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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 5:40 AM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022

Stress is an energy eater. I remember feeling tired most of my limbo.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 3:06 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022

Yesterday I wasn't as exhausted as I am today. I also have one hell of a headache.

I'm supposed to go move the clean fill that was dropped off with the tractor today but I'm not sure I'll get to it. I can't go lay down because dd's meds are being delivered sometime today.

Wh text me that the coffee maker overflowed his cup (Tassimo) and that he believed he cleaned it all up but if not he was sorry. I told him I cleaned up the spilt sugar and didnt see any split coffee so it was fine.

He complained about how he feels everyone here (me,kids) treat him like an outcast and he can't even talk about anything but kids and house to me.

Poor baby. Geez. Yesterday he tried messaging me things like I hope you slept and I said I didn't want to talk to him. His gf wasn't at work so yeah, he decided to chat with me. I shut thst doen. Guess she's not at work again today if he wants to chat again. Grrrr.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 3:14 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022

he can't even talk about anything but kids and house to me.

Well, he can't. That's what happens when you continuously cheat and abuse your wife,and she decides she's divorcing you.

Poor muffin. laugh

I hope today is a good one,Dragn.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 4:29 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022

Oh my mind is totally screwed.

Put out the money for my carrot guy only to find the money still there and no carrots. I called him and he says oh no dear thats tomorrow...lol

I habe the front gate closed because of wandering goats, not that it couks really stop them from getting out on thr road if they wanted to...but it means I have to sit and watch for the FedEx truck. Or go open the gate and then goat sit...

Neither option is good cause I'm out of advil and Tylenol isn't helping this headache.

I have one load if laundry to wash then comes the task of sorting what's good and what's to small that will get donated. Even thinking about that makes me tired.

Some days I feel motivated to do things. Other days I want to lay in bed.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 4:59 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022

He complained about how he feels everyone here (me,kids) treat him like an outcast and he can't even talk about anything but kids and house to me.

duh rolleyes

Call him a whaaaa-bulance!

Jesus H Christ; he really doesn't get it, does he? I thought after all this time of you 180ing his ass, he'd back off.

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 4:25 AM on Sunday, May 15th, 2022

As soon as he gets back talking to you he'll start arguments again. He wants attention and stimulation. Can't stand not being in control. He'll get moody and stomp around until that won't work...try everything that he did in the past.

Headaches are the worst. Keep up the fluids and reduce caffeine and sodium. Sugar in moderation. Ah dragn, I'm so proud of you. Happier days ahead. Less headaches, less stress and aggravation.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:47 PM on Monday, May 16th, 2022

Hey Dragn, how are you doing?

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 2:55 PM on Monday, May 16th, 2022

Hi,

Oh man I am hurting today. So in General I posted about the emotional roller coaster plus self care.

I went for what was supposed to be a 40 minute walk total which turned into 3 hours 10km later. My feet are so sore!

Emotionally I'm just drained. Still on the roller coaster. All weekend I couldn't help but see red any time I was near wh.

Wh didn't know about my walk until I text dd that I was going to be longer than I originally told her. He then called me very upset. He didn't even notice I had left. Had been to busy playing a PS4 game all weekend to notice anything! He wanted to come pick me up but I told him the whole point was to get away from him. He just said to be careful. (As if he really cares...)

I'm happy to have a quiet house today.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 3:34 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

I really hate when a wayward tells a bs that it's thr bs's fault thr family is being blown up because they want to divorce!

Fuck! If wh kept his dick in his pants I wouldn't want to divorce. Duh!

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 4:02 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

Man, if that isn't the truth! ex-asshat used to blame me all the time. Like... really?

How long do you have to do IHS, Dragn?

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 4:20 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

How long do you have to do IHS, Dragn?

Feels like forever.

Dd asked us to keep the peace until after her graduation. She told me of we split now she's worried her dad would bring AP to the graduation and ruin everything.

So I have a month left to wait before I do what I want to do. There's more to it but he can read here so I'm keeping it to myself.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 8:04 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

I really hate when a wayward tells a bs that it's thr bs's fault thr family is being blown up because they want to divorce!

He can go suck it!

Dd asked us to keep the peace until after her graduation. She told me of we split now she's worried her dad would bring AP to the graduation and ruin everything.

