MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 5:11 PM on Monday, August 29th, 2016
Love you soooooo much DS - and I HATE that you're in pain. Big hugs and lots of strength to you & MH. You both are amazing.
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
Lucky2HaveMe ( member #13333) posted at 8:11 PM on Monday, August 29th, 2016
Well that sucks! 
Yet through it all you are keeping your sense of humor and your selflessness at the forefront.
No one that has to battle this crap is ever considered a wimp. Remember that! The worst thing most of us deal with on a daily basis is a hang nail - and even then there are those that just can't possibly get to work with one! 
I hope MH has some IRL support. Cyber support is great, but you both need those people that you can hug in person.
Prayers continue for both of you. Stay positive as much as you can! You have a whole world of peeps rooting for you! 
Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.
Kodi ( member #16237) posted at 11:35 PM on Monday, August 29th, 2016
So sorry DS
Hugs to you and MH!!!
annanew ( member #43693) posted at 12:08 AM on Tuesday, August 30th, 2016
I am wishing you the best xmas ever... make it magical.... I think that's a great goal and something to look forward to. My thoughts are with you!
[This message edited by annanew at 6:09 PM, August 29th (Monday)]
Single mom to a sweet girl.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:35 AM on Tuesday, August 30th, 2016
Sending you and MH huge hugs and love.
Bald? Like me? So, you got a nice smooth head, smooth body, smoothy smoothy! Make the best of it. 
I'm pretty fond of fuzzy hats of all persuasions with the possible exception of wooly. But I love cotton knit or crochet, and fuzzy fleece. I have a couple bucket hats I can live in 24/7, so comfy.
If you decide you want a wig to help you when the mirror is annoying, PM me and I can offer some tips. The good ones aren't cheap but they can help if you need the boost.
AK47 this shit, sending you much healing mojo!
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:48 AM on Tuesday, August 30th, 2016
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
trying to smile ( member #9683) posted at 10:28 AM on Tuesday, August 30th, 2016
Sending more Aussie mojo across to the miles to both of you 
I am fully expecting you to AK47 this shit because when you do, I'm going to do my very best to attend a g2g at your place. I'll start saving now. 
tts
Good Women.
May we know them,
May we be them,
May we raise them.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"so when he finally showed his true colours they proved to be a startling shade of turd".
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:12 PM on Wednesday, August 31st, 2016
You and MH continue to be in MrsYop and my thoughts. Continued positive mojo your way. Keep fighting!!!
#ak47thisshit
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 10:08 AM on Friday, September 2nd, 2016
Thinking of you, dear DS. Lots of love X
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 4:38 AM on Saturday, September 3rd, 2016
Just checking in to see how you're feeling! Still in my prayers lady.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
purplebreeze ( member #31611) posted at 7:05 PM on Saturday, September 3rd, 2016
plainsong ( member #37826) posted at 5:25 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2016
Dear DS - I don't check in too often, so this is a response to something from earlier. GROANS ARE GOOD! They are a gift from God/Life/our bodies to help us relieve pain. They loosen our muscles and deepen our breathing. The same applies to crying, for similar reasons.
So letting yourself groan/cry is USING YOUR POWER TO HELP YOURSELF HEAL. It is not being a wimp, but being a strong, wise person deciding to do what will benefit you.
On the other side, I second what tushnurse said about the possibility of temporary depression. When the body undergoes a trauma, which is how it sees an operation or an invasive treatment, it wants us to curl up in a safe place and recover, and it may use depression to force us to slow down and do that. In any case, it is a bodily reaction that will eventually taper off (it may take some months), not a change in who you are.
Sending love and encouragement to you and MH. I hope you BOTH (that means you, MH) keep in touch with what you need and seek the support that will help you.
Me, fWW
Him, fBH (sisoon)
Dday, 12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 5:39 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2016
Sending love and healing thoughts across the miles. I agree with Plainsong's post. Excessive pain isn't good, but some pain let's us know we are alive and our bodies react accordingly. I hope yours goes to a more tolerable level -- or, even better, just goes!
Whenever I think of you, I envision a crowd of people (50,000+!) standing with you as you have treatments or tests, then 50,000+ pairs of arms lifting you to the light and all those thoughts and hearts with you both. You are a special couple to so many!
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
timetraveler ( new member #40714) posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, September 10th, 2016
Hoping there are relaxing and enjoyable moments this weekend for both of you.
Try Alpaca wool if you need warmth, it's toasty and not itchy at all.
Prayers, Peace and Light headed your way.
BW-49
WH-52
M-27, 2 great kids 20's
DD#1 1/10
DD#2 8/13, same COW
When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard & steep. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Kahlil Gibran
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, September 13th, 2016
As far as changes in appearance go, I would like to offer up something very wise that my new(ish) husband says
Your body is only the wrapper for your soul.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:22 AM on Thursday, September 15th, 2016
Haven't been around much but just wanted to send some love and good vibes. Been thinking about you lately.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 4:28 PM on Saturday, September 17th, 2016
Letting you know that you are both still very much in my thoughts. Continued positive mojo your way.
#ak47thisshit!!!
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 5:37 PM on Saturday, September 17th, 2016
More huge hugs!!!
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 3:30 AM on Sunday, September 18th, 2016
Hey DS, sending you and MH love and strength again toward soldiering through all this. It's a marathon for sure. You both are tough, though; cancer is up against formidable opponents. This too shall pass.
((((DS)))) & ((((MH))))
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:01 PM on Sunday, September 18th, 2016
Keeping you in my prayers.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
