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JellyGirl84 ( member #41717) posted at 6:24 PM on Sunday, April 30th, 2017
I am praying for your strength.
BW, 35
Dday in Nov. '13
Divorced in June '14
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:50 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
I'm checking in on you, hoping you have your children for Moms Day, and you can chill with them for the day.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
selva4you ( new member #57472) posted at 5:11 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
Many times we judge because we believe we are at a higher level, or we do things better. We prefer to overact rather than dialogue. We throw on the other our own shortcomings. Then, the reflection of our child, throws us against the bus of karma. It is sad that a child perceives that she has more attention from a stranger than from his own parents. There is a lot of work to do to fix this. It is preferable to spend energy on this, than to try to continue fighting legally, with someone who no longer cares or has any interest for you.
StillTrying11 ( member #43814) posted at 7:22 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
Pretty sure OW fills your daughter's head with a lot of lies about who is really there for her. The OW is an interloper and shouldn't be in her life at all. Keep fighting for the safety of your girls. They deserve better that these two insecure idiots are giving them. Thank God they have you to truly love them above all else. Your XWH and the OW will teach them how NOT to be a good parent.
37 years old
6 kids
Married: 2000
Ddays: 2/10/12, 4/10/12, 6/10/12
Done Day: June 6th, 2016
Ducks finally in a row for D: 9/6/19
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 7:46 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
Selva - you need to spend some time researching a members past threads before you criticize their choices. Legal interaction is absolutely necessary as the children have been put in real physical danger. This is not about a child's perceptions and dialogue has not worked in IDE's situation. If you don't have the time to read an entire thread and past threads - then reserve your comments until you do.
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 8:30 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
I do exist wishing you a Happy Mother's Day!
Doesitstop11 ( member #49432) posted at 11:33 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
Considering this is the only post that Selva has made, my BS antenna is going off. I wonder if IDE STBEXH has found her on SI. Seems like pretty harsh words.
ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 11:48 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
Doesitstop, I wondered the SAME thing!
Ide, does the ex know about this site? I sure hope not, but.....
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
Doesitstop11 ( member #49432) posted at 11:56 PM on Saturday, May 13th, 2017
It has to be him or the OW, or OW stalkerish sister. IDE we are praying for you and your girls ((()))
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 1:48 AM on Sunday, May 14th, 2017
I don't think it's anyone from IDE's real life...just an insensitive comment and I suspect English is not the native language...
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
badd ( member #23468) posted at 5:25 PM on Sunday, May 14th, 2017
IDE, your daughter made and offhand comment to you that, yes was insensitive, but also shows she has no concerns about OW being a threat to you. My little one spends many hours sometimes more than me with other people, but there is never any question who is the Mom and who loves and cares for my little. my little does not see teacher, Nana or anyone else as Mom, no matter how long is spent with them. My little does spend more after school hours at after care than me. Your daughter might as well have said she spent more time with a sitter-and incidentally, pretty much did. Try to see that. If she felt it was a threat to your relationship, she would not have felt comfortable discussing it with you. I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day.
I_Do_Exist (original poster member #24196) posted at 3:03 AM on Monday, May 15th, 2017
Hi all -- My instincts tell me the same thing about selva4you. Thanks for having my back. I'm going dark on SI for now. Please keep sending me good vibes. I'll be available via PM and I'll see if the mods can help me come up with an alternative so I can somehow keep my privacy and my SI tribe. This is unbelievable.
[This message edited by I_Do_Exist at 11:42 PM, May 14th (Sunday)]
Me: BW 46 determined & healing
Him: xWH 48 bipolar & NPD
Ours: 20-year marriage and 2 beautiful school-age daughters
2007-2013: 2 d-days; 2 secretaries in their 20s; 2 attempts at R
2015: D-day 3 w/secretary 3; game over; divorce final Oct 2015
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