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BS (me) 55 years; WS 54 years. Divorcing.

I just don’t understand

So I received a massage from my STBXH. He was informing me that I am going to receive a letter from his lawyer.

It is a year ago that he admitted to have fallen in love with somebody else barf .

More then a year has passed and every time he sends me a massage it breaks me. I just don’t understand it.

I just don’t understand what has happened to us. What happened with the love we used to have for each other? What happened to the man I just to know? There was a time we just couldn’t wait to see each other. There was a time we had a lot of fun together. There was a time we loved each other. There was a time we trusted each other.

Were did that love go? I still love him. I still do. What happened with his love? Was he unhappy? Was it me? Was it life?

I just don’t understand. I just don’t.

9 comments posted: Saturday, February 25th, 2023

First contact after 5 months

I just received a message from my STBX after 5 months of no contact. I’m scared. I’m too scared to read it.

5 comments posted: Saturday, January 28th, 2023


Hi SI community, I’m not sure that this is the wright place to post this but don’t you love the new song from Shakira!

4 comments posted: Saturday, January 21st, 2023

Daughter’s birthday

Last week was my daughter’s birthday. She celebrated her birthday with me and my family and with her dad and his family. This is the way we are going to celebrate our birthdays from now on. Not as a family but separated! We always knew everything from each other. Or so I thought……. And now I don’t know nothing! It is very difficult not to reach out. But I won’t!

3 comments posted: Tuesday, November 29th, 2022

Nine months

It is almost nine months ago that I confronted my husband with my suspicions and he admitted having an affaire with a coworker. And I’m sad. So much has happened in these nine months. I kicked him out. He came home. False reconciliation. A time out. And now we are divorcing. Just wanted to share my pain.

4 comments posted: Saturday, November 5th, 2022

Runaway husbands

Has anybody read runaway husbands bij vikky stark? Or followed her program? What are your experiences? Thank you for your comments!

3 comments posted: Friday, October 14th, 2022

Runaway Husbands

Has anybody read the book runaway husbands by vikky stark? Or followed her program? What are you’re experiences? Thank you for your comments!

2 comments posted: Friday, October 14th, 2022


I read somewhere something about the BAGSU method. Can anybody explain what that is?

4 comments posted: Wednesday, September 21st, 2022

He wants to tell the children

Last week my husband told me that he wants a divorce. He wants to be with his AP!
Now he wants to tell the children.
He doesn’t give me any time to adjust to the horrible news!! What can I do?

34 comments posted: Sunday, September 18th, 2022

I’m going to talk to my ww husband

I’m going to talk to my ww husband! I don’t want to be any longer at the fence! But I don’t know what to say to force him of the fence! Do you have advice fo me? Thank you!!

12 comments posted: Tuesday, September 6th, 2022

Should I give up

I don’t know what to do anymore!
My husband is having an affair with a coworker. He is in love with her and she is in love with him…
D day was february 2022. After two months we decided to seperate. I was in a really bad shape because he could not choose between her and me. He has a counselor to help him decide. Once a week we talk on the telephone but he doesn’t tell me anything anout his progress. We are four months separated and I don’t know what to do? Please help me!! What can I do????

25 comments posted: Sunday, August 28th, 2022

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