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So, I wrote another post about xWH bringing my girls to Maui with OW3 -- duplicating our annual family vacation for the last 12 years.

I went to the airport to get them this morning and, while I was waiting in my car, my 12-year-old and 8-year-old call. They are both in tears, asking where I am.

It took me a few minutes to decipher what was happening, but here's the deal: xWH put them on a red-eye out of Maui at midnight on Thanksgiving night without telling me. I knew when their flight arrived, but he neglected to mention that he sent them home alone. So I ran into the airport, had to get a temporary security pass, go through security, and run to my girls at the gate -- who had been waiting with their flight chaperone for 45 minutes.

I had no idea.

My girls said they had no idea either until Thanksgiving morning when xWH and OW3 told them they would be flying home alone. Those irresponsible assholes told my girls they didn't tell them sooner because "they didn't want them to stress about it for the whole vacation." My 12-year-old said my 8-year-old cried for over an hour and asked xWH to "Call mommy and tell her so she can fly here and then fly home with us."

xWH didn't tell me anything.

They are both soul-less liars. I know I should not be surprised, but for the love of all that is holy -- getting two little girls all the way across the ocean and then springing on them at the last minute that the only way home is for them to get on a plane alone in the middle of the night so xWH and OW3 can continue their vacation without kids . . . ?

I hate him. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him.

[This message edited by I_Do_Exist at 12:31 PM, November 25th (Friday)]

Omg what an utter POS.

Hugs to you and your girls.

This is just awful and traumatizing to the kids especially because they did not know until the last minute and in the middle of the night.

I hope there is a special place in hell just waiting for him and his OW. I am so sorry.

I'm almost completely speechless. Besides raging thoughts of doing some voodoo on them, I'd recommend you secure as much documentation as possible about this horrible incident and go see your lawyer asap. His visitation rights/the custody agreement need to be amended because of such behaviour.

Also, this latest incident is another thing that would require addressing in therapy for the kids.

I really am utterly shocked! How on Earth?! WTF?! I don't get it. I really don't get it. I mean, it's so outside any approximately rational behaviour that I'm struggling to comprehend... Fucking scary that he gets to see them unsupervised when he obviously doesn't seem to care for their wellbeing and safety...

Best wishes!

[This message edited by HobbesTheTiger at 1:22 PM, November 25th (Friday)]

I'm speechless.

&$@:/(?!:&@@!!!!!!!!

OMG. That's one of the most horrible things I've ever heard. Those poor girls. I'm so, so sorry. Wow. I hate him, too.

I think I'd check CS on this. Worth a shot

Wow, that's just.... WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT???

I hope you can nail his balls to the wall for this one. Un. Fucking. Believable.

Holy crap! Don't the airlines have policies in place regarding safekeeping of children? He would have had to give them a name for responsibility of care once the flight landed. What arrangements did he make with them?

I cannot believe the airlines allowed that. (Without a contact number for the adult in the landing side of the trip, I mean.)

This is so many kinds of wrong I just can't even begin to imagine how I'd handle it, but a message to my lawyer would be first on my list. What a fucking Dooosh he is!

Is this the same other woman who gave your children prescription medication, and your ex lied and denied it? Or do I have you confused with someone else?

His not telling them, had nothing to do with stressing them out. He didn't tell them until the last minute, because he didn't want them to tell you. He wanted you to be upset. This is all a game to him. And he's using your children. If I am correct....and this is the same other woman who gave them the prescription medication, you were encouraged then to go forward and report them, and you chose not to, because you didn't want to rock the boat. I think it's time you start rocking that damn boat. This is going to continue, and it's just going to get worse. He knew you would not be waiting to pick them up. He knew they would be alone, and scared. He planned that. Your ex-husband is a monster. I can't imagine the fear that they were going through, when they got there and you weren't there. What a piece of fucking shit he is.

That is absolutely appalling.

What. The. FUCK!!!!!!!!

Please please PLEASE put in a call to your lawyer NOW, get emergency orders if possible, do WHATEVER it takes to keep this dangerous fucking lunatic ASSWIPE AWAY from your children.

Cuz the only thing that's important to him is his dick.

I'm stabbing a voodoo doll of him right now. And sending a crate of pineapples to stick up his ass.

This is absolutely unbelievable - UNTHINKABLE even. Oh my god.

Call Child Protective Services and report this. Then call your lawyer and see what you can to do restrict visitation. At the very least he could have called you to meet the plane instead of leaving your kids alone at an airport (don't care if there was an airline employee with them). What a horrible excuse for a human. So glad you are rid of him. I am so sorry for your kids. No one deserves that kind of treatment, especially from a parent.

That is just wrong on so many levels!

Good advise already given, lawyer and raise absolute hell with him...screw up his hawaiian getaway, he deserves to feel the same kind of anxiety he brought into the kids lives.

For fuck's sake what a fucking asshole!!!!! Oh my goodness, I am in a rage for you and your girls just reading this. I would file for full custody! He obviously can't be trusted to make any sound decisions on behalf of the children. He's a total selfish, horny, fucking stupid asshat with an even stupider asshat as his sidekick who should never be allowed around your children again.

My god, this is so egregious! I'm sorry you had to deal with this but thank god you're their mother.

Simply unbelievable and so wrong. Their own father does this to them ? ! Just goes to show how far cheaters go in their fall down the rabbit hole; they lose all good sense. He did this to his own children. Simply unbelievable. See your lawyer. Put a stop to two little girls having to deal with their father's crazy. ((((( )))))

I can believe this. Something similar happened in my situation.

I know you will handle this in the best way possible. You are a warrior.

I hope this is the event that changes everything for the better for you and the kids.

((Hugs))