hopefullife ( member #71881) posted at 9:49 PM on Saturday, July 23rd, 2022
Whenever I think about what if they fought to keep us, my mind brings me back to that post someone said in this thread a long time ago that while being abandoned hits deeply and differently, in the long run we are way better off than those who are trying or tried to reconcile. It's case to case for each of us, but I see that clearly for myself how that's true. Things are where they're supposed to be. I was spared time of trying to reconcile an irreconcilable marriage.
I'm still affected by the trauma at times, it's not 100% gone but it's rare and I'm doing great. I have never wished them harm but now maybe I can even say I wish them well. I hope the cycle of traumatizing others ends with them, hope their kids become unlike their parents and grow to be loyal and moral individuals.
It takes time and strength, but the farther you go the better it becomes even if it seems impossible to get there. Stay strong, everyone.
10 yrs together. 2 yrs married. No kids.
2 Ddays. H living with OW and their child.
Focusing on self.
DailyGratitude ( member #79494) posted at 2:05 AM on Sunday, July 24th, 2022
Thank you for your post.
I read your story and I am sorry that you had to go through the horrific journey of betrayal and abandonment
The progress you’ve made is incredible. I don’t think I can EVER wish my ex and the AP well…..this two cheating lying dirtbags do not deserve a good life.
I am healing but have serious doubts that I can genuinely be happy one day. However, your post has given me a glimmer of hope.
I hope I can get there one day.
Thanks again for taking the time to write.
Me: BW mid 50’sHim: WH late 50’sMarrried 25 yearsDday: EA 2002 PA 9/2021Divorce 10/2021 (per wh’s request) WH left to be with AP