaks away from the ‘net to focus on life at home — I hope this thread continues on and becomes an R forum tradition.

I hope you all have a fantastic holiday and or Merry Christmas and stay safe into a Happy New Year!

Married 34+ years, together 40+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived
Restoration takes time.
"Circumstances don't make the man, they only reveal him to himself." ― Epictetus

posts: 4177   ·   registered: Aug. 4th, 2016   ·   location: PNW. The adventure continues.
id 8615661
default

Tanner ( Member #72235) posted at 8:53 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

I hope this thread continues on and becomes an R forum tradition.

It challenges me to think of something, even when I’m not in a good place, I can find something to be thankful for.

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 717   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
id 8615670
default

MrCleanSlate ( Member #71893) posted at 9:25 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

Surprisingly, today I am thankful for the doldrums of early winter to be setting in.

Kind of nice to feel tired at 8pm because it is dark and cold and just veg out on the couch and watch a show or movie.

Kind of just slows things down a bit.

WH 52,my BW is 51
1 year PA, D-Day Oct 2015
Admitted all, but there is no 'clean slate'. In R and working it everyday
“To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day

posts: 667   ·   registered: Oct. 21st, 2019   ·   location: Canada
id 8615678
default

ISurvivedSoFar ( Member #56915) posted at 11:54 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2020

I am thankful that I am lucky enough to be celebrating the Festival of Lights (Chanukah) with my (immediate) family tonight. This year's holidays have so much meaning because we cannot be together with our extended family but we can celebrate what we do have together.

I wish everyone peace, love, and joy and of course lots of great latkes!

DDay Nov '16
Me: BS, a.k.a. MommaDom, Him: WS
2 DD's: one adult, one teen,1 DS: adult
Surviving means we promise ourselves we will get to the point where we can receive love and give love again.

posts: 2590   ·   registered: Jan. 15th, 2017
id 8615705
default

ff4152 ( Member #55404) posted at 12:30 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2020

Things that I am thankful for

I am thankful for the good health of myself, my wife and my child.

I am thankful that my marriage continues to evolve and grow stronger.

I am thankful for the friends I’ve made here.

I am thankful that I’m still employed when so many aren’t.

I’m thankful to have a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food in my belly.

Me -FWS

posts: 1856   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2016
id 8615711
default

sundance ( Member #72129) posted at 1:08 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2020

I am thankful for my job, my family, and warm slippers.

Rusty: You scared?
Linus: You suicidal?
Rusty: Only in the morning.

posts: 78   ·   registered: Nov. 21st, 2019   ·   location: USA
id 8615719
default

Underserving ( Member #72259) posted at 1:28 AM on Friday, December 11th, 2020

I am thankful for my beautiful daughters. I am thankful for my pretty Christmas Tree that never fails to make me smile. I’m thankful to be on the other side of my situational depression. I thought it was going to be with me forever, but I’m definitely coming out of it. I’m thankful for the warm weather we got today. I’m thankful dress shopping today was actually fun, and not some daunting task like it used to be. I’m thankful for the confidence in myself I’ve built back up after it was crushed.

This is such a nice thread.

BW (32)
Found out 3 years post end of A
D-day 12-9-19
Meh-ing through R

Infidelity brings out the cuss in me. I’m not as foul mouthed in real life. ;)

posts: 651   ·   registered: Dec. 9th, 2019
id 8615726
default

outofsorts ( Member #70701) posted at 2:48 AM on Saturday, December 12th, 2020

I'm thankful for friends. My job was cut back to half time for six months due to the pandemic and a good friend is paying me to help him with a project in some of my free time. I think the support means more than the money.

And on the evening of the two year anniversary of the day WH slept with a prostitute I'm thankful for SI. It's nice to have a place where I feel understood.

I'm also thankful for sunny mornings - especially in the darkest time of the year.

Me(BW): 40
WH: 40
Married 7 years, together 20.
Dday 2/22/19
Reconciling

posts: 332   ·   registered: Jun. 4th, 2019
id 8616085
default

TwoDozen ( Member #74796) posted at 2:31 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020

I am thankful for the good people at SI for keeping me grounded and focused. For being a listening ear when I need it and a guiding hand when I’m lost.

I am thankful to all you awesome internet strangers who have shared with me your wisdom, experience, knowledge and above all time.

2D

Play stupid games ; Win stupid prizes

posts: 364   ·   registered: Jul. 6th, 2020
id 8617362
default

Tanner ( Member #72235) posted at 1:52 PM on Thursday, February 4th, 2021

Time to dust this off and get some good vibes going. My family has been through a very tough few weeks with a death in the family. Even in the storm, there are things to be grateful for.

I am so thankful for some growth that I’ve gone through recently, letting go of some of the baggage from the A has really helped me take a big step forward in R. I have started letting go of my anger, it is so liberating. The anger was very necessary, for a season, but now it’s a burden.

I’m very thankful for someone I consider a dear friend, this friend has walked me through this part of the journey and helped me get more specific help in certain areas. God bless you friend.

Dday Sept 7 2019 working toward R
BH 54
WW 47
M 30 years, 4 kids 2 grown, twin boys 12 yo 2 grandkids

One day you will tell your story how you overcame what you are going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.

posts: 717   ·   registered: Dec. 5th, 2019   ·   location: Texas DFW
id 8630459
default

GTeamReboot ( Member #72633) posted at 12:44 AM on Friday, February 5th, 2021

I’m grateful for a third session today with a MC that seems like a good fit. We both want our team to win but we need a good coach. I’m due for an overall update. Will do that soon!

Me- BW, 45 (FWH, 47); DDay Oct 2019 - Double Betrayal (x2) during Aug-Sept 2018. Hard at work in R! Whole story in Bio
I tend to make little edits for clarity and typos!

posts: 497   ·   registered: Jan. 21st, 2020
id 8630631
default

ff4152 ( Member #55404) posted at 12:24 AM on Saturday, February 6th, 2021

I realize I’m a day late but here goes.

I’ve been involved in a sport for almost 8 years now and have recently switched locations. Along with that comes new people and a new instructor. They’re all welcoming and friendly and I’m thankful for that.

I’m thankful that my R work continues. My wife and I are getting along great but still having some struggles with my child.

I’m thankful that I’m still employed despite the workload/stress.

I’m thankful to be alive.

Me -FWS

posts: 1856   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2016
id 8630988
default

ff4152 ( Member #55404) posted at 11:02 PM on Thursday, February 11th, 2021

Today I’m thankful that I had no ill effects from the covid vaccine.

Today I’m thankful for myself, wife and child being healthy.

Today I’m thankful to be alive.

Me -FWS

posts: 1856   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2016
id 8632521
Cookies on SurvivingInfidelity.com®

SurvivingInfidelity.com® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

v.1.000.20210918 2002-2021 SurvivingInfidelity.com® All Rights Reserved. • Privacy Policy