Wow. If your DD thinks that her father would sink so low as to bring that skank to her graduation, goes to show you how much she trusts and respects him. All his doing. mad

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 8:15 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

Dd said also said "that bitch will never be my step mom".

Had to cut her some slack on saying bitch lol.

Kids have very strong feelings but won't say anything to wh because they are afraid of making him mad.

So they vent to me.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 8:33 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

Kids have very strong feelings but won't say anything to wh because they are afraid of making him mad.


Yeah, that's a great life - walking on eggshells around dear ol dad. mad

So they vent to me.


That's good. They trust you.

Yeah, I'd let the "bitch" thing slide too. wink

Me-56 FWH-58 Married 38 years 9/2/2021 grown daughters-38&34 12yo GS,9yo GD & 7yo.GD (DD38) and 10yo GD & 5yo GD(DD34). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 9:36 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

When your kid says something concerning yet turns their head and smiles is it more for dramatic effect or is it something to really be worried about?

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:47 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

I really hate when a wayward tells a bs that it's thr bs's fault thr family is being blown up because they want to divorce!

Yup dealing with the same thing myself, my ex just reached out to tell me that he finally thinks I'm a bitch and that all the problems the kids are having is my fault because I decided to leave mad they infuriate me. Grrrrrrr


When your kid says something concerning yet turns their head and smiles is it more for dramatic effect or is it something to really be worried about?

Hmmm if it is concerning maybe be worried about it. I would probably ask about it.

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 9:49 PM, Wednesday, May 18th]

fBS/fWS(me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 25 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 10:02 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

Hmmm if it is concerning maybe be worried about it. I would probably ask about it.

Our home internet went out after a storm. I suspect the wire coming from the box outside. I'll call tech support tomorrow. One day without and Big D has turned into Mr. GRUMPY PANTS!

He was off today when he got home so I asked what was going on with him and he said he doesn't want to exist...I had to pry over and over to get him to talk to me.

Said if you want to die you just use a knife.

Now each time he's talking he kept looking away and smiling.

He made his dinner with me. Ate all of it.

He seems perfectly fine right now! Peeled an orange and is trying to squeeze the juice into a cup....and is laughing his head off as it squirts everywhere. House smells like oranges. And now explaining the life of an orange plant from "birth to death".

I wonder since there's no parental controls on wh old phone that big d is using if he's watching stuff he shouldn't. Usually it's all mine craft stuff.

A few days with no internet is probably a good thing amd more time with mom.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:36 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2022

I think more questions need to be asked. Here's the ASQ Suicide Risk screening tool:

1- In the past few weeks, have you wished you were dead?
2- In the past few weeks, have you felt that you or your family would be better off if you were dead?
3- In the past week, have you been having thoughts about killing yourself?
4- Have you ever tried to kill yourself? If yes, ask how? when?

If yes to any above, 5- Are you having thoughts of killing yourself right now?

If Big D says no to all of the above, no intervention is necessary. but I'd still be on the lookout for signs/comments. If he answers yes to any, there's a potential risk. sad

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 2:46 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2022

I think more questions need to be asked. Here's the ASQ Suicide Risk screening tool:

1- In the past few weeks, have you wished you were dead?
2- In the past few weeks, have you felt that you or your family would be better off if you were dead?
3- In the past week, have you been having thoughts about killing yourself?
4- Have you ever tried to kill yourself? If yes, ask how? when?

If yes to any above, 5- Are you having thoughts of killing yourself right now?

If Big D says no to all of the above, no intervention is necessary. but I'd still be on the lookout for signs/comments. If he answers yes to any, there's a potential risk

Thabk you for this. I will ask him when he gets home from school.

I was up early in the kitchen having a coffee and trying to clear my head agter reading a not so nice email from wh. Big D came out, ran to give me a big hug, made his breakfast, his lunch then got dressed.

He was a non stop chatter box and in good spirits.

Kids all need IC. I see mine today so I'll ask her resources.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)
Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 3:10 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2022

Kids have very strong feelings but won't say anything to wh because they are afraid of making him mad.

So they vent to me.


Congratulations you're the safe and stable parent (no surprise there right?), so you'll get to endure the majority of their angst and frustrations.

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