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This process is inherently ruthless, and I can't get squeamish now. I didn't start this fight, but I will finish it. Then I unflinchingly signed those documents.

Hot damn! This is the kind of language I like to see in this situation. I'm sending all kinds of strength and positive vibes your way!

I'm so glad your children are back and safe with you!!

Shock and awe MOJO!!!!!

((((IDE & DDs))))

Bring it! Let's roll!!

We're here for you. We know how stressful and gut wrenching this is for you and you support your kids, we've got your back.

YES! Go get em Mama Bear. I've been reading but not commenting because words utterly escaped me. So glad you are going to do what it takes to protect your girls. I'm so sorry he's put your children through this dangerous shit. Your X makes mine look like a saint. He never messed with the kids, selfish, yes. Dangerous and toxic to the kids, no. Hoping the judge rules for everything you ask for.

Just remember, if you hesitate at any time because of the "ruthless" nature of this type of action, that YOU did not cause it, your CHILDREN did not cause it it's all on your XWHs actions. 100% all on him. He could have made different choices, instead he decided to do what was easy for him, and to hell with the ramifications to the children. (((hugs)))

t/j -

I have just sat here and read this entire thread.

First let me say that I feel so badly that you are in this situation, and at the same time am so thankful that your babies are back home with you.

I certainly have nothing to add to the amazing comfort and guidance and questions and advice that have been given to you by all of these fabulous posters.

I do, however, need to thread Jack for just one second – and say that "fuckwits" is my new favorite word - and fits your ex-husband and his family PERFECTLY!!!

You are my hero, by the way!

I hope you are doing well.

Keep on being strong.

Xh sending his child on a fight w/o her inhaler is inexcusable.

I've followed this thread. I'm so glad your girls are safe with you. You are absolutely doing the right thing. Stay strong!

I just now saw this and caught up....

There are no words.

I_Do_Exist, I'm so glad the girls are back with you and ok.

Right now, I would love nothing more than to take those two numb nuts (your X and the OW), drop them off in the middle of Antarctica in nothing but their skivvies, with no money, no transportation, absolutely nothing else, hand them each a Benadryl, and tell them, "here, take this, and then I'm sure you'll be fine and find your way home alone all right." A$$wipes. No, really, the term "a$$wipes is too good for them, but I'm not sure what is worse than that.

Anytime you even think that you are being harsh or ruthless, just picture your babies when they found out that they were being dropped off alone at the airport yet again, after the nightmare that was the first trip like that. And keep that image in your mind. I have trouble believing you'd have a whit of sympathy left for him at that point.

And yes, assuming your lawyer agrees you can do this, I would say absolutely no more pickups by the sister.

He really is a complete fu@Kw!t. My guess is that no court would say that you both have to agree to the kids flying alone. Likely they would say that as long as he follows all the rules (makes sure someone is there on both ends to drop them off and pick them up, that the airline rules about escorts are followed, that he's responsible about making sure they have everything they need, like medicine, etc.), that he just has to inform you of what the arrangements are. But I do think that most judges are going to go Terminator on his a$$ for doing all this without informing you (and hopefully, for doing it without working with the kids to make sure they weren't scared too, but I don't have as much confidence about that).

I know it sucks that he did this, and you would rather your girls have a responsible, mature, loving father who would never do anything like that to them, but his antics lately may be what gets you full custody. I'll keep praying for you that that's the case, that's for sure.

I've been following this thread for awhile - OMG...what an incredibly selfish ass!!!

I'm betting the sister was not completely clear on the details, but it doesn't matter, no more pick ups by family - ever.

You are doing great and I look forward to your updates. So sorry you are having to go through this. ((Idoexist))

I realize you are probably busy with that nit wit, but I'm thinking about you and I know you have loads of support from everyone here. Hope you are ok.

Hi there, SI crew. Just checking in with an update.

For the last month, I've been focused on preparing loads of documentation for my custody case. I learned today the first hearing is set for February 14. How romantic.

My attorney predicts we'll have a court order within the next week that will allow my children to go back to counseling without xWH's consent or involvement. My children loved counseling and, frankly, they really need it. This is a big win. Yay us.

There are not any big updates beyond that. xWH hasn't put our children on any planes, trains, or automobiles alone -- not since Christmas anyway. But he has continued to be the asshole that he is in a multitude of smaller ways.

On Monday morning of this week, xWH texted me that he is not going to pick up/drop off our children for his visits anymore -- instead, he's going to have his girlfriend do that from now on. Precious.

That same morning, xWH was supposed to get our children ready and off to school -- but he let his girlfriend take care of that too. When my girls told me about it that evening, they both said they were sad that "daddy didn't even get out of bed to say goodbye before we left for school." It was his last chance to see them for the next two weeks, until his next scheduled visitation. I just don't get it, plus, it's just outright stupidity to do these things while you are simultaneously asking for sole custody.

Random side note -- which is kinda funny if it weren't involving my kiddos -- from the sounds of it, OW3 was overwhelmed by the morning routine of getting two little girls up, ready, fed, and off to school. My girls said OW3 was "freaking out." OW3 packed my eight-year-old's lunch and for the sandwich, she put two dry pieces of bread in a Ziploc bag. What? This sounds too strange to be true, especially for an OW3 desperate to prove she's a natural-born mommy to another woman's children, but when I questioned the story, DD8 went to her backpack and brought me the lunchbox. Sure enough, there was a Ziploc bag with two uneaten, dry slices of bread.

One other adorable detail? The lunchbox xWH and OW3 bought & use for my DD8 is a Frozen-themed one that has "Family Forever" emblazoned across the front of it. Oh, the irony.

My mood? Quiet, focused, bad-assed determination. A quiet beast has awoken inside of me and I feel calm, clear-headed, and confident. As I compile the information for my legal paperwork, my confidence strengthens. xWH has dug his own grave and it is deep.

[This message edited by I_Do_Exist at 7:13 AM, February 1st (Wednesday)]

Thank you for the update. I think of you often. Keep pushing for your children.

I hope you took a photograph of that lunch.

Sending you loads of court MOJO. Although you shouldn't need it - FOTY looks like he's digging his own grave.

((((IDE & DDs))))

I'm glad you posted. I was thinking about you earlier this week.

You've got that. He's clearly demonstrating he isn't sole custody worthy. Making such a frivolous claim will absolutely backfire on him

Not that you need any further proof that your WS and his OW#3 are total idiots, it's still nice to have ongoing confirmation.

You are doing amazing and I just wanted to say that your kids are lucky to have you.

Two dry pieces of bread for a packed lunch?

Jeepers, even MY bipolar arsehole could do better than that (not saying much)

Photo, document and record I_D_E

Big hugs to you and your girls, MOB xxx

Thanks for the update!

I've been thinking about you recently

thank you for the update! Hugs to you and your babies. Go get that asshole!

OW3 won't last long. She is probably dawning on the idea that she is being used HARD. I'm quite sure this wasn't the dream life that she had envisioned.

Your ex should be sterile.

Keep up the good fight!