Newest Member: Ozymandias


BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!

My daughter is afraid

My daughter has met somebody she likes very much. She called me in tears. She is afraid that he will do to her what her father did to me! How can I reasure her? Any thoughts?

3 comments posted: Monday, April 15th, 2024

Divorce final

Thank goodness! It is done. He can't hurt me anymore!!!!!

8 comments posted: Friday, January 26th, 2024

Divorce papers

My husband has signed the divorce papers. I don't feel anything.....

8 comments posted: Thursday, October 19th, 2023

Almost there!

Hello lovely SI people,
The divorce is almost ready! Please send encouraging words!!!!
Thank you for all your support during the most difficult time of my life! Neither of us deserve this!!!

5 comments posted: Tuesday, September 26th, 2023


So my therapist suggested to me to start dating. I told her that I was still maried. She said who cares, he is living with his AP. Well I care.... what do you think, SI? When is the wright time to start dating?

10 comments posted: Monday, August 7th, 2023

I just don’t understand

So I received a massage from my STBXH. He was informing me that I am going to receive a letter from his lawyer.

It is a year ago that he admitted to have fallen in love with somebody else barf .

More then a year has passed and every time he sends me a massage it breaks me. I just don’t understand it.

I just don’t understand what has happened to us. What happened with the love we used to have for each other? What happened to the man I just to know? There was a time we just couldn’t wait to see each other. There was a time we had a lot of fun together. There was a time we loved each other. There was a time we trusted each other.

Were did that love go? I still love him. I still do. What happened with his love? Was he unhappy? Was it me? Was it life?

I just don’t understand. I just don’t.

9 comments posted: Saturday, February 25th, 2023

First contact after 5 months

I just received a message from my STBX after 5 months of no contact. I’m scared. I’m too scared to read it.

5 comments posted: Saturday, January 28th, 2023


Hi SI community, I’m not sure that this is the wright place to post this but don’t you love the new song from Shakira!

4 comments posted: Saturday, January 21st, 2023

Daughter’s birthday

Last week was my daughter’s birthday. She celebrated her birthday with me and my family and with her dad and his family. This is the way we are going to celebrate our birthdays from now on. Not as a family but separated! We always knew everything from each other. Or so I thought……. And now I don’t know nothing! It is very difficult not to reach out. But I won’t!

3 comments posted: Tuesday, November 29th, 2022

Nine months

It is almost nine months ago that I confronted my husband with my suspicions and he admitted having an affaire with a coworker. And I’m sad. So much has happened in these nine months. I kicked him out. He came home. False reconciliation. A time out. And now we are divorcing. Just wanted to share my pain.

4 comments posted: Saturday, November 5th, 2022

Runaway husbands

Has anybody read runaway husbands bij vikky stark? Or followed her program? What are your experiences? Thank you for your comments!

3 comments posted: Friday, October 14th, 2022

Runaway Husbands

Has anybody read the book runaway husbands by vikky stark? Or followed her program? What are you’re experiences? Thank you for your comments!

2 comments posted: Friday, October 14th, 2022


I read somewhere something about the BAGSU method. Can anybody explain what that is?

4 comments posted: Wednesday, September 21st, 2022

He wants to tell the children

Last week my husband told me that he wants a divorce. He wants to be with his AP!
Now he wants to tell the children.
He doesn’t give me any time to adjust to the horrible news!! What can I do?

34 comments posted: Sunday, September 18th, 2022

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