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Fuck fuckity fucking fuck.

This week sucks. I've been reading along with you ladies, so I've kept up, but haven't had time to reply because, well, work sucks. Pulling all nighters sucks. Finally getting to stop working but coming home to an empty house sucks. Missing my partner/friend sucks. Sleeping alone sucks.

I feel like a zombie... a zombie who randomly starts crying at the dumbest triggers. I'm hoping a few hours of sleep will un-zombify me.

Thank you all for being you!

Fuck fuckity fucking fuck.

Clogged toilet.

No plunger to be found.

Fuck fuckity fucking fuck.

Comes in threes. Who is it next?

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 5:27 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]

Fuck fuckity fucking fuck.

I have a mouse somewhere in my kitchen. A smart mouse. I have 4 fucking cats and not one of them has gotten it. I have set every type of trap known to modern man. This fucker doesn't snap it. I'm being mocked by a mouse. Maybe instead of peanut butter and cheese in the trap I'll use a fucking donut. Poison that fucker with stale moldy dount crumbs. Because that's what happens when you eat a donut. You die a slow and painful death. Fucking mouse is probably cheating on it's wife in my drawers! [OMG - didn't mean it that way but it will stand because FUCK that's funny]

Stay tuned. Chaos vs Mouse. Place your bets!

Today I'm holding my breath. Tomorrow is Friday the 13th AND a Full Moon. I'm afraid. Very afraid...

TG, I meant to comment on your CH, bit forgot. So much to keep up with. That really sucks that he gives you all the shit and keeps the good to himself. What is that about?

Daisy, good for you taking care of yourself!

GMC, you can definitely do the bbq. Maybe your CH is embarrassed or ashamed? Idk if I'd want to continually face the virtual strangers who saved me from my suicide attempt. Actual, that's not true. I know I would not want to.

I searched for some info about healthy helpfulness vs. CoD online. Couldn't find anything specifically about that, but did find stuff about dependence/interdependence vs. CoD. I sent some links to my fch. There was one interesting one about the difference between caretaking and caregiving. The author equating caretaking with CoD while caregiving was healthy.

One of the big things for me was the idea of caregiving freely, without expectations. My fch has a hard time with that. His caring is conditional. That especially upsets me when I see him do it with our boys. He acts like a child. "I'll only help you if you help me." Then, wonders why they are always trying to negotiate with him.

Idk if my fch was trying to make up for the toilet, but he stayed up late last night to make sure my car was running. I offered to do it because he has to get up way earlier than I do, but he wanted to do it.

Ugh, Chaos. I hate mice! I've had them before and they are the biggest pain and if you don't get them all, they multiply and then you need to get professional help. I do like your donut idea, though.

Daisy: Good for you on Lasik! I had my eyeliner tattooed on about 6 months after dday. Something I'd wanted to do for YEARS and I just did it. Not one regret. Doing that stuff for ourselves is important.

Great ideas on the Lasik and eyeliner, Daisy and gmc. I'm really considering some orthodontic work my dentist has been after me to have for years now. Now that I'm on this real self-care kick, I might actually do it.

Hawke - I'm going to try the donuts and I swear if they work you will all hear me cackle from all 4 corners of the globe.

Maybe that's why the cats won't even touch the damn thing. They know it's a DW type mouse - POISON.

GMC - be gentle with yourself.

To all of us - a Pre Friday 13th FUCKING toast

I'm new to this thread but in the few minutes I have been here You all have managed to make me smile which is a hard feat at this point. Thank you.

((heartbroken83))

Great ideas on the Lasik and eyeliner, Daisy and gmc. I'm really considering some orthodontic work my dentist has been after me to have for years now. Now that I'm on this real self-care kick, I might actually

Do it! It really feels so good to know I am doing something for myself. It’s also giving me something else to focus on and look forward to.

Heartbroken83, I felt the same way. ((Hugs))

(((HB83))))

Ok the fucking universe can just fuck RIGHT off today. At this work conference right? The last session of the day is wedding themed (I have no idea why cus makes no gd sense) and the guy playing the 'groom'... Same name as my exH. Wtf wtf WTAF universe?? I am not sure whether to laugh or cry.... So chose to laugh in a sarcastic manner. Smh.

Happy 13th eve toast!

I saw this recently -

"I've been to a lot of places, but I've never been in Cahoots. Apparently you can't go alone, you have to be in Cahoots with someone. I've also never been in Cognito, either. I hear no one recognizes you there. I have, however, been in Sane. They don't have an airport, you have to be driven there. I have made several trips."

Chaos

Edited to actually add a message.

Important fact. A single mouse poops up to 75 times a day. Each poop is 1/4 of an inch long. That is 525 poops a week for one tiny mouse. I have only one suggestion. Wear boots.

Lol. Haha. I peed a little. A very long time ago I lived in a house that was infested with mice. So I know my facts.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 6:29 PM, September 12th (Thursday)]

HHADL.

Sorry to hear that you are so exhausted. I am often very much a zombie as well. Rest and Sleep will give you a new perspective. If I knew how often zombies but I would tell you.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 6:38 PM, September 12th (Thursday)]

GMC If you want to have a barbecue, go ahead do what you want and what feels good. Have fun.

Ellie the universe sometimes is an asshole. Sorry that happened. You are not alone, I will be at a family wedding next weekend. And I can’t miss it but I can certainly drink I know I will be peppered with questions.

Welcome heartbroken! To our crazy corner.

Had two glasses of nice Chianti to night. Ready for bed.

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 7:18 PM, September 12th (Thursday)]

Neat post detour.

Bitch boots for mouse poots!!

Forgive me for not remembering everyone’s names yet, but I’m pretty new to this thread.

My favorite fuck word is fucktard. Works great in most all situations. An example:

What kind of fucktard does a wedding theme thingy at a fucking work conference and how dare those fucktards trigger you like that?

ALL rodents are fucktards for invading our spaces. I am dealing with a woodchuck in my yard. My Husky killed the partner, but the other one even climbed a tree to to avoid his day of reckoning! I say his, because it MUST be a man, as it refuses to face what is coming to him, the little fucker.

I am so very happy to hear, though, that (your name escapes me) your husband iis still alive. Hugs, as my wh got close, but not that close. Perhaps a “I am so grateful you are still here” day?

Oh! AP is called Tits Maghee, the little skank!

I am so loving this thread! Cheers!

Just saying Hi. Working...another all nighter

The universe can most definitely fuck off today! A friend who had a lung transplant is un the hospital. Her body seems to be at least partially rejecting the lung.

I am sorry Coco

Hoping for the best for your friend.

Hugs